Before streak, a friend asks me:
"Do not know why, the love that I encounter resembles eating sugar cane or washing machine is same. The love that I encounter resembles eating sugar cane or washing machine is same..I am described twice this to her express curiosity, ask she is what meaning, she says:
"When the meaning that has sugar cane eats namely particularly sweet, after eating remnant broken bits; When the meaning of washing machine washs the dress namely, two dresses tangle together, but swing after working respective air aside, my feeling always jumps over anyhow Tan Yue is tired, do not answer once upon a time, part next. Part next..The person that believes a lot of sweethearts perhaps had talked about love can encounter such problem, so I want to be shared with everybody why some sweethearts can interact tiredder more.
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Our demand is changing all the time
Above all, we will see this picture:
Look not to know this what is Zhang Tu telling to have nothing to do with, yield the focal point that I show simply to this figure appears:
The person's demand is to rise rise and fall volt is changing all the time.
However, a lot of people did not realize this is nodded. We often can hear a few schoolgirls to say:
"Come off work before, he is punctual come to my company receive me downstairs, let him receive me now, want decline with all kinds of excuses, still disrelish my Suo. . . . . . ..Why to meet such?
When just beginning have a love affair because of us, it is of one mind is wanting to want to be together with the other side, and the hope gets enough attributive feeling and safe feeling, so we can be paid to satisfy this requirement a lot of, but pay can waste energy, the men and women is same.
After our demand gets satisfaction, motivation is met abate, handle each link in the relation cautiously, because in that way too tired.
After the safe move that becomes us is satisfied, new requirement can appear.
Gradually, the job and your proportion in his memory can produce change. Thinking how to make good item when him, you are in depressed why does he not ask you had a meal.
And a lot of sweethearts are not good at communicating, can convey demand even with impertinent means, so that did not want to be communicated again to final both sides, such getting along inevitable meeting is tiredder and tiredder.
If use the means in the past to answer the new requirement of the other side, we can be in different channel necessarily. So, when we feel tired, can go thinking over, we what is present demand, the other side what is present demand.
If do not know, that is experienced in him expression while, ask the demand of the other side, for instance:
"I feel some are at a loss now, because I am not quite clear,you need me what to do now, are you willing to say with me? Are you willing to say with me??2
To lost angst
As the example above, once loved the boy or girl friend that protect carefully to you, begin now lazy do not go receiving you, and try in you go recapture at the outset when the right, discover action of it doesn't matter however.
This kind of have no alternative loses pilot sense again, the true heart that lets us was full of angst and anger, if things go on like this, more the heart is tired.
Reading this article you, losing time to read actually, but does this meeting let you very angst? Won't, because you have results.
But if your life appeared problem, and you sit whats do not work over, particular can special worry, because time is in,elapse, and your whats did not get. So, when the care that the other side loses only in your eye, when what getting however, can feel anxiety.
However, we are not to be in only lose, lose while also be in get.
See here, likelihood you can feel some are funny, he does not receive me, what can I still get? I got belonging to my time, I can spend this time to go the study, future that grow and ponders over oneself.
Actually we are in momently lose, but just lost among them a part just, at the same time we received new share again, and new share also is results euqally.
Did not lose get more impossibly forever.
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To puny angst
A my person that call in, he met a woman student when go vacationing, fall in love very quickly with this schoolgirl begin association. This schoolgirl takes care of meticulously to his, this lets him feel special happiness.
Regrettablly they are not to come from same a city, holiday ends everybody to return respective city. They have very frequent telephone call everyday or video, but he always feels the enthusiasm of the other side is tall without oneself, and think the other side did not care him so before, wanted evening of the other side to answer small letter to be able to feel angst and be agitated only.
When understanding a telephone call every time next, can look to complexion of the other side, the other side can explain say oneself are too busy. Finally, he is really intolerable painful, put forward to part company with the other side say:
"We get along too tired, likelihood we two do not suit. Likelihood we two do not suit..It seems that this my person that call in is sense fretted uneasiness because of the negligence of different ground and the other side, but in fact, what let his angst truly is him is puny, he too count the other side.
Although holiday has ended, but condition still stays in at the outset of meticulously of the other side in taking care of. This resembles a person that drinks white congee every day, had been used to, feel it doesn't matter, but ate rich big food suddenly one day, while the feeling is very delicate, meaning still did not use up.
Return the time that drinks white congee every day again when him, can feel special to suffer, feel white to congee is drunk very hard, because there can be that big eat every day inside his heart.
In feeling, if we regard the lover's care as,be oneself when this some pay, can become very passive, can wait for the other side to give his care every day, but actually this is to not be willing to face this puny performance.
If we can admit ourselves puny the effort that passes oneself goes becoming powerful, is not excessive depend on a lover, so our concern ability more the balance is firm.
Drink the example of white congee like that, after if we eat,crossing big eat, think oneself changed, from now on capable to can eat big food, so we can wait for others to deliver big eat to oneself every day, and the before white congee opposite side is full of however cold-shoulder and annoy. Because feel white to congee does not deserve to go up oneself, if others don't bother to see me out comes,can be, helpless.
But if he can share Qing Dynasty has eaten big food, do not be equal to oneself to have the capacity that eats big food, oneself ability still can eat white congee only now, so the current situation that he has motivation to change his, strive for hard let oneself can eat on big eat, is not in the move such as place others gives.
Finally, I want to say, emotive is final the purpose is to let ourselves become better.
Feel when you feeling makes you very tired out, when generating the idea that abandon even, stop want, it is emotion gave an issue after all, still be oneself gave an issue.
Emotional logic is boundless, and row and cherish, I am the gentleman that love a heart.
