I discovered the husband has an affair last year.
During this, my err a few things, gave him a lot of pressure. I know he does not want to abandon this family, after all we are together more than 20 years, daughter also 21 years old.
And he says, he also has done effort to want to part company with that woman, but did not succeed, because she is in hot pursuit. They are together to had had more than two years, she is more than 30 years old, former husband is bad to her to divorced.
The other day I quarrelled again with him, he says to want departure sober and sober, had moved out now lived. But over there leave home very close, he can come back at any time.
And now, I should how does ability do bad thing force him no longer? He shifts off the rails responsibility to my body now, I do not know true is him err, be still he is off the rails the ground that seek?
I am willing to excuse him, want his change one's views only, but he is very big man creed, sometimes psychology is very contradictory, say to fear after oneself come back, I can blame him.
How can I just open his heart tie, let him you can set his mind at to return to a family?
Doing not have a paragraph of marriage is perfect, have potential problem, a lot of people are done not have or just do not wish to speak out.
Actually, in certain moment, "Evildoing " in can concerning husband and wife instead, some conceal very very long, difficult question to expose.
So called evildoing is ameliorative opportunity probably.
Husband is off the rails, may be marital crisis already, also may be marital chance.
Since you are willing to excuse, husband also is willing to come home, marital direction is consistent still. You want postmortem issue first, before husband is off the rails, after spouse concern gave course of old be away on official business of; of what kind of problem, what is there again when handling an issue impertinent.
Since he has the desire that come home, do not nag this issue again, because pester,be a kind of negative aggrandizement, it is to reminding him not to forget this thing, do not forget that individual.
Do not pester him, just is to be in to him time place manage concerns. Since he has concern of two years with the other side, he also is to have certain affective to her, processing also needs time naturally.
Of course, you also need to demonstrate your attitude, say to be clear about a bottom line, cannot allow him to still have any concerns with that individual stoutly, must break neatly, clear, obviously for nothing.
After saying, pester no longer.
Additional, the daughter is already grown now, the likelihood already went out study works, you and husband are left only in the home. Establish sweet domestic atmosphere, harmonious husband and wife is interactive, husband can is opposite many portion affection, much to marriage portion is not abandoned, external the face is pestered less.
If bout arrives in the home, those who face is brawl, cry be troubled by, cold war, everybody is willing to wait for in such home. Of course, also do not want too had shown, want neither haughty nor humble, equality gets along.
This will be a paragraph of relatively provoking period, the mood when you had spent firm discovery is fluctuant the period with the most acuteness, the most painful heart, these a few months will need you to have inner power more henceforth, go answering with patience and wisdom.
