One, why you so hard, did not succeed however?
People is commonly used " pay total meeting to have get one's own back " this word will encourage his or others, believe to wanted to try hard only, can harvest somewhat.
But reality is effort of a lot of people, win get one's own back rarely however flat perhaps empty-handed.
A lot of people often complain, or complains God is unjust, did not see oneself trouble; Or blames another person, did not see the painstaking effort that oneself give for it.
But this is a kind " responsibility shirk " psychology, just push as the responsibility of meaning by the person, with period obtain mentally comfort.
In the final analysis, do not be willing to admit the confine that is him experience and pattern, bring about pull bigger more with the difference between other.
He Wei " experience and pattern " ?
Experience, the development trend that those who point to is pair of correctly things make judgement, have certain cognitive capacity.
The discretion of one individual acknowledge administrative levels, decide one the individual's pattern finally.
Pattern is an abstract concept, know on have a very vivid metaphor:
Life resembles a dish of bureau, greatly small business differentiates one by one, resemble tightening the grid that lean one by one. These petty grid look be like an influence not quite, actually every make a move, can be next bringing indirect butterfly effect. Become beside tiny issue cram is whole when grid, the pattern of a person can appear.
Pattern spoken parts in an opera, the eye that the body in the process that putting these check namely comes out now, mind, bearing and cognitive ability.
2, how to choose a profession, those who reflect is one the individual's eye
Normal school kind the graduate of the school, have two kinds of point of views commonly about assuming office:
One kind is crowded defeated a head to also want to stay in big city, realize the long-cherished wish of own stand out;
One kind is countryside coming home, leave home close, the friend is much, the life won't be too doleful.
Of school of 2 this academy small fine jade do not think so, she analysed her located situation, think reputation of Chan Ping school, oneself and the student of this one school have difference, it is very difficult that the tight encirclement that wants to break through to apply for a job stays in big city, but return little place, the person wallows in very easily in easy and comfortable in, lost the way of enterprising.
That paragraph of time before graduating then, she collected the data of a lot of schools, serious ground analyses their respective advantage.
Everybody mocks her dull, blind do sth over and over again, but the thing that she does herself to maintain only without any consideration.
Final she went small town of a 5 lines, drop the eye that captured a lot of people, think do sth over and over again so long, such nevertheless also, expend setbacks greatly at the outset why.
But work 3 years, she attended a province to earth up, attended a country 5 years to earth up, in the process of study she knew an industry inside a lot of get military thing, got their a few directional guidance.
Frequent promotion gets on her professional ability, use leisure time to arrange education result, published a lot of articles, published a book, get industry reputably, became the expert that teachs a bound.
Adieu when her, rise a little at the outset choice.
She says to choose that school at the outset, it is she discovers concept of this school education is new, do not press endowment platoon generation, dare bold enable new personality, this provided a particularly good platform with respect to the progress that gives this, conduce to oneself growing quickly.
And the person that mocks her at the outset, although learn in big city key, a lot of people still also are an everyday teacher.
The pressure of education, press endowment the school administration that regards generation, the youth go through the mill that gives birth to virgin soil forcedly to one one wants spark rational does not have a pursuit, teach artisan that be kept constantly on the run into.
" sober reflection art " this book enumerate error of 52 kinds of thinking, among them one is " from numerous psychology " .
When too much person is thinking a problem, the first reaction is not how I should be done, however how is someone else done, once discover oneself idea and most person are different, with respect to easy negative ego, yielding great majority.
Person of a prescient, can be in numerous and complicated is complex in, do not suffer the interference of other idea, understand thoroughly development trend of the thing, see the development opportunity of its backside. And one the individual's pattern, can help abandon the increase before, the program with long-term try to gain, become win the home finally.
If say what everybody goes all out to beg class hour period,be intellective, what when that applies for a job, go all out is eye.
3, the manner to money, those who reflect is one the individual's mind
Uncle of double ended radius sleeker once had said he is special admire a girl -- Long Nv.
He says to be in when him group in did after sharing, small Long Nv is swung with respect to bang ground give a bright red package, this lets double ended radius sleeker very astonish.
But more those who let double ended radius sleeker astonish is, long Nv is not only right him one person is such, be opposite however all people that can bring oneself progress are such, and Long Nv is not swing red bag to spend money only come bribe popular feeling does not seek aspirant person, she uses the opportunity that everything can exercise: Active demand is participated in share, think over seriously, the transition on acknowledge and ability comes true in discuss.
Because this is in the ground that outstanding talent gathers to show itself quickly, more the appreciation that gets uncle of double ended radius sleeker accordingly and support energetically.
Some people in contrary life, join group, always do not publish opinion on public affairs, let a person forget his existence.
Once somebody is wrapped aglow, can appear his form, and it seems that forever online, always grab for a short while, do not send next, stealthily concealed body.
If classmate, colleague group in have an activity, local tyrant buys sheet, interview active to him form; Once AA, disappear into thin air; If who is occupied,hold in the palm please, he with respect to all sorts of evade, or else has what pay with respect to politely inquiry like that, won't reach enthusiastic hand absolutely otherwise.
This kind of person, the red sack that grabbed a few minutes of money everyday with respect to be pleased with oneself, seemed to grab a few 100 million; Loiter a meal, like seeming to eat Quan Yuzhou.
Say " the hair is long, experience is brief " , this kind of person sees money eye leave namely, experience is shallow, there also won't be too great success on the career.
Prescient person, although very poor, also all along not persnickety, they know some are paid is for better study, and the person that always wants to be obtained freely, final likelihood should pay more price.
What you see is money, always want to gain extra advantage unfairly, what eat actually is to have a deficit greatly. You got little benefit of small as the head of a fly, the faith that lost others however and approbate.
And some people, those who see is the knowledge of monetary backside and good luck, knowledge cannot spend money will measure, good luck also cannot spend money will buy.
If work before always consider what oneself pay to be able to pay off first, how many does redound have, that may be in your calculate when, others gets get one's own back via be in already.
Pattern diminutive, those who see is arboreous, of dispute is individual gain and loss, of attention is small profit of small as the head of a fly;
The person with old structure, those who see is a forest, those who care about is he can be silvan self-restraint how many soil, let what oneself promote while the forest grows thriftily grow.
4, dare to jump out predicament, those who reflect is one the individual's bearing
" poor Cha Libao is in charge of " the century on the author Li Lu of this book foreword 90 time study abroad to the United States, but he just went to the United States at that time, look is not had close, facing the serious problem with tuitional, high living cost, of a huge sum study abroad loan, let him for a time confused, do not know when to just can pay off debt.
An accidental opportunity, he recommends next audition in the classmate a divine Ba Fei's special presentation, examined oneself feasibility condition calmly afresh.
He thinks he does not understand American society and culture, the truth that make a valve will be very painful, but the special skill or knowledge that uses oneself, study company value, data of analytic finance affairs is easy to do however, although him penniless, look is not had close, be without basis to invest a domain likely also to be able to develop one's skill to full in finance.
Be in when other student studying abroad cafeteria a dish a dish keeps rinse, expend to make a living only when, li Lu endures the torments of hunger to invest theory in what study Buffett.
He takes out his saving later, increase the friend's investment, decisive and devoted stock market, earned the first pail of gold of life, open life drives the pattern that hang.
And his classmate, those saw the short of money, is eager to casting off predicament student studying abroad of the life only, chose everybody's commonly used way, do a service to be born. Although solved bread and tuitional problem, but greater to grow and be not being had help. Draw near graduation, they still can be anxious for the job, future.
What Li Lu sees is, only by rinse bowl, do not know to want base how to much fold, ability can pay off debt.
In be immersed in the angst that returns money with its, be inferior to using oneself major, make good share investment, earn money, OK still the long-term development of seek career.
Classic teacher thinks, effort is very serious, but more important than effort, it is the choice ability of a person.
The choice ability of a person, those who reflect is one the individual's pattern.
Predicament, most can test one pattern size of the individual.
Face dilemma, most person can realise, yielding at difficulty, be equal to lost ascendant chance. But how jump,give difficult position, those who make an on-the-spot investigation is a person have an insight into ability and cognitive ability.
Affect a person finally to make a choice, it is one the individual's bearing.
5, can face up to face problem, those who reflect is the cognitive ability of a person
Face is a lot of righter for the person, very important, but how hold together face, test is worn one the individual's experience.
The ability that bets what king son He Youjun sees to want to depend on his makes next his land, what daughter antrum Jing Tong of Wang Fei sees is to have parental resource this one advantaged precondition, oneself want not let sb down hard this resource.
No matter be to rely on oneself to hit,go all out, still use parental resource, give no cause for more criticism, also mock them without the person, because they are enough,try hard.
Friend small king, before two days chatter to me, say he lends money to the friend 100 thousand.
These money are right for Xiaowang's friend, not be tickler.
Open net of fashionable dress inn every year 5589, the 100 thousand hardship that also are two months nevertheless are expended, not be to be not taken out.
But Xiaowang's classmate did not borrow him however, small king detest is rough, difficulty saying danger just knows favor cold dim, just understand who is true good friend.
Not be the family does not borrow actually, however he is undeserved the family borrows.
What Xiaowang belongs to a model is rich 2 generation, because father fell ill, the land that makes oneself gave Xiaowang, but small Wang Que is the country that lending old father to be hit, mixing oneself outer part.
He always fears people says he relies on old father, take desperately successive the reputation that the Qian Quwei that come protects him, existence is brushed to feel in fawn on. Have a meal, sing, go on a journey plays outside, packets all fee are big are pulled greatly, be too busy however the operation circumstance of attend to company. The person that is asked also readily take the opportunity to is relaxed, need not spend money, nature is Le Xiangji into.
Two years short, the company is done because of nobody, operation occurrence problem, get into trouble.
Xiaowang is a bit anxious, mix to those play the friend of the bureau to appeal, but the family hides far.
Half an year comes, company operation has disappeared to turn, be heavily in debt instead, those people avoid of course and far.
Nowadays, the Xiaowang that the life is immersed in tired out makes day of sad reputation sigh, sigh sound carries, blame public morals day, popular feeling is not ancient.
The person with cognitive the more low ability, think face relies on money to safeguard more. Always think method to make fun of ostentation and extravagance, parade one's wealth gas, with boast and exaggerate explicitly contented and immanent vanity.
Actually others does not give outer part, however oneself try hard to earn.
Expend many time on hold together face with its, be inferior to want how to run oneself company well more.
Your aspiration and your existence feels, rely on you how operation company will reflect.
Fan Bingbing says: "I am not married rich and powerful family, I am rich and powerful family. " this is the bottom gas that she is an upright person and the air that understand to marital idea, because oneself try hard quite, sneer at without dread others she.
When yourself tries hard, your face is the most elegant, need to uphold outer part painstakingly far from at this moment, face also a bit won't be encroached.
Otherwise, seek the outer part that come the more, not worth more money.
