You pay close attention to me, I accompany you to love
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Why should we part love and marriage? Because love and marriage have very big difference really. A lot of people hope he marry the object that the object is love, it is oneself first love even.
Such OK one's whole life one two-men, love is lifetime, but a lot of love are final,cannot walk into marriage.
Because amative starting point will be simpler, and of marriage enter need a lot of other and complex things however. Love is two the individual's things only, and the thing that marriage is a flock of people.
Love when can carefree, it is good to want pleasure of the other side, enjoy 2 people time to the top of one's bent. Also do not have a person to disturb, do not have a person to supervise and urge. But marriage, it is to constitute a family however.
Have marriage, have to have the child, be about to patronize each other old person, fall back on of bound of 2 the world from the back. child of energy deal out and old person, trivial matters of deal out family, deal out 7 great aunt all sorts of troubles of home of 8 mother's eldest sister and intercommunion, the time between husband and wife is very few.
Can live even if such, want to face various trivial issues, it is daily necessaries fuel, it is various bumpy, it is the large combination between bilateral family and kin.
Among this, drag in is worn car room kind the thing of all material. Because want to raise the child, want to take care of parents, live together with the old person even probably.
Originally when love, it is OK to need two people to close to come only, disposition has been passed adjust, a lot of places already reached harmonious harmony, calm is smooth and steady. Although have a few small contradiction,be together, also can handle very quickly.
But matrimony, can get beside the influence of family. And whether does the family that follows each other close, it is another problem.
You not only should close with your husband, the wife that follows you closes, the parents that follows him even and close friends close.
If cannot get,agree with, you had better be to be far from them, have been to 2 life to live. If the condition does not allow, that is unavoidable to have contradiction.
If get along,do not have skill, state of mind is bad, expressive means not act artfully to get what one wants, act is not comprehensive, contradiction is met in quick succession, the mood also is met very bad.
And those are contradictory, it is probably from a sesame seed so big begin generation, the result can destroy your husband and wife however the feeling between 2 people.
If two people of husband and wife are special stick-to-itive person, the person with special nice disposition, have quality, have intention, have wisdom, so can skill ground resolves the issue of these broken trivial, solve the problem that with each other family kin gets along.
If otherwise, contradictory and final meeting is outspread go up to feeling of husband and wife. Very sweet sweethearts concerns when a lot of love, once enter marriage, begin unending squabble.
The reason is them OK and patient the other side, understandable forgive to be adjusted with the other side, but the family peaceful coexistence that can not follow him quickly certainly, because of the family of the other side, oneself do not choose.
Everybody is likely disposition differs completely, difference of 3 outlook ideology is too much, each have each habit, must be adjusted one by one. If do not have patience and skill, can feel very tired really.
Of course, those people do not live together with parents, not very comes and go with kin, have the family that two people of husband and wife live only, nature is relatively better.
But they meet those who bear friend of a few kin gesticulate to break with idle character likely language, for instance not sensible, not be gregarious, do not respect elder, feel without familial mission, without the milk of human kindness ah the word of and so on.
Anyhow, love is relatively relaxed, need not go facing too much, need not think very long-termly, OK even gain money is spent, go together happy amuse oneself.
But had marriage, be about to raise child together, want support the parents of two people, want to offer a car for the room. The place of beautiful money will be increasing, the burden will be heavier and heavier.
If two individual feeling are good, that returns satisfying Huai Yangguang, answer together. If cannot accept such change, thereby vent one's anger on sb who's not to blame at the other side, feeling also can be destroyed accordingly, give birth to an enmity and contradiction.
Again bit more serious, also search not to answer the lukewarm thaw when be in love again namely enchanted experience. Feel only this home and marriage, fritter away the overall sentiment of two people.
So, before walking into marriage, also want to do good psychology to prepare. And many somes of patience is mixed skill, find together appropriate your kind goes managing.
If you are the person that a meeting lives, so you also are known relatively how to manage marriage, because marriage also is opposite only more complicated life.
