How to avoid a controversy, gave out a few proposals,
1 welcome difference, retain this slogan, if always be unanimous word to the partner, so among them one is no-good, if you never had pondered over some viewpoints, can think of for you so and feel gratified, probably a chance that these difference can make you avoid to make gross error namely,
2 pairs of your the first intuition holds distrustful manner to be below offensive circumstance, our the first reaction is ego protection, because this wants to worry and keep calm, advertent oneself the first reaction, it is probable it is worst, is not best reaction,
The 3 sentiments that dominate oneself, remember can passing the endurance that watchs a person, will check his courage size. It is to listen first. The opportunity that speaks to adversary lets a person say the word to be not interrupted convenient or controversy, can increase the difference between both sides only otherwise, try to build the bridge of understanding between both sides, must not the camp that heighten both sides misunderstands,
4 seek collective office, search the place that makes mistake to oneself, hear the point of view of the other side when you, ponder over those and you unanimous respect above all. Hum. Honest, open-minded, search the place that makes mistake to oneself, and be brave in admit his mistake, this can make your adversary demilitarization dissolves difference,
5 sincerity thank the participation of adversary, all people that argue with respect to something happening with you show on some thing they have same interest with you,
6 your adversary think is the person that those sincerity want to help you, in that way adversary becomes somebody probably.
