Speak of to have a meal settle accounts this thing, culture of China and foreign countries is consuetudinary very different.
The Chinese is exquisite " polite formula " , entertain guests between the friend have a meal, cosmopolitan grabbing buy sheet, collide close to limbs crisscross even. The person that grabs is all smiles; The person that did not grab is angry fool, after keep on saying says, did not have a meal with you...
Life of overseas of a lot of Chinese also is retaining this one habit. Nevertheless, this kind of thing in domestic be accustomed to sth, often be misunderstood however in abroad, bring a trouble even.
A few days ago, yang Yidi of leaf of lawyer of Chinese of made of baked clay city of American Ai Ao (transliteration) be in " suggest into duty field first " express in the lecture, the Chinese must jump already some thinking frame.
She suggests everybody controls good mood and speech in communal circumstance. And adduce the Chinese is used to " grab buy sheet " example.
Foliaceous lawyer says, the Chinese often is being grabbed buy sheet, it is however in other people eye, this kind of behavior resembles fighting, make a person easily misunderstand, be affixed even " violent " label.
This attorney is special remind, if encounter conflict when, must not take away key of the mobile phone of the other side, car, because take away these, be equal to privative other seek to live on tool, belong to illegal behavior.
See not, entertain guests having a meal also is not so easy!
Under photograph comparing, the way of Hesperian is simple straight white. Colleague, friend goes out between the lover even dining together is AA is made more pay Zhang. Sometimes, the Chinese is being grabbed suddenly pay Zhang, they can be stupefied, be at a loss.
Actually, similar grab because of contending for buy sheet and be affixed " violent " the misunderstanding of label, in the life of overseas Chinese not scarce.
Be in early 2001, the film " a popular treatment for sunstroke by scraping the patient's neck " told about family of Chinese of an United States, be immersed in the story of a variety of predicament because of knowing difference of culture of Chinese and Western.
Small grandchildren of 5 years old falls ill, because the grandfather looks not to know the English manual on medicines and chemical reagents, the traditional a popular treatment for sunstroke by scraping the patient's neck between the countryman in be forced to use will to grandchildren treat, stay as a result " arenaceous mark " became a family to be accused " cruel child " evidence.
The film " a popular treatment for sunstroke by scraping the patient's neck " check scheme
The reflection that people causes to wait to difference of culture of difference of difference of Sino-US law culture, culture kissing affection, friendship after the film broadcasts.
Art originates the life, in recent years, the country waits in the United States, Spain, actual edition " a popular treatment for sunstroke by scraping the patient's neck " often still performing.
Do not want to be buckled to go up by for no reason " violent " label! Lawyer proposal, the Chinese needs to had controlled his mood and speech effectively in communal circumstance.
Overseas, when producing quarrel with other, press contact of limbs of shoulder of the other side, arm subliminally, be regarded as violent deviation very easily. Because be sent the report of bughouse with classmate happening conflict,is Chinese student studying abroad before.
Because say in office blurt out,return somebody " I want to commit suicide " , " I want to lay a person " , make the person all round feels disturbed and call the police.
It is not only actually in communal circumstance, partial Chinese immigrant is used to aloud in private and live speech, wide also denounce for neighbour.
You may want to be less than, because call,still have a Chinese really too loud be suspected by neighbour the home is cruel and inform against, draw a police to come.
Chinese Mr Chen makes a long distance call to home, because signal is bad, it is not clear that the phone listens that, so two people can pull a voice to tell a telephone call only. The result is knocked by the police, the reason is neighbour is informed against, hear from them handed down from the older generations of the family comes intense conflict and the sound that break home appliance.
Police enquires Mr Chen and madam departure, two people are occupied solid explain to police, affidavit is consistent, but police will still be believed doubt, until check whole house, interrogate Zun Lin is right abandon, affirm did not produce a cruel ability knock off to leave.
The Chinese often says, "The head of a bed quarrels bed end and " , husband and wife quarrels to often be considered as household thing. Western country can wait in the United States, be not is household thing merely so simple.
China is stationed in los angeles to always get article of house website Ceng Kan to remind, between family brawl, scuffle and did not cause disastrous effect, the issue of average household dispute is treated in home, be reported possibly in the United States, arrest, make crime even and be sentenced.
A Spring Festival goes to Ms. Zhang new York travels, in go back to the motherland overnight, she and husband produce brawl, mutual because of rage push, result, after passerby sees, call the police, her husband is arrested with be suspected of a cruel accusation by police.
The difference of square culture of Chinese and Western, make a lot of China new emigrate abroad hind appear " natural environment refuses to obey " , be stuck easily by accident " violent " label.
Actually, enter another kind of culture from a kind of culture when us when the life, be necessary culture of actively study place.
Do in Rome as Rome does, place of lawyer of leaf of no less than says, the Chinese must jump already some thinking frame.
