Is ability stronger jump over? Why can you make pit?
A lot of people are happy to do the thing that he are good at, and do all the time, make finally we are good at doing those things only. The in short is, those who do is more, be good at more, be good at be being done more more, do because of habitual thing the simplest, still can bring us brief self-confident heart and contented sense even. Bring about us to be able to be immersed in the trap of this kind of onefold ability so. In other words, you go up hard in a direction more, you may be further and further from the success.
Why are we met such? Because, the person is habitual slave.
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The trap of ability is a kind of very common trap, a lot of talents as a child because certain respect is outstanding, but after be brought up get used to social change very hard however, final accomplish nothing; A lot of people work in some post long, make a change very hard, once the industry changes, can be washed out finally by social place.
We live in the times of a rapid change, there is before this times mixes very big differring is: A person relies on a kind of skill to may enjoy the period of lifetime only, had gone thoroughly!
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We think normally, the change should come from the heart of everybody above all, only the heart has the belief that makes a change, we go to ability drive make a change, this is a kind " by inside and outside " change mode. But actually, probable as it happens is contrary. If want to make a change, best method often begins from external environment change, this is a kind " by outside and inside " change mode.
Wanting to return is really, the much of your life is decision-making, it is your hair really go going after from the heart, obtain thereby? You move probable because landlord goes up,be chummage; You change the job probable because company development is bad,be; You are resolved reduce weight probable the word of a fun that is friends. Actually we decide for the most part and change, be not hair from the heart, produced a change because of the environment however, your cannot help doing goes out adjust. The habit is very easy, the change is very difficult.
How is that passed " by outside and inside " will implement a change? The author says, what you should do above all is: Redefine your job. The truth is very simple, if return the means job that is used to currently according to you, you are obtained very hard through inertial score a success, because of the times of this fast rhythm, external environment is being changed everyday.
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The author has made investigation to staff of a lot of companies, ask whether they once had tried a change, the person of more than 90% says to had tried, but do not have a change finally. Why? Their much reason is, the company culture block up that originallies because of deep the base of a fruit their change.
Current society rhythm is very fast, resource also is finite, so the enterprise hopes every employee is in one's job post is the largest value of the creation that turn the land, because this majority person is met,put all energy to the job before. Although major person knows, not should such, but do not have method, our majority time is held by trifling routine place, this is merciless fact. But the author points out, politic ground ponders over future, just be the discriminative place of an average employee and outstanding leader. And the beginning that does all these, release time of one part freedom to give his namely, go undertaking politic sex thinks, is not dedicated at solving the problem before. The time that can allow employee to have 20% like Gu Ge does his business, thereby hatch went out to resemble the cereal song mailbox, system that install eminent such outstanding product.
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I know the truth, but specific how be done? The author gave us 3 methods.
The first, time a few more floriferous on the job that is not good at in oneself
Major person can spend a large number of time on adept thing, can acquire contented feeling and achievement move so, can let us think by accident even, do oneself most adept thing is the most valuable, but this is a kind of thinking those who go up is lazy. We are jumped over in adept respect investment much, on other issue investment is jumped over little, and " other " the thing just often is the key that obtains change to achieve a success even.
The 2nd, do " bridge " is not to do " center "
Everybody and thing around him move turns, can bring huge to satisfy feeling and vanity to oneself of course, but this also is trap of a kind of ability, and better way is, let oneself become " bridge " . Because became you to join after different branch, different business, you just can have more wide perspective go redefine your job, this also is the foundation of an outstanding controller.
The 3rd, loosen your timeline, you do not need so nervous
Everybody needs self-discipline, but do not need so strict self-discipline, and as it happens is contrary, you should put apart a few free time, do a few see the thing that seems no point, take a walk with the friend for instance, chat with family etc. This is not to say these things are very important really, say however, these seeing be like " trashy " thing, truly can useful to you business has very big effect.
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It is the 2nd measure next: Enlarge your gregarious network.
You may feel very strange, avoid ability pitfall, why should enlarge gregarious network? This is like is two different things. Actually otherwise. Socialization also is a kind of ability, and it is more and more important. Socialization is the fountainhead that human happiness feels, inherent nature that also is the mankind not only, because,be even gregarious ability, just let the mankind show itself from inside myriad species the dictate that makes the world. Especially in on-the-job field, gregarious ability has a few important profit.
Above all, good human network, can let your idea put oneself in the place of another, also can obtain the idea with good other people and originality at the same time;
Next, good gregarious network can help you know current environment, can obtain true and effective feedback from the outside;
Finally, good human relationship still can help you improve working environment and atmosphere, make you fast obtain the person of need and other natural resources, make you easier telesis.
Anyhow, good human relation network, it is the important basis that promotes you explicit show strength, common saying says " wine is sweet do not be afraid of alley child deep " , but actually good gregarious network can allow get twice the result with half the effort.
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Speak of gregarious network, we can think of all sorts of polymerization are mixed normally chat, and the time with need very much expenditure and energy go maintaining these gregarious relationships, but not be actually. In if be your profession socialization,concerning, what is the mainest critical factor. Have a few option.
1, intelligence an wisdom
2, appeal
3, similar sex
4, situation close
5, social class is high
You meet the likelihood wait because of the clever, position of others adore them, but these are not the critical factors that you build good socialization to concern, not be positive factor even. In the investigation that makes in author place, the majority chose the 2nd or the 3rd (appeal and similar sex) , alleged " things of one kind come together, person with group cent " be this truth probably. Our habit gets along with the person with him close, feature of this kind of psychology, the author says for " narcissism principle " .
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In the discovery in a series of investigation and study, the success of interview of to apply for a job, depend on interview official is in most begin a few minutes inside the first impression to you. If the other side has very much collective place at the beginning, for instance they are fellow-townsman, same a school graduate, know same individual to wait a moment, so the odds that they apply for a success can soar.
Besides " narcissism principle " beyond, still one is plant " lazy principle " the crucial factor that is influence socialization relation. Alleged " lazy principle " it is the person association that we are used to following to those are contacted easily and get along, it is so after all most of the save labour when the province.
Good socialization concerns besides the eye shot that can widen us, obtain more resource beyond, still have a fundamental value, that is: Discover " anti " sound. Everybody does not like to be denied by others, we are in comfortable and close inside circle, be immersed in very easily " echo room effect " , do not hear different voice, and because,just is different sound, just be the true signal that we feel the outside to change, and your gregarious relation is fixedder, this kind of odd group is more apparent.
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Where is the gregarious ring that how makes us then? The author is cent of our human relation network 3 kinds: Operation relation, individual relation, strategy concerns.
Above all, operation concerns, it is those can short-term helps the relation that we finish day-to-day job, for instance the associate on colleague, job is waited a moment. The characteristic of this kind of relation is not to suffer you are controlled and control, but can help us complete a few day-to-day work.
Next, the individual concerns, we give help and the person that make us happy in development of individual life, profession namely, for instance your family, old schoolmate and close friend are waited a moment. Individual relation is the good helper that you live, when you encounter setback and difficulty, they can offer you help and proposal, perhaps can stand beside you to give mental power. But this kind of relation you need to be safeguarded for long, and spend a lot of energy.
Finally, the strategy concerns, it is those likelihoods go up in prospective development road, the likelihood helps your concern. It can let your originality be taken a fancy to by investor, it can help you obtain the information that you need and resource. The advantage that relation of a good strategy gives you is: Integrated resource, win support. Apparent strategy relation just is the potential resource that you did not develop, you need to cost a few time to safeguard and make it.
No matter be operation relation, individual relation and strategic relation, these human relation networks have 3 characteristics: Extensive sex, join sex and dynamic sex. And the balanced development that preserves this tripartite area only, you just can acquire a good human relation network.
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We often say, should do true oneself, should make him love and interested thing, but actually, there is here " hole " , that is: The person does not know our much actually true oneself, and what are our real interest and hobby. The result that brings about so is, we can do the thing that we think to be good at only, the thing that oneself feel relaxed, as time passes, you can be inside comfortable ability circle revolve, do not have method to win farther promotion.
So, do " adapt oneself to changing circumstances person " , should compare " true oneself " better. Because true oneself, often can do those oneself to be familiar with, and the business that makes oneself comfortable, and such means, others is familiar with and often do not make others comfortable. And the person that do an adapt oneself to changing circumstances, criterion conversely, be be familiar with with others and the way with easy others works. This is the ability that a kind of conversion thinks and acts apparently, it is easy to although say,rise, but it is very difficult to be done actually.
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How does that do " adapt oneself to changing circumstances person " ? When did the author give out to suggest:
The first, from the ability that pays close attention to oneself to go, change is the ability that him attention did not come to. For instance, every company has the sort of get along very hard, strong, love derisive, love is satiric others, but their ability is outstanding, thinking is original. If be done according to the past " true oneself " , you won't follow such colleague contact with for certain, but if you did not want become more outstanding oneself, that should put down such guard, pay close attention to oneself what to can obtain more, is not it what lose is more important to what lose.
The 2nd, regular set a few different goals. The author of facial book plunges into Kebaige, begin from 2009, can give him set every year end of a year, from insist to wear cravat to go to work everyday, study Chinese, read two books every months, run one year 365 miles are waited a moment.
Finally, do " like water " person, make a speech in famous TED " think who I am afresh? " in thematic speech, performance artist He Du cited the logion of Li Xiaolong of wushu giant star: "Like water " . Li Xiaolong thinks you should use all resource that you can use, in wanting the form that confine secures in, like wanting to be able to resemble water, go acclimatization and model ego. Water falls into the cup, it is the appearance of the cup, take the form that bottle is in bottle.
