Article Piao Qing Xinjun Yue
Love a person to must be not had,
But have a person to must be cherished well.
Li Mei Jin says psychological expert, we like often be a kind of person, but what love truly is a among them however.
Same, in Lin Yutang's acknowledge, love and marriage also are perfect and different, the means that uses love passes marriage, did not fail.
The meeting in life encounters a lot of people,
Those think at first can go final,
Often going up to disappear on the way.
Lin Yutang, was born in Fujian dragon brook 1895 (today Zhangzhou is gentle slope young) , it is our country well-known writer, scholar and linguist, 1940, was nominated twice by Nobel literature award continuously 1950.
His father is a priest of Christian meeting, as a child family circumstances poor, but this lives without the childhood that affects him, the Lai Baiying of green plum a bamboo stick used as a toy horse is accompanied, then Duan Shiguang is worth the aftertaste as before.
In the age of muddled, favorite generation does not have a truth namely, it seems that two people are compared together happy, speech spec, go up with respect to what can say like.
What he likes her is innocent, those who admire her is cherubic, she although what the book reads is little, but the idea that every her word can touch him.
A day, lin Yutang says earnestly to Lai Baiying, she should be married to be after be brought up wife.
After Lai Baiying listens, be ashamed became red cheek, lower his head to dragging skirt to place say, she also is not him to be not married.
The love of innocent times, do not contain impurity purely, firm in those days pledge, as if to always can bring person antagonism all courage.
If time can stay in that momently, this paragraph of love is sure can permanent. But time won't wait for a person, as the growth of age, two people produced difference to prospective pursuit.
Lin Yutang, if,seek knowledge thirsty, to realize the ideal in the heart, should go out attend school; And Lai Baiying is tired at the family manacle (her grandfather loses the sight) , must stay in the home, also do not have to attend school be related what is more,the rather that yearning.
From this, the departure that 2 people are forced.
Look be like friendly feelings to delay continous, but as the distance pull far, virtually is being used up, mention in incoming letter in the home eventually, lai Baiying married a businessman of place, because she needs Qian Zhao to consider a family,the reason is, 2 it is the age cannot help doing sth that arrived to get married.
Once firm pledge, by merciless tear to shreds. Innocent amour, come to an end.
Be young the love when too too flimsy?
Probably, not be.
Immature love, can you bear the weight of how again two mature people?
Love can let two people hold the hand faces everything,
If one party takes the lead in,lost nerve?
1912, lin Yutang takes an examination of university of Shanghai testament writing, put all energy and idea on study. His endowment and talent are added, make the man of the time in the school very quickly, eminent gifted scholar.
Look be like the Lin Yutang under scene, in the heart however the sadness of under cover difficult character, end with Lai Baiying's amour, let him arise to defy to love. Be like,his feeling is encountered again hard she kind of fancy-free woman, when more difficult relive arrives to get along with her, feel distinctly.
Probably, this also is most person is in the normal when parting company, always think lost true love, all one's life won't again happy.
However, love is impenetrable, let you lose anguish of savor of a bearing, still can give you defect of fill a vacancy of another person cover in sometime again.
The bosom is putting the longing to Lai Baiying, lin Yutang was gotten acquainted with inadvertently face school (Shengmali female officer) Chen Jinduan, also be the little sister of classmate Chen Xizun and Chen Xiqing.
Meet for the first time with Chen Jinduan, left deep impression to Lin Yutang, that is a beautiful like Lai Baiying woman, and compare her have talent more, written skill good word, a when draw again good picture.
Chen Jinduan has heard of the name of hall of talent forest language early also, two people feel like old friends at the first meeting, meet very joyous.
So far, the association between 2 people rises closely, a form in the head in Lin Yutang slowly abreaction, and another form however the clarity of all the more, two form gradually shirt-sleeve, likeness is shown slightly again different.
Be in the person in sadness, it is again difficult to always feel oneself are likely happy, little imagine, be in the place that your tentacle can reach happily from beginning to end.
Lin Yutang and Chen Jinduan are very fast was immersed in love river. He knows her ethos tender feelings, she knows his ideal talent.
He thinks this paragraph of love is met carry sth through to the end, the 2 people that hit it off perfectly after all, what one person loves is complete, what one person loves is devoted, such love how the meeting is again halfway die young.
But things go contrary to one's wishes, after Chen Jinduan's father is informed 2 people love, decisive the truck that prevents 2 people stoutly again. The reason is the door only undeserved door incorrect, poor of Lin Yutang one's previous experience, and the distinguished personages that father Chen Tianen of Chen Jinduan is island bosomy billow.
Lin Yutang thinks his talent and latent capacity can get Chenjin carries father approbate, but to Chen Tianen, happiness is to rely on at certain material foundation, cannot give the Lin Yutang with sealed future the daughter's happiness.
Lin Yutang
Helpless the Lin Yutang under, place all hopes on Chen Jinduan's body, he hopes she does not abandon this paragraph of love, with the insists to change her father decision to love.
Unfortunate is, he can face a variety of difficulty for love, but she cannot violate father order however.
Love is two people, of a person hold to at job of no help.
Sometimes, may not is love not quite sturdy, however originally should sturdy person, abandoned this some resisting however.
Chen Jinduan becomes the regret that love in his heart and does not get. He himself is not clear also, this paragraph of love was to defeat reality, still defeated love, also or was to defeat oneself.
Magnify purely when a person your advantage,
When the inferior position that pays no attention to you,
Probably, just be real love.
You think already the cut of heal, often can tear off again in similar incident. Twice affection hurts the anguish that overlay brings, let him can't bear a bang, after parting company with Chen Jinduan before long, lin Yutang be laid up.
After Chen Jinduan's father is informed, stem from pair of Lin Yutang the appreciation of talent and its are right of the daughter spoony, the Liao Cuifeng of 2 young ladies that matchs Lin Yutang and get rich of good friend Liao Yue of purpose is together, also calculate the ashamed meaning in making up for a few hearts.
When Chen Tianen alludes idea and deserted Yue hair, still fear Liao Jiahui objects originally, after never thinking deserted Yue hair listens, did not object, invite the be a guest in the home going before Lin Yutang.
Lin Yutang does not wish to head for originally at that time, but persuade mediumly in the home below, hindering Home Yu Liao and the face of Home Chen, and hold good friend Liao Zhaochao concurrently with the classmate (Liao Cuifeng's elder brother) mutual affection, but head for.
The Lin Yutang that is full of worry is in deserted home and behave without what give prize, but also because pay no attention to, what behave so is more natural, he did not pay close attention to Liao Cuifeng too much between banquet, it is faint only the feeling has a pair of eyes noticing him all the time.
After coming back, after the head that Lin Yutang throws this meeting, but Liao Jia's atmosphere is nervous however rise.
After the hall of talent forest language that Liao Cuifeng sees the elder brother often alludes, see admire. To this, her father is done not have wordy, but her mother reminds however, his family requirement is general, the following time will be very hard.
Liao Cuifeng hears a mother to bringing the speech that opposes interest slightly, of not care a nut say: "What does poverty calculate? The person is nice go. The person is nice go..
Be, to love, the talent of love is the most important, other so not important. But, everybody can not accomplish this, chose this route, of need is right love has very sturdy heart, fortunately Liao Cuifeng was accomplished really later.
In her eye, so called " inferior position " the obstruction that can not make love; Also be such all the time in his heart, wanted to love only, everything other is not important.
In love each other, if one party is embracing this kind of idea, final probable it is tragic, embracing this kind of idea when both sides however when, ending is big different.
When Liao Cuifeng's word is passed in Lin Yutang ear after many have enough to meet need, this one word, moved deeply he is exceeding at that time flimsy heart.
The generation of love, because the likelihood encounters, the likelihood because an eyes, because one is included,recognize the speech with warmth possibly also likewise.
Lin Yutang and Liao Cuifeng
Fail via two paragraphs to all previous the Lin Yutang of amour, expect as before to love, just no longer blind, those who change is more sensible with maturity. Go after love, not be pure for love, the happiness that brings for love place however and warmth.
After be enlightened, he accepted her from inside the heart.
Marriage, like a carven boat,
See you how to admire, how to go again carve.
On January 9, 1919, lin Yutang and Liao Cuifeng get married.
Marry that day, lin Yutang did the business of common of be astonished of world of a Jing. In bridal spot, he before numerous relatives and friends, burned the marriage certificate with happy candle.
Lin Yutang is to the explanation of this action: "Marriage book is in only ability is useful when divorcing, we are not used certainly, so I burned it. So I burned it..
See the move that seems insanity, what show fully is Lin Yutang however the sturdy manner to this paragraph of marriage, this kind of practice is undeserved advocate, but the manner to marriage, be worth us to learn however.
Book of this one first wedding anniversary, it is numerous love go-between, yearn for gotten proof most.
Before this can'ts help thinking of paragraph the Gong Li of time exposure new amour, it ever also was the most conceivable thing in love is being sought with Zhang Yi when she is young.
It is representing a kind of bond. This kind of bond is in, can prove 2 people are lawful husband and wife; This kind of bond is in, it is a kind of protection to marriage. Likelihood this also is at the outset Gong Li is pressing conceivable its reason.
But this kind of protection is explicit tie only.
What book of this first wedding anniversary has his to exist is necessary, because it is right,identity of husband and wife is decided really. But besides other action, it is the progress of the system however, affective goes backwards.
the person that betrays marriage to wishing, its existence sense is not great. For the person that betrays marriage to wanting, does its practical effect have again how old?
After marriage, liao Cuifeng accompanies Lin Yutang to go out study abroad, even if is in most when pinch, have go up to do not have next pausing suddenly, be afraid that she what increase life burden dare not be pregnant, after to decrease a province expenditure is pregnant, she goes back to the motherland production... she never has had to complain.
His sturdy, her deep love.
One party does not leave, one party is not abandoned, help photograph partner, lifetime loving each other, 2 people accomplished the marriage of a paragraph of satisfactory happiness.
Lin Yutang and Liao Cuifeng golden wedding commemorate
As to Lai Baiying and Chen Jinduan, lin Yutang did not forget, but it is to serve as a kind of memory only. To love and marriage, what Lin Yutang divides is very clear, he has said: "The defect of modern is, take love when the meal, have marriage when mug-up. Have marriage when mug-up..
Actually, conversely not good.
Happy, originally not difficult, be?
Qing Xinjun Yue, a person that create formerly, famous affection rich advocate. With literal warmth you, i.
