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Nearly a few days, in starring Jiang strong husband admits pair of Japan cummer Home Pu You beautiful is cruel, state oneself are in all the time recently repent and spend in compunction. In " oppose domestic force law " carry out 2 years of half border, the message with star cruel home is dazzling very. Message, mount hot search again and again.
Actually cruel to the home this problem, the society takes seriously more and more, still published a lot of bill that oppose domestic force, but, the home is cruel ban repeatedly as before more than. According to investigation, cruel occurence rate of our country home is in 25.7% to 35.7% between, among them, the victim of 90% above is a female, in view of this, the article is analysed, why these men can play wife.
The reason with cruel homeReason summary rises very simple, two, come, force can help them reach their goal, the 2nd, hit you to be able to pay very few price, need not pay price even.
He Wei wife is congeneric change an appearanceWe see the first first, a lot of men are agreed with male honour the thought of female low, think no matter oneself do what wife should comply with, the wife is his congeneric content, want to work work, accordingly, be inferior to a bit meaning, with respect to the wife cuff and kick to oneself, abreact oneself mood. To them character, the wife is baby-sitter, it is servile, it is to abreact the tool of the mood, is not the person that they should cherish well, they are very much grown in violent family.
Research makes clear, 50% to a cruel male childhood of 70% once the mother that saw with one's own eyes witnesses their father to beat up them, just think, in such day after day in getting along, what kind of opinion can they form? "One takes on the color of one's company, close Chinese ink person black " this word is reasonable, a lot of moment, you do not agree with even if, but you are waited for below that atmosphere long, the behavior that can imitate them not self-consciously goes doing.
Still have a kind of man, before outer person obsequious, show the pattern of a pair of uncle in the home, his proper pride outside be thwarted, reveal in the home, it is good to no matter the wife is done,have many, he can carry be out of order to come, often still shift responsibility to wife body, say such a few words:
"You see you what can do, I marry if it were not for you, you are early starved to death " ;
"You are a trash simply, so simple thing is done bad " ;
"The child is to follow you, how do you do of wife, be an upright person of Mom, still was inferior to dying to calculate " .
They reveal their existence to feel through debasing the value of the wife. Actually, he immanent is a craven, his both neither admits he is not quite good, also do not let oneself become more outstanding hard, should debase the wife instead with oneself he just feels a degree safe.
Last kinds of man, the banner that making love will carry out force, for instance the wife should dine together with the friend, he suspects the faithfulness of the wife accordingly however, then violent addition, after the event can regret again, with cry bitterly, kneel down wait for means to come to those who get a wife excuse, these men, reached oneself to perhaps reveal oneself existence to feel through force, or the purpose that is contented and safe feeling, substantially, they are envious ego, meet those who consider others to experience scarcely.
Hit you not to need to pay any priceSay the first, we see the 2nd again, "Hit you not to need to pay any price " .
Psychologist has done a such tests, they a home is cruel male put in a room, let a policewoman taking billy to hit them next, as a result all men cover the head and sneak away like a rat, revolt without the person. Although they claim, because wife violated my dignity,playing wife is, if what say like them really, why can that have these reaction, because,that is, hit you to need not pay too much price.
A lot of behavior of the person, it is hasten benefit avoids constitutionally kill. He hit you, it is painful to bear is you, to him character is advantageous and harmless, why should he change. I cite a case, be just like say, you go to work to always be late, but the result is, your salary bonus is done not have one minute little, still can sleep more a hour, do then you return can active change?
The home is cruel divide only mix 100 times for, the reason also depends on this, he thinks hold your handle, you revolt feebly, so it is more and more beyond the mark that he also is met naturally.
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