You are not a RMB, cannot let everybody like you. Life work cannot leave to mix person contact with, meet the person that encounters oneself not to like, do not like oneself person. Those everybody are imprudent the disposition that actuation, acrid language criticizes us, oppugn our motive, say some of word in Yun Li mist to let a person guess, say those who go still thinking oneself are right what is inexorable the sort of.
Foregoing I feel other people is good draw out a heart to draw out lung, should say ought not to say say; Be fed up with a person, pay no attention to him, evil vital energy of talking evil sound. Behave very strongly apparent, a pair " dare love to dare be hated " manner. Husband always says me: You were brought up, such is no good, offend a person too easily, be used easily also. Ate as expected a lot of deficient, the job also has been plotted against. A few gregarious experience also were accumulated in bumpy.
Encounter the person that does not like actually, need not anxious delimit is restricted, say to forbid when to work together together, be an upright person leave a gleam of, in the future good meet. But absolutely not much compromise out of consideration for the general interest, pretend painstakingly, the bottom line cannot be defeated, but work the method should change.
Common grasp mostly hold " one should care his own business " this each method
1, besides the job perhaps must want this to work, other and uniform do not talk
2, maintain a distance, when not was necessary to communicate, do not communicate, not was necessary not to produce interest be mixed
3, let him / she knows clearly, he does not make me I do not make him, maintain each other respect and dread
This method canal is used, but cannot from solve a problem at all. You are thinking, those always let you be perturbed, those who eat lunch to avoid not as good as the person's existence is manage place ought to, you should learn to like each person that you encounter.
You need to realize a thing: Your disgust to others, often result from there also is such drawback on your body. In other words, you did not accept yourself truly.
Besides a few particularly bad character, what I think everybody is faced is common person, not be extremely vicious an infamous robber for certain, when the trouble that encounters him accurate so, multi-purpose this word asks him. To me character, eye of give up the idea forever is the character with my inherent itself, but I instead more those who be fed up with eye of give up the idea forever. Encounter so when letting my accurate, I have to think: Myself such, I get angry at this o'clock for others why. Actually this had been not overcome completely, but every time I think so, can come out me from the heart lira of accurate, adjust quickly next communicated for regular pattern and others.
Check oneself anticipation
We often have unrealistic hope to other, we expect they are in what do below some kind of circumstance to perhaps say as us, but this is not actual.
The government of Stanford university teachs AlanA.Cavaiola scientificly, phD points out: "The individual character characteristic with inherent everybody decided how they make response greatly, expectation others and your response is same, await you can be disappointment and dismay only " .
If a person always is to let you have same feeling, that adjusts your anticipation appropriately. Such you are OK from mentally ready-made, won't surprised to their act again. Clever person always is done so, the thing that they won't do to aversion unexpected.
Turn and inward, pay close attention to oneself
No matter how you try, total meeting somebody your rile. Face offend angry when your person, study processing dismay is crucial. Want why you can have such reaction, is not to think this individual has many bored. Sometimes the local solicit comments that we hate another person is our dissatisfactory to oneself place. They are not worried maker, just drove its generation.
Look for those who follow him mood change to spark dot, next you can be forecasted, the reaction way that bate changes you even. Remember: The view that changes you, manner and behavior are far the person of more different than asking other becomes type is gotten simply much.
Stop, deep breathing
Kathleen Bartle (California conflict is advisory) say, some people always let your agitatedly, it is a colleague that often misses deadline probably, it is a guy that tells mean joke probably. Looking is what makes you angry, it is who pressed that button, such you can erupt again to when be your being met ready-made.
She still points out: "If you pause, control your adrenalin pump, the sensible part of the cerebra that start, you can jump over an evaluation better, have a conversation " . Deep breathing, regressive one pace still can help you come down calmly, make sure you won't overreact, allow the thing after you are treated with opener thinking and state of mind.
In the heart get rid of the impressional get rid of to person accurate, face the person that lets your accurate with empty cup heart.
I believe a thing: The person works or talk, no matter he thinks how conceal, he can have give the show away to show inner hour for certain, and I also can be aware of. Also be same to others. If you are considering this person in the heart how how bad, you are talking or handle affairs on, affirmative meeting lets others know you of this psychology. So, basic measure is: The root is pressed not to think in the heart, if with respect to attention he says, if he wants to be communicated with you, communicate, if he lets you help, you feel is the thing that stretch one's hand, helped irrespective also. Let others feel your enthusiastic one side, have profit only to oneself.
Ask an attention: Letting others feel enthusiasm and he is enthusiastic is two concepts. The attention tries to distinguish!
Finally, land of do one's best increases him. No matter be an upright person, breadth of mind, state, still be professional quality, do not limit oneself development, the growing rate that yields oneself grinds the person that presses those to let your accurate, when you are enough grind press or be over explode he, can you still be fed up with him? I think won't, can let you feel only so very bright, or it is gentle. Because right now no matter he how, won't cause any harm to you, you also need not be fed up with him or be how, it is not better to waiting for his genuflect to lick you? So, at this o'clock I consider as the basiccest measure! Finally still is a word: 30 years of rivers east, 30 years of rivers on the west.
Life is long-distance journey, say to forbid to be able to encounter what trouble, it is OK to do not like him, but do not give complexion him look. It is OK to do not want to be close to him, but not be before others rebuke his defect, make assault and battery to him. Retain respect, this should be the quality that a mankind should have, the person that does not let do not like affected your good intention affection and moral quality.
