Accompany China to step the cavalcade of the aged society quickly, end to already was as high as 250 million to old person of the China end 2018, problem of provide for the aged is the focus of instantly not only, also be the key problem that we pay close attention to after a few years. Because regard treasure Mom treasure as the person of pa now, after arriving 40 years, also be 779 years old mostly, the time that needs issue of program provide for the aged just about.
Whether enjoy easy and comfortable old age time, go up besides support government policy outside giving aid to, still need to count the sound program when oneself are young, how to plan oneself old age lives, we might as well a few kinds of old people in looking to be in predicament of provide for the aged at present first. Show according to data of a survey, the old person that cannot get on problem of provide for the aged appropriate finds a place for now, it is these a few kinds of circumstances in the main:
1, look after children prejudicial
When some domestic strip child, cannot handle the child fairly " dispute " , wait for them big still be meeting deflection a certain children, the consequence that such doing often is, because the child that is very fond of is long accept this to plant need not of redound favorite, become capricious and selfish, big also won't feel distressed old person. And the child that is despised, because cannot get parental care for long, be brought up to often choose to be far from parents, or even if is beside, the relation is chiller also, the possibility that relies on these child provide for the aged is less.
2, young when did not make very senile program
Some people arrive old discovery, oneself took care all one's life, also did not do for oneself make a plan, put annuities beforehand for instance, buy danger of provide for the aged to wait ahead of schedule. Wait old on the is pressed happily in the child shoulder that can live old age only. And filial family is current and general it is 2 child, live pressure is original not small, adding even the old person that oneself make offerings to with all one's strength, so a lot of children feel ability not equal to one's ambition. The get into trouble of provide for the aged that meets olden person so, children does not have money, do not have time, oneself did not plan, do not have deposit, can answer senile crisis only with illegible life.
3, create pressure to the child blindly
Children of some parental for fear that became big without giving thought to oneself, undertake to the child all the day then " morality kidnaps " , for instance some parents all the day will " if you are not filial, I can be fond of you in vain " " your pa Mom is not easy, if you are bad good redound them, heaven and earth nots allow ah " the nerve that hour of this kind of speech stimulates the child, let the child be in very small when smooth increased a burden. Look in the child, oneself are the weight used on a balance that parental future assures, it is good to because this oneself should be brought up only,can be in charge of them. Because this is on affection, the child is not willing to have overmuch communication with parents, between the child after be brought up and parents more very won't affectionate.
? Although " raise prevent old " feudal thought already outdated, but the parent that serves as new era, will come to avoid old when be immersed in awkwardness, need to notice means method more when rearing the child now so, when cannot saying to breed " dutiful son " , but the person that should rear the child into happy joy, goodness to know love at least. The following principles offer parent reference:
1, the children that treats oneself fairly
There is the father and mother of many children in the home, no matter treat which child, must accomplish be in thing fairness, do not biased, do not judge pair of faults by the parent's feeling or the age according to the child, want be practical and realistic, impartiality leave uncovered any one party. Once balance happening tilts, the balance in the home also was destroyed, by partial secure in the knowledge that one has strong backing, be willing to be close to with parents by what inhospitality treats.
2, the parentage with good education
A psychologist has said, the relation of parents and child, it is a relation certainly advanced, education is in hind. If you hope your child is met in the future is filial child, that should be paid attention to and between the child the education of parentage, to the child, putting love in the bottom of the heart is insufficient, child need and parents interact intimately, need to many a little bit are communicated and communicate, such getting along the feeling that come down ability is firm, and won't be brought up every day as the child, and become aloof gradually.
3, annuities is put beforehand
If say in front two are software, this one hardware that is appropriate appropriate. Young father and mother is in middleaged hind be about to begin to consider annuities to be put beforehand, besides the annuities of social security, young pa Mom also can be put to oneself on the fund that provide for the aged uses brushstroke in the future, such waiting for old no matter be to go,beadhouse still is waited for a nurse is hired in him home, oneself can decide, won't create pressure to children, also won't let oneself be immersed in awkward condition.
Aging is everybody a reality that must face, when if where,this one reality comes, had made preparation of adequate provide for the aged, if make program of good provide for the aged, it is life of him old age whether can happy key.
