I come up against a few young friends via regular meeting in the job, duty field is entered first, provision exhibits skill greatly at any time, every spend period of time, can take bewilderment ask me. How does ability join the topic of work in the same placing, blend in duty field environment better? On formal meeting, the point of view that how expresses oneself very won't awkward?
Actually, these bewilderment is centered on a thing, that is communicated namely. Communicate in what new environment falls especially, why saying is new environment, because relative to a new personality for, duty field environment and you familiar school life photograph is compared is completely different modes of life and relation to their environment, it has to enter the regulation that just can learn among them and speech means only oneself.
So, what the communication need that talks about new concern with everybody today notices is bit more crucial.
Before begin, I want to ask everybody a question, you most the communication detail that care about, what does the communication mine field that can you bear least of all with you have? The result that believes everybody is different.
So him unfamiliar perhaps comes into duty field first among the environment, what you think is certainly " how can I blend in this environment better in " or " how to do ability to let a person prefer me " , if ask to be reduced again a bit, "How is ability accomplished let everybody not be fed up with me as far as possible " .
I believe, do not have in the school any textbook can help you solve these problems. But to new personality of field of a duty, the communication of new concern, very important really, it is duty field live surely the road of classics. The communication that build and forms oneself is logistic, be in what decide you are in an enterprise inside short time to stay not only, from long-term in light of, also decided the height that you develop in the future.
I believe a word certainly all the time, "Communicating is not a controversy, communication essence is to build affinity " . Be being communicated of course also is not give sb a present entertains guests have a meal, chat a little at will. Communicate the means that is good at with ourselves namely actually, build with the other side more a process of affinity.
So next, I can use ' 5 words law ' will tell everybody, if why be blended in smoothly in a new environment,communicate. These 5 words are " see through does not say to defeat " . Listen suddenly, be like very intentional machine, you should foster us into scheming Boy, scheming Girl? Must be about to there is palace calculation among on-the-job field?
Not be of course, these 5 words are not a word, represent 5 when communicate different level however. Let me come one by one tears open solution for you, tell you the communication law of delegate of backside of these 5 words.
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We say the first word first, the first word is to look. Everybody is met everyday high frequency rate uses this word, for instance " the feasibility that we will come to see this plan " " the way that we see how carry out a company better " . When we encounter the information that domain or inaccuracy decide unfamiliar to nod, we the first movement is to look first certainly. [look] this word, it is us the basiccest to observation also be the most primitive one appeals to beg.
And a lot of moment, we are in when following person contact with, often however oversight this word. Look actually even if observe, you just went to a new company, the gate is opened, a few when had seen besides interview, someone else is opposite for it is unfamiliar. This moment ' look ' the word begins to act well, you can see those have diagnostic person most first certainly, for instance, the very beautiful long hair girl that desk decorates, wearing baseball the cap is filling in expressionless male colleague waits earphone face a moment, this looks even if observe itself.
Pass these observation, you can understand thoroughly new fellow worker inside the shortest time a few inside in feature, if see a comparison that the colleague dresses up is optional, wear very Freestyle, do not have certain this individual had better be close to namely that. A that on the side of him, wear build delicate, the button of the shirt is fastened most above, desk is in an orderly way more, that explains he is the person with a very clear border likely very, should meet what mind others to encroach him very much is feudal.
If we see dress of a female colleague is decent, but the dress compares bounty commonly, explain she is likely very mind the others assessment to her figure, at that time you are about to avoid to discuss the topic related figure management with her, doing not have certain is her mine field then.
Of course, if draw inferences about other cases from one instance, you see a fellow worker that does not love a talk very much, do not go Ga chats, go to the 3rd probably, the OS in heart of the other side is " him how the word is so much " . But if you see a person is very polite,the ground smiles to you, when having the desire that the mouth speaks with you even, this is one kind is encouraged certainly, encourage you to communicate.
If do not know how to open a topic really, can be interested quite from everybody, the topic that does not involve privacy again begins to rise a little. Talk about weather a little in that way like the Englishman for instance, decent and not discourteous.
So, a moment ago cited these case, showing an issue, observe the behavior of others is used to, exploring the border of the other side when communicating namely actually.
So, [look] the first word that serves as communication law, importance sees one spot.
2,
The first word is to look, represent observation. On the foundation of observation, so the 2nd word [broken] , open with respect to what mean communication aspect. Actually this word, say big big also, say small also but small. Toward big say, communicate broken ice namely, listen go up quite fearsome, you are thinking ' broken ice ' so big thing is gotten much more laborious ah.
Actually otherwise, we can be in a hand as a child first. Because you had had the base of observation, the action that there were oneself certainly when so you are breaking ice is pointed to. That face is expressionless earplug male colleague to like the coffee that drink ice, when next buildings buy coffee, you can ask him incidentally, need takes a cup to him, I think, he again the range is willing to talk without expressional or else, also won't be opposite certainly well-meaning and genuine turn a blind eye to.
Still have a time in fact paragraph, communicate broken ice namely simply special, that is lunch time. Why to say lunch is very good ' broken ' time, this time paragraph, relatively nervous job rhythm is a very good relaxation period of time. Everybody can talk about a few relaxed topics, and at this moment, you can be consulted to that colleague of in an orderly way arrange art, she also shares her result very gladly certainly.
Of course ' broken ' this movement must build the base that observing, do not want to be defeated at will, if do not have the observation of the first pace, broken, also can cause very likely ' catastrophic ' .
The company came newly recently to do the girl of new media, disposition is optimistic, the person is very good also. But went to work the 3rd day to do an awkward thing. When she sees a few colleagues of responsible market activity are using Excel disposal data, synchronous plan, say aloud, you are too vulgar also, why need not more advanced APP, calendar of what cereal song, teambition ah much more convenient, everybody can replace his plan at any time, synchronism gives the job associate, you such efficiency are very low.
Result, a few colleagues just look up see her, did not talk. At this moment sectional inspector general walks over to say, this is the requirement that I raise, convenient everybody unites a format, easy backup is arranged. Tell the truth, the expression of this young fellow worker is very vexed at that time be ashamed and resentful even. Actually, the APP of a few project management that she says is very good with.
The problem depends on her serving as a new personality, not beforehand observation understanding, also did not ask ask the fellow worker why so do, optional opinion is negative perhaps. This is a kind a very unwise bureau. Although because this thing has negative opinion to her,we are not met certainly, but this kind of awkward situation that creates in working environment, the likelihood needs a bit time to make up for.
When a lot of people are breaking ice, the afraidest is this thing can bother others, can bring bad impression to others. Actually, there also are a lot of people among us, because fear,bother others and became the person of a Gao Leng. Why so fear to bother others, psychologist tells us, here is implicit a kind of very delicate psychology meaning, while that fears to bother others namely, also be in in fact reject others to bother you.
And of a lot of relations build, be finished through bothering this movement each other, once this kind of relation is built, move toward more close together coupling very easily.
So, can help a colleague actively take coffee not only next time, the male fellow worker that also can ask that clean-fingered Yan Xiao helps you also take a cup.
Summary comes down, ' broken ' this word is understandable for, do not be afraid of a trouble, concern even if rise intimately in mutual trouble.
