Does parents teach the child to work to be arrived to break down by gas? Accurate educational method

When remembering elementary school, the school holds the parent to meet, ask every classmate sticks the parent to leave a message with advantage stick on respective desk. I what stem from curiosity am in everybody after school, read whole class leave a message.

I discover, if everybody is written be exactly the same, it is a pattern plate almost:

"Mom, you but with wanting XXXX. You but with wanting XXXX..

End the parent to be able to return domestic hind in my mom, give me " gift " grouse suddenly namely add fat beat.

"My work laboriously raises you so big, offerring you euqally when the emperor, you are not obedient calculated, still enrage me? Am I still had in your eye this mom? Am I still had in your eye this mom??

Similar setting, have in a lot of families perform.

The program that heats up sowed first gear a few this years to give priority to a line with teenage mental health all the time -- " the teenager says " in, a lot of children can spit the groovy dissatisfaction to mom, love to vie too for instance, too too protection, too do not respect the child.

The female took on generally in the family to take care of, the heavy responsibility that teachs the child, but regard mom as this part " the 2nd profession " , want to had been acted have certain difficulty really.

Especially the society of instantly, suffer western effect, western-style education is applied by place of a lot of families gradually, more family does not approbate wind of traditional Chinese style home gradually.

So after all is the benefit that wind of Chinese style home exists to child education still fraud more much?

The mom of most propbably China can catch for two things almost mad:

It is to coach child homework; 2 it is the child not obedient.

Tremble on sound very an editing and rearrangement of fire, it is a mom teachs the child to do mathematical work, we look seem very simple answer, the child is done namely do not come out. Then this mom loses patience, gnash is breaking the child's finger to continue to teach.

This video catchs mom mad reflected at 2 o'clock dripping wet acme.

Actually, patience is lost in us, when wanting to be angry almost, the child is aware of somewhat, they can have pressure, the focus transfers from the title: If I am done,do not come out, can you take a beating?

Original and OK the simple title of numerate, the child also can make mistake again and again.

So did bad thing when the child, or indocile moment, next a when mom use normally a bad plan are " fat beat " .

Is why saying next a bad plan?

Because be before this, mom told too much truth certainly, also had guided patiently, but did not achieve anticipate, can pass only then " the penalty of effective way " let child engrave, do not want recommit next time.

But children are met only normally the flavor that engrave takes a beating, this is " refuse to mend one's ways despite of repeated admonition " reason.

Here exposed Chinese style to teach a medium error:

The regulation that parents drafts is only standard, if the child was not carried out, not by defend oneself, go asking first duty, punish even.

Actually, in this thing, mom's original intention lets the child do namely can inscribe together, is not oppose is inscribed together.

So if change our traditional thinking a little, with step of logical rewards and punishment, whether be close friends more than engrafting forcibly?

For instance, made a fault when the child, mom can be used " hatchet man heart " means penalty, say: "You err, also be me those who do is bad, mom hits you with the hand, also can ache, also be to was punished. Also be to was punished..

Such means, can give the child stronger wallop, let him undertake becoming independent reflection, avoid to err frequently. Also can increase mom at the same time the authority in child heart.

The method of above, be education of traditional Chinese style is improved.

Any family, to the child's education one is cover agile " methodology " , and reach this to cover " methodology " premise, teach to type of Chinese and Western namely, take its elite to go its scum.

The elite that our Chinese style teachs depends on, can rear the child 3 kinds of accomplishment and ability:

The first, long young orderly, honour old love young;

The 2nd, economize, value resource;

The 3rd, zu Jingzu of hold a memorial ceremony for, take the history seriously.

This also is the traditional feature that our compatriots place has.

In education child honour often loves young on this thing, a mom of Beijing has speech right most.

Once had a news, a mom is being taken year young the daughter takes the subway, because the child is too small, the youth all round in succession offer one's seat to sb.

Later, an old person of old comes on the subway, mom is adopting the child immediately, rise offer one's seat to sb, after the old person sits down, little girl asks with puerile tone: "The grandfather is greater than me, why letting me? Why letting me??

This mom explains: "Because you will be grown all the time, and the grandfather can age, have effort lustily without you, you should let a grandfather of course. You should let a grandfather of course..

Mom gave a daughter to viewpoint of value is communicated, when believing this little girl takes the subway in the future, meeting offer one's seat to sb gives an old person.

But, if engraft forcibly honour old love young viewpoint of value, can let the child be accepted hard, teaching by personal example as well as verbal instrution just is best educational means.

Resemble the example above, mom is done, the child also can be imitated, ask about when the child, why so when doing, if you say, just be absorbed easily.

On the problem that teachs the child, mom can find key of a side, chinese and Western square education is united in wedlock.

On the problem of child achievement, the theory that we can teach from the west sets out, be not blamed first, help the child find unsuccessful reason however, and the method of promotion. For instance:

Write a song, word of will as dry as a chip classical Chinese article, ancient poetry and rhythm confluence are together, such, the child meets the right study that be interested particularly.

Turn the article of harangue into the life medium truth, look after children when mom when the knowledge in carrying out book, it is one deepens the child actually the process of the memory to knowledge and comprehension.

There is honey of a boudoir beside, each respect is very outstanding, on the problem that teaching the child alone only, break down frequently.

The reason is, child learning also did not learn from good examples, play to also did not play good.

A lot of mom can discover most propbably, obviously also very learning hard, what why receive pass on with what anticipate effect contrast is such big?

Actually, the reason is very simple, the child cannot understand those with his perspective as dry as a chip insipid intellectual dot.

Later, this boudoir honey browsed kiss in great quantities child educational book, and program, learned finally " methodology " :

Will as dry as a chip insipid intellectual dot writes fairy tale story, deduce the child to look.

With the thing that the child is interested in, the knowledge that era wants to transmit him into you or truth, the child can be accepted not only degree rise, still meet those who have oneself think at the same time.

So, educational means is not formalist, as long as it is elite, OK and shirt-sleeve.