These year, in all sorts of different situations, always a few clever and brilliant, keen-witted and capable youths ask me: "Feel oneself are quite outstanding, immerse oneself in hardworking, willingly bear the burden of hard works all the time, why to arrive involve promote rising the moment of truth, is the leader willing to be me however appear in public, argue strongly? " below, I am shared here with respect to 3 will impressive classic case, see you perhaps can understand: Why be willing to recommend in leader of the moment of truth promote you. 01 leaders do not recommend you, because you do not understand,be thankful a boy that visits straight department, successive a when the day gives provincial Party committee the department a few old leaderships call, want to let old leadership recommend him to arrive a more expensive platform, but was rejected by gentle words. Absolutely cannot think of, he is very persistent, a day of straight fetch reached the office of old leadership. After listening to his narrate, old leadership conveyed three-layer meaning: "The first, the office of this significant section needs provincial Party committee really a vice director. Your character strength is good, it is the office vice director that shows an unit, writing level, integrated quality can be competent. My individual thinks, perhaps you suit this post. " his nod smiles. "The 2nd, your information is very accurate, the director leader of this branch and office director are mixed really my friendly relations is good. If my force Jian, they can consider seriously certainly. " his joyful. "The 3rd, very regretful, I cannot recommend you. " old leadership says this word, he immediately complexion mutation, amazed unceasingly. "Because, you are not known be thankful. 5 years ago, you do from county Party committee my here attendant learns. In view of you assiduous and assiduous with ability quality, recommend via me, you tone arrived to save straight unit. " his mood is cordial, again and again commend: "Yes yes, it is the destiny that you changed me, I will be very obliged, eternal life is unforgettable! " " after hearing you move the past, does somebody ask ' are you I am recommended those who come? ' you not only absolutely deny, still say ' essential nobody is recommended, it is to rely on oneself to make arduous efforts completely tone comes over. ' is there this thing? " his one face shame, faltering also did not speak a word a long time. "Still have, you move a province straight before long, once my as it happens has urgent matter to look for you, hit your mobile phone to already stopped however machine. " " I change mobile phone name. " he explains rapidly. "Your keep on saying says I am the person that changes your destiny, it is the person with your unforgettable eternal life, but you changed mobile phone name,did not tell me. More those who make popular feeling cold is, you move province vertical section more than 3 years to come, never mention it do not have connection at ordinary times, do not have even on holidays the greeting of sex of a ceremony. This, if it were not for needs me to recommend, won't you also think of me possibly all one's life? " he is ashamed become hard, lower one's head not language. "Be thankful is a kind of manner. Do not know be thankful, the person that does not know to pay a debt of gratitude, although I help you recommend, some day other people understands you is such person, also meet to one's great diappointment. Recommend you, I want to be in charge of to your ability not only, should be in charge of to your bearing more. Hope you can learn a lesson, learn this lesson. " a person, know only know favour, his heart just can forget utilitarian cloud drift; A person, only Changhuai is thankful, the expensive talented person that helps him will be increasing; A person, know to pay a debt of gratitude only, the road ability with strange another person goes wider more! 02 leaders do not recommend you, because of your ability flatly03 leaders do not recommend you, because your bearing is deficient in a place of be assigned personal responsibility for of some vice director,room need promotes a deputy director general, have A and B two person selected, it is the deputy member that be in class survey, and authority of outstanding achievement of ability quality, work, masses divides almost the same hard, the condition is about the same, make left and right sides of this vice director makes difficult indeed. Through careful consideration, the vice director decides to choose to recommend B finally. A lost an election, look for vice director complaint, ask the reason that chooses B not to choose him, emphasize depressed and discontentedly still: "Talk qualifications and record of service, I am older than him; Consider the age, I am bigger than him. Other side me two about the same, if want to take care of, also should take care of me! Why do you choose him finally? " the vice director sees him fretted, one face subdues the mood, say: "Do you refuse to obey? Good, I ask you a few questions: The first, speak the birthday of your parents immediately. " " be like father will be August, the mother will be November, I remember specific where day not clear. " " the 2nd, how long didn't you come home visit father and mother? " " you know, our job is too busy, do not go all the time, I have near 3 years to had not gone back. " " the 3rd, the body of your parents how? " " father is OK still. " he replies to ponder at the same time at the same time, "Maternal body is not quite good. " " the 4th, who is patronizing two old people? " " two my elder sisters. " " the 5th, mixed last year are you in the Spring Festival this year where passes? " " be with sweetheart, son outer travel passes. It is Yunnan, it is Xin Matai. " he sees vice director continuously staring at him to do not have conversation, there is bit of lose one's temper in the heart, explain rapidly: "At ordinary times ' slender acanthopanax 2 ' ' Bai Jia is black ' the ground works, connect day does not rest normally Saturday, do not have time to accompany wife and son at all, I owe them too much. Good catch up with the Spring Festival not easily, get compensation. " " compensation wife, child does not have a fault, can be parents, do not need to compensate? " " they have two elder sisters to be beside, need me far from. " " can the elder sister replace you? It is parents does not need, be still you disrelish a trouble not to wish to accompany? Ask your parents body the state, you still need to ponder, it is thus clear that you often do not go even the telephone call hit in the home. " he still wants to explain, what be about to say, pharynx go back. "I often am told, a man has taken exercise besides the body oneself, outside running the enterprise, carry a filial parents, responsibility that is very fond of children of wife, education even. How do you think you are done? " he lowers his head not language. "One the individual's part, it is the hall in the unit not merely long, section chief, section chief, still be son, husband, father at the same time... you all parts ' act ' good, just be an outstanding person, successful person. So, I am sorry, I cannot choose you. " " filial piety of 100 be apt to is first " , a person is connected filial oneself parents is not done, moral quality can be good go where! 04