Keyword: Love each other, how to answer urge marriage
Problem advocate: Female
Ask: Leng Ai, hello. I am schoolgirl of 97 years, have a boy friend that loves me very much, big I am 5 years old.
Passing two days is 3 months fete, the feeling resembles be together 3 years with him, we must come a little very much, occurrence conflict can undertake actively be communicationed effectively.
He comes home to often be urged marriage, say his mom forces again tonight he, want to let him marry earlier, did not marry to date to his arrangement. The schoolboy is in 28 years old native place is late.
Parents of our both sides knows we are interacting, just had not met. Before not was together, I ever had said to won't marry this year with him, in the need that build a building I help in the home, it is I had not wanted to marry too early additionally.
Before encountering him, I do not believe love also had not wanted to marry all the time. He is very good to me, very considerate and subtle, fear I am hungry cold move, supervise and urge everyday I take much place, the bowl that cannot touch cold water to eat a meal to be able to have received me self-consciously recently helps me wash.
He and I had said to think breakfast is stable have a home, also had said I am the person that he holds, we each other hold opposite party, cherish the time that be together particularly.
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I do not want to marry this year, his family is urged all the time, how should do? Can be his manner solved stoutly?
Actually in my heart know exactly about sth also knows how to be done, I want to love him well, particularly pure it is OK to go loving him, I also believe him very much, believe we are met.
We are enough and sturdy love the other side greatly, urge with respect to what can you keep out parents marriage?
I want to know how to give him more safe sense, he safe move is very actually small, feel I am very good can leave at any time, I had said with him I won't leave a lot of times.
I love him very much really, wanting to marry is this year only, besides love him well, how should I talk with him marry this thing?
Every time respecting marriage this topic, we are very heavy, he knows my think of a way, I do not want to marry this year; I also know his think of a way, he thinks breakfast and I marry. Face this problem, how should be I done?
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You say you are willing to believe him very much, also want to love him well very much, be willing to go final with him. But this is not whether keep out press the issue of marriage.
To your bewilderment, I offer the following the proposal of two respects:
1) since you do not want to marry, should not marry really so.
Because become you to choose put up with, choice him grievance helps sb to fulfill his wishes others when, your heart is met feel because of various things particularly easily painful, because this is not,get along in the apiration according to yourself.
2) go up objectively he wants to marry very much, lack safe sense very much, so this thing procrastinates everlastingly impossibly also go down.
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Anyhow, you now is not not to talk about the thing that marry possible, you still should ask yourself 3 questions:
1) since you do not want to marry now, so do you want to be in when to marry?
This is not problem of a time, say two the individual's concerns however, include oneself development, when a what kind of room for action taking can when a what kind of room for action taking, you be willing to marry?
Perhaps say, what do you feel present circumstance is willing to marry to still be differred from you?
Is marriage a among your life certain options?
If you must written guarantee, so node and what condition fall in when, are you just met be most willing to?
You must ask be clear about oneself, get the result.
2) where is the dot that can the other side compromise? Is he OK when when?
This affirmation is not two people are together the thing that 3 months can marry, have a time that looks more reasonable in him, space and state for certain.
3) how does ability look for a balance to nod between the state that you and he wants severally?
E.g. , 9 years you do not want to marry recently, but be perhaps willing to order a marriage with him first?
Perhaps say, both sides can arrive at least in the home of the other side, meet to wait a moment with the parents of the other side.
Find this balance place, next you can be arranged a series of node goes boosting a relation forth.
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Anyhow, marrying is not an end game, not be to said to marry now, from now on prince and princess were together with respect to happily life, marrying is a process. And it is before taking this course, still have countless node.
So you can list these node all first come, and be engaged is an important node. Perhaps although you still are not willing to marry, but it is not certain also to be willing to be engaged in certain time, this is a kind of compromise that both sides concerns to this paragraph.
Everything is the child of compromise, cannot complete the apiration according to certain person.
We can do, it is the life that decides oneself according to oneself apiration, but be in any wanting drag in reachs the place of others, need to compromise somewhat each other, it is the process of this compromise only, the balance that the likelihood needs to search an everybody to be able to be accepted is nodded.
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