Everybody is good, I am Zhou Wei, before two days, audience backstage leaves a message to me say: "Oneself often make mistake in working respect recently, got sharp criticism does not say, work in the same placing also are to his manner 180 degrees turn greatly, begin all sorts of fleer, he feels this kind of circumstance can become cake of form smoke into smother, but how should he does not know again be good next, so he feels he was immersed in a kind of unprecedented acedia condition. So he feels he was immersed in a kind of unprecedented acedia condition..
Watch this audience leave a message, I have feeling greatly, a lot of people that include me inside actually, metropolis experience is a paragraph of special hardship, bitter, be despair even so a paragraph of period, so I can understand this audience very much right now mood.
But here, what I should say is, encounter difficulty, it is hopeless situation even, but this is not meant, this is a very bad thing certainly, want to know, if you did not experience worst process, you do not have a law to have best result.
Believe me so say, everybody can feel exceedingly strange, to solve everybody's doubt, I tell a story with everybody first, believe to tell this story, everybody can understand just a little.
Willie Karuier is an engineer of company of iron and steel of new York buffalo. Once, ka Ruier installs machine of cleanness of a gas to Missouri. Try hard through, machine reluctance can be used, but the mass that still did not reach a company to assure. To this, ka Ruier very angst, cannot fall asleep for a time. Later, he realizes, worry is insoluble any problems. Then, try to change a kind of train of thought to face this problem.
He thinks so: Does worst meeting bring about this thing what result? No more than is the boss pulls down whole platform machine, fry oneself next. After thinking of this worst result, ka Ruier says to oneself: "If desertioned this works, how should I do? " next, he discovers, repair an engineer when the opportunity general and in short supply, it is not difficult to seek a new job -- in other words, worst result also is not cannot accept.
After having this psychology to prepare, ka Ruier's mood gradually calm. Later, experiment through a few, he discovers eventually, if again floriferous 5000 money are added install a few equipment, the problem is OK be readily solved. The result is a company not only without the loss, still obtained a perfect improvement plan, er also did not have calorie of luck to desertion working risk.
Later, learn a Great Master successfully to wear Er · card to be able to bear or endure base the method that gave to solve anxious mood from the summary in Karuier's experience, name for " Karuier is formulary " .
Be able to bear or endure in card base " walk out of anxious life " in thematic speech, he " Karuier is formulary " the definition is: Force oneself to face worst situation, accept it on spirit above all, center energy to solve a problem leisurely next, from worry of the to erase on germ.
"Ka Ruier is formulary " use method actually very simple, share 3 measure among them:
The first pace, eliminate scared mood first, analyse whole situation rationally, next, find out in case what is the worst condition that failure may cause.
The 2nd pace, after the worst circumstance that finds out likelihood happening, let oneself be in necessary when can accept it. Come so, although the thing cannot be redeemed really, we also can be loosened immediately come down.
The 3rd pace, later, we are gentle the time that the ground invests him and energy, try to improve what had accepted in mentally the sort of worst circumstance. If is answered proper, we can cast off this kind of so called worst circumstance very quickly.
But, if anxious all the time if going down, be afraid accomplish this impossibly forever. Because anxious the greatest harm is, it can destroy us to center mental ability. When we are anxious, the thought is met everywhere mill, and lose the ability that makes a decision. However, force oneself to face worst situation when us, accept it on spirit then later, can measure all possible scenario, make oneself can center what energy solves a problem to deal with at.
When no longer when worry, a lot of problems are met be readily solved. Collect guest · has British psychology doctor in remedial record of Hans a such case:
Hans' friend Henry of moxa Er · because all the year round depressed and got serious gastric ulcer, can have soda white only, have the thing of semifluid of one big spoon hourly, mix every morning in the stomach that wants a nurse to take a rubber tube to be inserted into him in the evening, clean the thing inside come out.
This kind of case lasted after several months, hans suggests henry says: "Friend, since the doctor says your this disease was not saved, so worst died namely. Before you want to be in dead all the time, annulus swims the world, be inferior to taking the advantage of go realizing this desire now. " henry complied with Hans' proposal. Subsequently, he bought a bier, go aboard its carry, entrust a shipping company to had been arranged next, in case if he dies, put the body in England of the carry back in refrigerant cabin. Next, henry began his round-the-world trip. Magical is, he is in itinerary after beginning, feel a lot of, take medicine gradually no longer, also no longer gastric lavage. Gradually, after a few weeks go, he can smoke black cigar even, drink whisky.
After the journey ends, his gastric ulcer also the ground like the miracle not medicine and healed.
In Han Sisheng of collect guest ·'s vivid times, "Ka Ruier is formulary " had not come out, but included however in the proposal that he gives henry " Karuier is formulary " marrow:
Find worst case (death) ;
Accept reality (before dying round-the-world trip) ;
Improvement is real (affection of viatic process center is cheerful, gastric ulcer symptom improves) .
There still is a kind of phenomenon to cry in psychology " the effect that put limb " , those who say is the person is in by bite off after some part limbs, mentally is opposite in very long time however that nonexistent already limbs is having existence feels and control desire, do not be willing to accept the reality that loses limbs.
Also be such in reality, a few people not dare straight face reality, hide in the enormous pressure that there is worry to bring in visional world. And " Karuier is formulary " tell us, cherish the outmoded and preserve the outworn-be conservative with its, persistent in the past, if break,do not abandon, often be matutinal after fond dream is undone!
