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On this world, the thing of a lot of alleged happiness, with respect to beautiful like bubble, feel its one instant when you, it immediately broken before you.
For instance " incorporeal spouse " , how many person is this is those who long for day and night yearning? At all times and in all over the world, have no exception.
Look around however all around, had you heard of had perhaps seen who to because was encountered,have " incorporeal spouse " and happy?
Sorry, without.
Feasibility condition often is: "Incorporeal spouse " become how many person to escape actual excuse, the argument that makes extramarital affair of how many person...
But someone can say: I had encountered such person really, just started to talk with them chat to meet hate is late, it is the feeling of the sort of awake photograph cherish, next the heart has those who do not conceal is excited.
I can give you a real answer:
Above all, the person's intelligence quotient and affection business is minute of administrative levels.
If business of your intelligence quotient affection is over this person that encounter, you can make allowances for a variety of her circumstances and sth which it would be awkward to disclose very easily. Then she has generation very quickly " encounter a bosom friend " feeling, and she is right for you, just be a kind of your commanding penetrability.
Same logic, if business of your intelligence quotient affection is under this person that encounter, he can understand your heart very easily, assentation next your feeling, let you feel free from worry and clinking, burn gas a variety of illusions. And actually, just be him then include quality.
This calls a person " be down compatible " quality.
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If the business of intelligence quotient affection of two people just is in same Where is an administrative levels? Of course this kind of odds is very small, but can say, normally for, this ability is true " incorporeal spouse " ah, because of you two just be the same as frequency!
Feel embarrassed, your both sides won't have this time the sort of sense that is understood for an instant, because you are in the condition of match each other in strength, you are in silent argue, at this moment you can guess each other only, you are taking those who hold the other side to say to be opposite after all incorrect, be like pair of blame to be opposite, be like have be like the feeling that not have...
Actually, you just are the true resonance that be the same as frequency, however feasibility condition often is, each other abandoned in the process that you always are exploring each other.
Because the person always likes the sense that is surrounded by happiness, our everybody is such: Would rather by penetrate commandingly, would rather wallow in in visional happiness, also not be willing to admit the true resonance is the same as frequency in reality.
This calls human nature.
Alleged soul spouse, alleged love, hit indefectible flesh.
This logic applies to the job extensively, love, in all sorts of human relations such as socialization.
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However, no matter be all sorts of literary work in, still be in all sorts of education ideas, we are engrafted as a child such concept, must search true " incorporeal spouse " , seek that true other in part, you just are met happy.
{! - - PGC_COLUMN- - }That is to say the way that we win happiness is searched namely, as to what can find, that is about to see your lot. Very absurd really: A person this all one's life can happy, depend on completely the luck of this individual.
We are taking a map to search the sun tomorrow, where is the sun that present crucial question will not be tomorrow, however the map itself that we grasp is a mistake!
Think all sorts of happy ending in fairy tale: Prince and princess had gone through 10 thousand danger to be together eventually, the story often stops abruptly to here, but next? How do they live happily? Story of neither one fairy tale can tell go down.
Deceive people in fairy tale, reality often more brutal.
In reality " incorporeal spouse " , often be a person to another person be down compatible, just be located in that individual above, not give the heart to does not expose intentionally perhaps the truth just. Of course, also be the real purpose that he concealed himself likely.
Actually truly terrible, not be this kind of amlposition union that goes up, however the jumping-off place of the person above and the person below is completely different.
Time resembles sea pan, meeting catharsis gives all sand, sooner or later all metropolises fall by day greatly. When arriving most those who get hurt still is below that individual, their injury arrives in meet even full world cries cry.
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I want each to exhort repeatedly a word:
Prospective society, everybody is independence is individual.
On this world, the happiness that can be you without any person is responsible. Must not try from happiness is obtained over there another person, what we must have a kind to change our is complete and happy ability.
Early a day of person that understands this reason, meet not only early world of a day of detection, also meet early one day obtains true happiness.
Yes, we are inborn not complete, but what we ourselves can change ourselves is complete, is not place this kind of integrality on another individual body, not be to let another person will complement or perfect us.
Dear friend, no matter who you follow to be together, no matter you choose a what kind of career, what you encounter to finally is him, more complete / perfect oneself. Love is such, the career also is like this.
The life is a cultivate oneself according to a religious doctrine, we must have a kind of straight him side / the courage of ego decay, let the courage that oneself ameliorate. The highest state of cultivate oneself according to a religious doctrine, it is inner harmony, the heart is short of without place.
Otherwise, no matter you change how many spouse, the destiny is same kink.
Final, you can discover, happiness is your one the individual's thing, be without a relation with the outside.
