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Person arteries and veins is not your successful premise, however your successful outcome.
Recently, the 90 gregarious means after -- " balloon type is gregarious " caused social heat to discuss.
The balloon goes up easily to shrink easily also, one jab is broken, wave celestial refuse to come down.
The socialization of adult, rapid ripe sth resembling a net rapid and cool, communication does not take a heart, everybody does not need to maintain a relationship designedly, relation burst is irrespective also.
My friend to widen circle, often pulling me to attend all sorts of cliques to be opposite.
Be opposite in the clique on, she must come a little very much with the person, talk about United States makeup to talk about God to talk about the film, also be to each other appellation " dear " " darling " , still added small letter each other.
But, they had not been contacted, 500 many people lie in friend circle silently.
Want to look for a person to chat, 500 many people, reply without how many person however, connect an expression to be disinclined to answer.
Last night, she between one night, cutout 500 people.
She plainted: Be brought up more alone more. Enter the price of grown world, be not to make true friend?
Say sentence cruel-hearted actual word, make friend in one's childhood rely on sincerity, grown make friend rely on oneself, business of the job, affection, intelligence quotient...
Adult should make open-armed friend, the energy that should expend that but too much.
So, let socialization demote, delicate make friend, just energy makes true friend, excessive makes friend can allow labor force of your work with one's mind or brains only.
"Person arteries and veins is money arteries and veins " it is the biggest fraud
Well-known, li Jiacheng is the spokesman of person arteries and veins. His gregarious theory puts current society to have very much contain Troy.
He once had said:
"Money won't give a person the chance, house also won't, only the person can give a person the chance, when the person needs to help, only the person can help a person. Namely your person arteries and veins, remember please with the shortest time, the person arteries and veins with associate with high grade more. The person arteries and veins with associate with high grade more..
A lot of people give this word the course of study that it is business is classical, but misunderstood this word: Should know enough much friend, such I am occupied ability looks for a person to help.
In the world of adult, give priority to with utilitarian socialization. But this is not represented, making friend is try to establish a relationship with sb is mixed gain extra advantage unfairly.
So, what Li Jiacheng thinks socialization is the most important is: Know collaboration and share; With sincere need a person, help a person sincerely.
Person arteries and veins is not your successful premise, however your successful outcome.
Yourself itself is valuable, can help a person, go talking about socialization again, otherwise, waste each other time, also waste energy.
In commercial kingdom of Li Jiacheng, the partner is a friend above all, talk about collaboration again. Want mutually beneficial mutual benefit, pursuit double win.
Say a bit actualer word, gregarious essence is mutually beneficial, do not ask what others can do for you, and should ask what you can do for others.
So, if you are to want to accumulate person arteries and veins, many friends many road, still be inferior to letting oneself become valuable first.
Socialization demotes, broke " person arteries and veins is money arteries and veins " odd group, in the times with resource and transparent information, you should promote yourself, reduce invalid and gregarious amount, improve gregarious quality.
Mature adult is carried thoroughly
Socialization demotes, not be the person with a valuable to oneself associate with, carry the interest that get Qing Dynasty and friend even.
In psychology, gregarious cent is in all affection socialization and utilitarian socialization.
In all condition is social the friend that is confabulate, utilitarian socialization is drag in to the interest.
In the life, we often make 3 big mistakes:
Come, will good temperament gave commerce the friend, drop complaint on close friends body.
2 come, the good friend help (lend money, buy on sb's behalf etc) should do of course, be not being helped is not a friend.
3 come, with merciless person, mentioned feeling, tell had friendship.
Immature person often lets in all the friend makes favour utilitarian business, once the friend was not done, say the friend does not stress personal loyalty.
Actually, the person that does not tell personal loyalty is that immature person, true friend is won't mix interest and feeling for an organic whole.
This is not merciless, it is we have real feeling, ability is carried thoroughly, comfortable to us.
This big dye vat is encircled in recreation in, everyone can make friend, good for the following road go some.
And Li Jian, it is a very cool person however.
Sing well on his stage, the stage falls to never attend the party of actor friend, the mobile phone also is key-press machine, without small letter.
Such method that make friend, a lot of coterie express to pay no attention to solution.
And Li Jian thinks from beginning to end, the job and friend must be carried thoroughly.
On the nice voice last year, place the ways of the world of Li Jian spends what obtained a lot of people to love.
Player Kang Shulong is Li Jian very one of student of appreciation. He sings when be surpassed first " the angel in the devil " got many people love, became a seeded player of Li Jian group.
Regrettablly, his midway was washed out, li Jian feels very regrettablly, falling into disuse to said that day: "I very admire you. Have what problem later, can look for me at any time. Can look for me at any time..
A lot of people can feel this word is civilities, li Jian becomes a friend how possibly with student, the likelihood did not have even communication under the counter.
The near future, kang Shulong small gain sent 3 pieces of plans, broad netizen surpriseds. It is so after contest, li Jian and Kang Shulong still are maintaining connection.
Make a person very warm of the heart is, li Jian replied sincerely Kang Shulong: "Fasten polite, the program ended, we now is a friend. We now is a friend..
Near future Kang Shulong has 3 songs to prepare to release, follow Li Jian to contact then, want to ask whether he can give himself a few proposals. Thinking Li Jian originally meeting excuse oneself from, did not think of the name with the friend is in Li Jian to suggest to him.
From inside Li Jian's reply, we can see, he is 3 song that heard Kang Shulong seriously to be sent really, and gave many useful proposals.
The Li Jian definition to the friend, not be to say just, he is good for the friend in sincerity. And the friend that Kang Shulong can become Li Jian, because two people have dinkum passion to music,also be.
Fudan University Mr. Chen Guo has a word I am special self-identity: "True friend is useless, those who do not have utility with. Those who do not have utility with..
The drag in of person arteries and veins of Chinese type is worn interest, but feeling and interest cannot lump.
Additional, those who carry thoroughly is gregarious, won't increase friend amount blindly, should be ceaseless him promotion, promote a friend quality.
What say with respect to psychological like Fudan University professor: "Have the person of coequal energy only, ability can be attracted each other. Ability can be attracted each other..
Know depth, know advance and retreat, have border
In intelligent times, socialization also wants intelligence to change, carries thoroughly socialization very intelligence.
How can you just let socialization be carried thoroughly?
Very simple, nine word: Know depth, know advance and retreat, have border.
Improve useless social tradition, combine contemporary and social climate, contemporary youth wants to build not comfortable, awkward, not at odds social atmosphere.
Zhang Zifeng of 18 years old is Chinese film the Cenozoic Era one of 4 floret dawn. 8 years old carry off by right of shake of earth of hill of film the Tang Dynasty Chinese film 100 beautiful award are optimal new personality award.
When accepting a magazine to interview, she expresses, at present she closed friend circle, if possible word, it is better to delete small letter thoroughly.
When be asked about to have boudoir honey, she says none hesitantly: "Without, because do not have,encounter appropriate. Because do not have,encounter appropriate..
These answers have the word that the mature actor of experience answers like, and she has 18 years old only.
A when know very well the person of gregarious essence has him philosophy that need a person -- 8 minutes of life, this is to know advance and retreat, have dividing line. Saying like an adage place: "Be an upright person 3 minutes drunk, 7 minutes full, be an upright person 8 minutes just good. Be an upright person 8 minutes just good..
Make friend do not need too full, some leave Bai Cai to be able to more thinks.
In enter Internet period, "Invalid socialization " " inferior quality is gregarious " be abandoned gradually. A gregarious ability person of 100 minutes, instead friend quality is 0.
Do not want because of the range that cares person arteries and veins blindly oversight the deepness of person arteries and veins.
Become the adult that makes each other comfortable
Daniel of American famous psychologist. Ge Erman once had said: "You yield the person's comfortable rate, decided the height that you can reach. Decided the height that you can reach..
Make each other comfortable, it is to treat the person's top culture, also be the biggest gain that socialization demotes.
In recreational group, he Gui is the good relations with people that gave a name. Huang Lei praises him: "He is a person that makes everybody comfortable. "He is a person that makes everybody comfortable..
Yes, make everybody comfortable, include him himself.
A lot of people are very curious, how to accomplish after all? The person that does so in daily life often is met very tired.
He is so of the answer: "I not only can do well myself, I still can make you happy, I also did not embarrass oneself, I am not painstaking, and in whole process, myself very habit, even very enjoy. Even very enjoy..
Generalize simply, enrich oneself first, make oneself powerful, be in slowly in powerful process, need a person comfortable.
Songxiaxingzhi aids a word says socialization particularly comfortably: "Ask the importance that awareness and person live jointly, often conceive the heart that be thankful, with not ingrate, not the oversight acknowledgment, heart that values personal loyalty and person photograph interact.
Wish we are in struggle while, win a beneficial friend more.
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