This year on April 24 afternoon, ginger lady is in the school the young foreign fan that bullies a daughter frequently spank.
As we have learned, in last term 7 children are in start classes or grades in school healthful moment, classfellow small ocean has the action that hold in the arms and kisses to the daughter of ginger lady. The daughter does not understand at that time is what meaning, but be in later this semester, the daughter is made fun of by the classmate. Next the speech that classmates also like to use a few minatory sexes will browbeat daughter, for instance: "I should call small ocean to come over " , the daughter listened to fear.
Just began, ginger lady feels small ocean and daughter are close now and then, it is friendly expression, but however her expect is less than the influence that subsequently the behavior of small ocean brings a daughter. The daughter comes home to say to mom: "Small today ocean came over again, on the playground, but I just cried. " mom asks a daughter: "Why did you just cry, you are OK vociferous the position that perhaps indicates you with him. " the daughter says: "I should bring him with cry. " mom listened to a heart in very uncomfortable.
And she also reflects a condition with teacher and parent of the other side for many times, when on April 24, the daughter is in mandatory when again by small foreign claw later, she also couldn't help again, hit small foreign spank. After that the father of small ocean called the police, say: "My son also has a place in the school now depressed. "My son also has a place in the school now depressed..
Face a such reports, a lot of netizens expressed his view:
"This dozens, after be not being hit now more disastrous. After be not being hit now more disastrous..
"This ever the gentleman also is funny, is your son hit depressed? That family girl is bullied so for many times, had not you considered a family? Conversion thinks, if be other child,bully your home child for many times, how can be you done? How can be you done??
"Oneself no matter somebody is in charge of! "Oneself no matter somebody is in charge of!!
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Contradiction happening between the classmate is very normal actually, but here also caused to be worth us each parent's soul-searching question, serve as parents namely, how should we teach the child and other to get along?
(1) the social distance that teachs the child to keep appropriate
What attend daughter nursery school last time is close child spring outing activity, in the activity, stand in the young man student of daughter back row, feel the buttock of my daughter quickly with little hand. The daughter does not know how to be dealt with, just looking at me with the eyes that appeal, I look at little boy to tell him: "Child, you such behavior very not courteous, cannot this appearance is done. " little boy sees I criticized him, immediately with respect to custom rise.
Actually I know, this little boy is well-meant. He just is divided not clear oneself follow parents, and oneself follow the distance between the classmate. In a lot of families we can see, parents is seeing the child is lovely and cute, meet a pair fondly tap child end gently, love with what this shows pair of children and feel distressed. Be such cause, so the child just can feel I feel the classmate's buttock, also be a kind of friendly expression means.
Between average household, very rare parent goes emphasizing you how should handling the relation between the classmate with the child, so the child just is met with the affinity between parents, use all relationships in.
In the daughter's education, my meeting gives a daughter painstakingly to engraft, can kiss with father mother in the home, because you are the child of father mother. But others can kiss actively in school scarcely, also cannot allow others to kiss his. Especially schoolboy, should know the men and women has not, go up like us the bathroom is same, the schoolgirl can go only women's lavatory, the schoolboy can go only men's lavatory, want to have dividing line.
(2) if others harmed you, you should learn to come out angry expression
A lot of parents, always emphasize in the child that follows oneself, you should follow how to get along well with the classmate, but very few somebody tells the child, if others harmed you, how should be you done?
Before two weeks, the daughter tells me: "Mom, I am not happy today. " I ask her: "How ah? Why not happy? " the daughter is very angry say: "There is a young man student on me, attend class to always kick me with the foot. " I ask a daughter: "Why should he kick you? " she says: "I also do not know why she wants to kick me. " what how solve do I ask herself is again? She says: "I am very angry, warn him to dare kick me again, I tell a teacher, tell my pa Mom and his pa Mom, he dare not kick me. He dare not kick me..
Actually my daughter also won't convey the life that gives her before, just went up nursery school when, almost everyday by classmate claw, connecting canthus occasionally is hematic mark. I just began to guide her to express her anger, she returns a pair to tell me howlingly: "I do not want, I not dare. " but should tell her only: "If you do not become a bit braver, the classmate can continue to bully you. You are to aux would rather continue to be bullied, still aux would rather expression gives his life, be bullied by the classmate no longer from now on. " very fast, when the daughter learned to be harmed in him feeling, convey oneself life.
(3) the parent should learn to look on, but look on while the problem in wanting to teach the child how to handle association correctly
A lot of moment, between the child with lesser age, the contradiction that happen often is very simple very pure. View their action carefully when you, you can discover original idea may be good, what can not imagine like adult is so exaggerative. And best processing means is -- I wait a moment first, let children oneself go solving, go communicating.
On educational issue of the child, we are academic meet more going to that help the child realise why the other side wants such doing, go understanding these ways of the other side, such word instead can help the child can answer similar case later, the society gets along with others well.
And the child with a bit older age, the contradiction that they produce often can become a bit more complex, some children like to build his joy on the anguish of others namely. If so, the parent that is bullied above all is in after condition of know the inside story, should react immediately teacher, let a teacher be mediated from which. If oneself child becomes that person that bullies others, the parent is in after be informed, must teach oneself child gravely, cannot the deceive of mention lightly goes, cannot let things drift more!
Side child realizes what kind of association is appropriate, what kind of distance is reasonable, face the contradiction of classmate time, want to learn to review oneself, correct oneself, this is a bit important more special.
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About the contradiction between the child, what better settlement do you still have method? The welcome speaks out, let us be discussed together discuss!
