Mention the relation between wife and mother, from ancient always have the topic that does not say up to now, and it is to say for the most part both the contradiction between. Want to although be Mom,know a mother-in-law, but not be close Mom after all, in becoming a daughter-in-law to want to blend in another family completely from a family so, the mother-in-law is very big " block up " . He is the mom of husband, it is the child's grandma, and the wife that oneself are husband only, it is a woman likewise, can appear argue the case that bestow favor on. So between wife and mother these 3 words cannot say, can let wife and mother concern cannot " rescue " , had you said?
1, " your Mom... "
Want to know, no matter be your Mom, since you had entered the family of husband in, that mother-in-law is Mom, although not be close Mom, but also be Mom. Must notice in conversation so, even if be to follow mother-in-law disaccord harmonious, she is bad to you, when also wanting to talking with husband certainly, call a name path surname directly, perhaps say your Mom how how, these are big fear. If once do not take care,be heard by the mother-in-law, namely dash forward of unripe contradiction.
2, " I just am child mom "
This problem appears in the family that has the child only commonly. When mother-in-law of that is to say and oneself opinion is abhorrent, two people can appear possibly quarrel, next oneself can cannot help sometimes speak, I just am child mom, should hear my opinion. Although you did not think too much, blurt out directly, but listen in the mother-in-law coming is not such. She can feel in the heart very get hurt, feel of work laboriously look after children for you, you still feel I worried about in vain. And this kind consequence also may not be willing again later namely looked after children for you, if if you do not think yourself,a person looks after children, so this word must not say!
3, " this you do not understand "
The old person may have some backward, no matter be thought or practice, but must not deny directly, can change a kind of view. E.g. : "Mom, you look, if such, such can a bit better. " it is for the child actually, it is for a family better and better, perhaps go out to contradict with what without quarrel of necessary occurrence what sincerely, everybody a calm good volubility, actually better instead.
Above said so much, the daughter-in-law that believes to arrive not less suddenly first people know how to should be daily life counteracts a mother-in-law to get along, some words still cannot resemble be so like him home really, want how to say. For the family harmonious, the life of oneself and husband is happy, the body and mind of prospective child is more healthy, oneself can bear a dot, can bygone affection goes, general namely the bagatelle of those trifles. Say the family does not have enemy of of the previous night again, can happy past, why, talking sometimes also is a kind of art.
