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Be far from utterly ignorant to be able to urge the person that you magnanimous only
Have first phase " strange flower says " in, ma Dong said a word: As time elapse the person that we can excuse those to once had harmed us after all.
Immediately of Cai Kang Yong complements: That is not to excuse, that is to calculate.
I was spoken to touch by this paragraph really, some people disclose you one knife, still disrelish insufficient, unplug small knife when conveniently cut out circuit, still scatter to your cut finally on salt, ache so that you fell on his knees, how does the suffering of door leaf of heart of this kind of painful thorough let a person magnanimous? How to excuse again?
Obviously I just am a victim, however the person that does not understand any situations stands in moral commanding elevation to persuade me to magnanimous a bit, if I am not excused,be persnickety and acerbity, if I was excused, the other side gets understanding, I struggle in the anguish of memory as before however, bitter is me as before.
You had harmed me seriously, how may I am indifferent to easily? It is the harm that I get and anguish, deserve to subdue him hold back to wear?
Be said like Guo Degang:
"Actually I am held out hate the sort of person that does not understand any circumstances let you magnanimous namely, you should leave this kind of person he is a bit further. You should leave this kind of person he is a bit further..Deep think like that.
Never feel truly on this world with experience, the needle is not plunged into go up in his body, by what does he say indolence?
Encounter the sort of utterly ignorant to be able to urge the person that you magnanimous only, resembled swallowing fly simply euqally disgusting.
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Do not encroach my life self-righteously
Have first phase " Chinese dream is beautiful " , came to accompany an elder sister to play the girl of the program, program series arrives in the one's own parents that she arranged her below the circumstance of know the inside story none program spot, hope they admit, the privacy that a bit did not consider to cross a girl and experience.
The girl rejects to admit:
"Because I maintain my parents, it is my foster father foster mother, in two years, when I need parents most, they never had appeared, although we live in same on the town, they never had visited me! They never had visited me!!The girl thinks " the favour that foster is more than birth favour " , do not wish to make foster parent sad, compere stands in moral commanding elevation to criticise she is small-minded however, think she should magnanimous a bit, conversion thinks go making allowances for parents.
After the girl refuses again and again, compere even cannon she: "The child that does not let you thinks you are an acerbic and narrow woman! You forever impossible happiness! You forever impossible happiness!!
What the netizen caused after the program broadcasts is great and resonant:
Netizen @ Libra how - : That little sister is my young nurse. Seeing the program yesterday is to feel Zhou Libo is disgusting really died, young that day nurse far from know the inside story is cheated by her elder sister, enrage so that came home by air that evening, is she personal does parents abandon her at the outset not selfish? See I am small now aunt live well want to admit. Ah. Board Zuo of Zuo of netizen @ bright shrimp: Just looked, whole journey morality kidnaps, the girl says one's own parents lives 20 years on a town with her, only a few kilometers never had seen her, why should such parents admit? ! The program with this kind of 3 frame-up view does not have the meaning of existence.On the arena that faces countrywide audience, believe a lot of people are met by force of " moral pressure " and him grievance forces him to identify that to be opposite besides consanguineous besides the one's own parents that does not have the least bit relation, but the heart that this girl chooses to abide by his however, him defend bottom line, antagonism " morality kidnaps " , I hit Call wildly for her!
It seems that who won't say the word of just stern? Change labial job!
But can you experience my pain therein? I have my principle and position, I won't subdue myself to magnanimous go putting down go excusing, not be willing even if not be willing!
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Not be all fault can be excused
What time can cicatrization is a skin injury only, some to the marrow enter the harm of the heart, no matter go how to long cannot be at ease,be.
The fruit inn that my constant goes to, the proprietress is a person that experts enthusiasticly, the husband drives long-distance car, one goes up the son of elementary school, a be in harmony of 3 its Le Rong.
The smile always is on proprietress face be filled with, even if encounter again the client of willfully make a trouble, she also can tender in order to be opposite, be opposite alone only her mother-in-law.
The proprietress' mother-in-law is about 80 years old, very thin and small, often sit opposite fruit inn, the proprietress never responds her, occasionally a respectful form of address for an old person thinks of to go inside inn, the doorway has not been entered was driven away strong and frozenly by the proprietress, even the thing that along with a respectful form of address for an old person buys grandchildren is thrown along with all the others.
The neighbor around is eristic in succession, say parent is too poor, the proprietress does not see grandchildren to her, every month gives a dot living cost, never come and go.
Neighbor people have an opinion to the proprietress, gradually fruit store business is bad also, but proprietress still persist one's old ways, reject to come and go with her mother-in-law.
I knew inside information later, a daughter has been born when the proprietress is young, her husband is outer at that time run long-distance, had not hurrieded back come, the daughter has not given a month to be weighed male light female mother-in-law is held in the arms, absolutely refuse to to this life bright.
A few degrees faint the proprietress is sad in confinement fault, fell illness, gave confinement proprietress to broke up to pass additionally stoutly, did not go back a few years again.
Some things are impassable at all, can go do not make an issue.
All fault can be not excused.
Before the anguish that gets in others, I am sorry these 3 words are very cadaverous really! Very cheap!
Some harm can follow a person all one's life, other people does not persuade a few to be able to be at ease, the oldest rate that I can achieve does not make reprisals namely, but want me to excuse, this is impossible!
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The harm that has sufferred cannot be made up for forever
Magnanimous this thing is fetch down tooth and blood are swallowed, did not excuse this cheerfully to return a responsibility!
His story has been told in a certain program before Yue Yunpeng.
Because family circumstances is smooth cold, his early works to Beijing with respect to discontinue one's studying, had washed a toilet to should cross security personnel, the most unforgettable is the experience that makes cafeteria clerk.
He is 15 that year years old, because of miscalculate the price of two bottles of beer, by the client in public abuse a few hours, he draws out money to buy sheet for that client finally, just appeased the guest's fury, he also is opened subsequently besides, without the saving, have despair only.
Yue Yunpeng says: "I know I should thank him, without him I won't change my profession. But remember him at that time so scold me, example I, I still cannot be at ease. I still cannot be at ease..
Go a few years nowadays, but when he mentions this paragraph of experience, still be light of tear of meeting eye extensive.
I ever had seen a paragraph of word: Never mention it anguish and harm are fortune, that is talk nonsense.
Anguish is painful, the sort of adamancy that biting the tooth, hair that catching oneself to also want to stand up closely and brave, just be fortune.
The harm that I suffer impossibly to me is at ease, but this does not state I do not magnanimous, this does not have concern of one wool money with degrees big even, because this is my bottom line.
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I did not excuse you, but I let off myself
Like a paragraph of words that Lin Qingxuan says very much:
What encounter in the life is faulty with lopsided, it is life best illuminative, as black clouds and rainstorm it is a sky best enlightenment is general.
Wring like the knife in each heart, weep bitterly, be born forcedly be born to endure cut to scabby day, are you certain very painful?
To once harming you, bring the person of endless anguish and issue to you, you do not need magnanimous, you do not need to excuse, but you can let off yourself, like Cai Kangyong, " calculated " it is the biggest generosity.
From painful, harm, in struggling, go, accept oneself, accept everything what had happened, that is life give us grow.
Dear, the remainder of one's life is very long, the error that does not use others punishs him.
Wish you can be said like Feng Zikai: Not random at the heart, do not strand at affection, not Wei will come, do not read aloud associate with. Such, well.
Also hope everybody visits an official, can admire is good-tempered, also do not importune magnanimous! Had not experienced the pain of other, do not persuade other to magnanimous easily.
