Famous psychologist Ma Siluo thinks, individual health needs to satisfy 3 standards: The first standard is life ideal and real phase are accorded with; The 2nd standard, it is to have enough ego security to feel; The 3rd standard, it is right human relation is having good feeling. The healthy definition that World Health Organization gives out is, point to not only without the disease, the health that still includes the body at the same time, psychological health and good social adaptability. So, the individual's sentiment is healthy, also be the important level that measures health of our body and mind. Be controlled by negative sentiment when you, below the condition that often is in a mood to erupt, we very him it's hard to say is a healthy person.
Share a story to everybody above all. This is the conte of a special shock. In Africa, a flock of free and strong bronco are in wanton gallop. Do not have sadly in breath, a bat flies to the leg of a bronco. This bat bites the skin of bronco with cuting tooth broken. Feel a leg to go up when bronco abruptly when aching, it is low first, see had been bitten to give blood by bat actually on oneself leg. Everybody knows, the disposition of bronco is very irratable, after seeing gules blood, it special run quickly madly angrily, and hopping ceaselessly, the hope uses such method to throw that only abhorrent bat. But the leg of bronco of batty dead all the time dead bite into does not agree release what is held. In the process that runs in bronco, bat is sucking blood all the time, the blood of bronco sheds more more. This bat is being sucked full after blood, ground of be perfectly satisfied left. Pitiful bronco however because excessive and excited, systemic blood stream is quickened ceaselessly, because bleed,pass finally in violent rage much and death.
After undertaking study to these two kinds of animals, zoologist people discovery, this is the bat with a kind of bloodsucking natural disposition, it is the natural enemy of prairie bronco. This kind of bat body form is actually dinky, their suction hematic amount is very small also, suck blood at this o'clock to measure far from deathtrap of park of enough general bronco, what let bronco move toward death truly is its indignant mood actually.
Hear here, you are meeting for the miserable experience of bronco groan. Actually, such circumstance happens very likely on our person. Modern psychology thinks, the mankind has 9 kinds of basic sentiments: Happy, interest, open-eyed, sadness, detest, indignant, scared, despise, abashed. In these 9 kinds of basic sentiments, sound seem to have only happy with interest be the front, open-eyed mood of the disposition in belonging to, odd 6 kinds of moods are us do not like be called normally negative sentiment. This fact also announced, the odds that our mankind endures negative sentiment to affect is bigger than openly mood influence. Because negative sentiment held great majority, the person often enters undesirable mood state in imperceptible condition. When we face negative sentiment, if be not known,undertake in time alleviating, so this kind of mood can form abiding worry to you, let us cannot show ego. And all diseases that these negative sentiments cause a variety of spirit and physiology likely.
A moment ago we see this, a little indignant sentiment makes a bronco final survive without method come down, this calls the final result of bronco. Can the person have the behaviour that this kind of excessive mood changes? Also have of course. Here, the story that should share with everybody is particularly interesting. 1963 very burning hot afternoon, all American center the look in golden hair of · of heart of road of equestrian fourth · to express " I have a dream " on the speech. That day, a person calls Charlie, he decides to want to strike the last bank note of life. He is a burglar, as a result of often drug taking, he stole about a hundred times. His at that time as it happens is in parole phase, he makes sure to the judge he is met certainly reform. But because the condition in the home is too poor, the child and wife need living cost, after he chooses to strike this one bank note again golden basin washs his hands. Then, he comes to an apartment. There are two young women in apartment of as it happens. They are primary school teacher, one calls Zhennisi, one calls Emily. Checked manage to choose this designedly more advanced uptown, and chose to go to work designedly time, he estimates this moment, a lot of people go to work outside, in the home won't somebody, compare easy thieve. But what did not think of is, that day just Zhennisi did not go to work as a result of all sorts of reasons. Charlie is taking knife, poor to this woman undertakes menace, bind her next rise. He should not kill at that time her idea, what he wants is money merely. When his claw is over to preparing to leave, emily came back, check manage to also must bind Emily. Original story can end to here, pilfer burglar took a thing to go, two people are bound, next try every means calls the police, it is a better outcome so probably. However, the one screen that produces from the back rather. Charlie regards this one ticket as really for the last time, he wants to leave the scene quickly very much, go rapidly. But be in,he wants to leave a room that momently, zhennisi is crying suddenly to browbeat he says: I can remember your appearance certainly, I won't let off you certainly, I can assist police, arrest you immediately. It is this one word, let him rectify individual horse to go up alarmed rise, the mood is mixed in choler control was lost under fear. He has answered a body, grab soda water bottle, play this woman, be in again exasperate under chop them dead with random knife.
This homicide case, be in the United States once resounding temporarily, be called by media " homicide case of young woman going to work " . Old hind, charlie answers him recall again in jail the mood changes at that time that is flashy, still remain fresh in one's memory. He is special regret the behavior at that time, what he says I am true at that time is to be about urgent mad, already fast blast opened the mind that feels his. What everybody can hear from inside this story is, without doubt, charlie the mood out of control at that time. His mood out of control, it is that word that says as a result of Zhennisi. If they at that time is not so the mood is changed, won't produce so miserable one screen probably, they paid heavy price. Some people want a mood to come only, whats are disregarded, dare tell if what is offensive, if what injures a person, dare scold, the thing that what breaks the law badly dare be done, these, we call it excessive mood to change. When excessive mood turns a person, his behavior and reason are particularly actuation, have changeful sex and instability, and still have aggressiveness.
So, what is what should we learn now? What we should learn above all is, ego control. Unless a person learns ego control first, otherwise he is cannot have effective pilot to human relation and ego life. Write master home Henry, once went out together with a friend go to a supermarket buying biscuit. In settle accounts when, henry said very courteously to counterjumper " thank " , but this counterjumper is mixed to his smile of his courtesy " thank " seem to be behaved apatheticly, special without concern, from only then to eventually silent as the grave, also do not have any expression. The friend of henry complains aside say, you look, this is a fellow that does not have courtesy very much, his attitude of attending to guests is really poor. Henry shrug, say, he everyday such. This friend says surprisingly, since he is such person, why you are opposite even then is he so polite? The answer of henry is, why should I let him dominate my sentiment? Our behavior and mood classics regular meeting get the influence of other mood, when us concessional other becomes the person that the palm of ego mood accuses, we can think we are a victim chronically, the thing before cross-eye feels have no other way. Apparently seem furious with grievance it is the choice that we have no other way, in fact a mature person should mix the sentiment that dominates his at any time behavior, we need to learn how to accomplish a joy and smile to bring more person.
We will chat, to obtain good mood, in daily life, can try from what respect proceed with, make oneself ceaseless learn to adjust a mood. We share a few methods with everybody.
The first method calls epigrammatic adjustment the law. Some people adjust to undertake to ego mood more effective control is mixed, often can stick a few maxim on the wall epigrammatic, let oneself can obtain the capability of some kind of mood adjustment at any time. If you are excessive not stable word, still can choose to be by the head of a bed, desk, obvious place is compared etc on wall, write on a few what have specific aim very much is epigrammatic, remind oneself opposite stimulates behavior to undertake modulatory effectively. In Chinese traditional culture, for instance " the analects of confucius " , for instance of father " moral classics " , have a lot of very classical epigrammatic. These languages, can let us adjust better oneself mood.
The 2nd method calls attention to change a way. Be good at undertaking transferring to oneself attention before the mood erupts, also be the mood that a lot of psychologist can suggest adjust a method. In anguish when, do not want to cause dejected thing again, let oneself hear music however, watch the hour with TV, happy and happy memory. This is frequency modulation, letting his is not in continueing to fall into the trough of the mood, defect goes in, make negative sentiment changes positive sentiment slowly however. This also is the method that a very good ego adjusts. Myself prefers the method of used prescind power to take a walk namely. Feel when me the mood compares dismay or be negative when the sentiment is more, can choose a person to walk to lakefront, go chasing after wind, let a mood get transferring with such means.
The 3rd method calls recognizant adjustment the law. The person's consciousness can be controlled adjust ego mood, the person that always has reason often can realize the change of ego mood and the consequence that cause possibly from this in time, also can be adjusted quickly and dominate oneself sentiment. They can arouse in the mood that momently, the deed that realizes oneself is incorrect, do conciously next adjust. How be done? When you the mood comes up, when feeling uncontrollable even, think method is in the heart count, from arrive 10, count at the same time let a tongue be in the mouth at the same time revolve, turn circle. Normally, number arrives 5, number arrives 6, your mood falls slowly. This is the mood condition that goes adjusting this conciously.
The 4th method makes move affection law. Contradict with other happening when you, generation dissatisfaction, envy, when hostility waits all sorts of strong sentiments a moment, can try every means, a setting is finished in cerebrum, change the part of the other side namely, the station considers his action on his footing, perhaps such your meetings understand many times to him, the view that makes oneself original thereby gets a change. We often can stand in our angle and position to watch integral event, probably not quite medium, not quite objective also. Move affection the law is us the conversion that often tells thinks, go considering, stand in his angle, perhaps he can have such action only, you can have more with him in all affection and understanding happen. This moment, the mood can fall automatically also below a lot of.
The 5th method calls a change exciting source law. Source, it is the source of fountainhead. Bad mood often results from the reaction with exciting to the outside cerebra, sometimes, have a change to stimulating a source, can change a mood effectively. The class is controlled to go up in Ha Fo's mood, a few scholars point out, when the mood not beautiful when, we can try to make false motion of the following psychology, can rise to adjust likewise the action of the mood. For instance, when psychological pressure is too big, angry, make oneself strong hold smiling face, such conducing to release undesirable mood. Do you know? When you drawing of the muscle on the face, when beginning to laugh, you cannot maintain a negative sentiment. The body is what pose, the mood can follow to do adjust and change, this calls psychology false start, also be change stimulation source. Again for instance, office of the person that we can clear away messy room occasional, these can make these undesirable mood gets great improvement. Additional, we can try to change the color of the dress that leaves our, for instance blue is a kind of natural mood regulate color, when your mood is bad, put on blue dress, the mood will be brunetter than wearing be close friends a lot of. Under photograph comparing, orange has intense stimulative effect, black can arouse fury, red causes uneasiness more easily. So, choose the dress of blue or green, can help you adjust a mood likewise. Have again, we can let ourselves groan song. Sing can adjust breath, the body that makes you moves as rhythm, no matter you are yourself hum sing silent still listen respectfully, conduce to the relaxation of the body. Singing is to improve the way with the simplest mood. Once, call a taxi, I from get on a car hum song, abrupt taxi driver has turned the head says to me, you cook for certain do very well. I am stupefied at that time, I am thinking, from where does he see those who cook I am met? In fact, I won't cook particularly make food. I ask a taxi curiously the driver, from where do you know those who cook to I am met? Taxi driver says, affirmative, you get on a car to begin hum song, and hum so happy, the woman is to cook at the same time commonly at the same time hum of the song. Since you are met hum song, then you are sure the meal is done well. I listened to burst out laughing at that time, I feel his inference is particularly lovely, particularly interesting. What what I become aware is, actually I often a person hum song, the mood that lets oneself with such means is special happy event is happy, although I won't cook at all. Finally, we still can learn to take food opportunely. Will be sufferred from for instance and sweet or kind is good different food undertakes assorted, do a few meal that you never had eaten, the taste bud that can make you so acquires new move, your mood also can get very big adjust and change. This also calls a change exciting source. We still can hear lemon, also can promote the mood, because lemon can make the chroma of adrenalin increases, achieve calm the nerves, acetanilide the action that troubles with purify. Still have a few friends, be to like to raise pet? So you can be contacted more with pet, the blood pressure that allows us becomes reduce, the heartbeat is obtained smooth, such pressure that we also can allow ourselves get alleviating. These methods, adjust what we tell about how passing ego to adjust namely mood.
We will sum up 5 kinds of methods that a moment ago explained. The first kind calls epigrammatic adjustment the law. The Chinese nation has too much famous remark epigrammatic, you want to be applied well, was not listed here. The 2nd kind calls attention to change a way. Before the mood erupts, ego makes attention move. The 3rd kind calls recognizant adjustment the law. Let him deep breathing, tens of several, tongue revolve, this calls recognizant adjustment the law. The 4th kind makes move affection law, namely conversion thinks. The angle that stands in the other side goes looking, the mood that the angle that stands in the other side goes to experiencing him, experience and thought. The 5th kind calls a change exciting source law. In law of change stimulation source, we talked rife small way, hope these methods can help your ego adjust the mood and mood.
