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"Arrive as a child big, I am an indrawn person, I always am affixed by the person beside all sorts of label, dissocial, silent, not be gregarious, Gao Leng, actually, I am not such person really, I just fear missay word, err finishs sth. " this an introversion person monologize.

In this society, indrawn person assumed too much social pressure, all sound are to hope you are a bit more lively, but, the disposition that violates oneself is a thorny issue originally, inflexible impression thinks, indrawn person not good at one's words, actually this is the biggest to them misunderstanding.

Greet (Small Talk) as deepness communication

A lot of people can think, indrawn person do not be good at socialization, because be in the person's very much circumstance, they appear not good at one's words, tacit. In fact, this may be a kind of their active choice. Psychologist Laurie Helgoe(2013) points out, look to person inside, of this kind of surface " greet (Small Talk) " it is no point and needless.

Sensitive introversion person often have wonderful observation capacity, the disposition of person of separate out of cent of can short time, behavior is used to (Furnham, 1999) . Although he had not said a word with you, but, the likelihood had seen from a few detail you are a what kind of person. So, if they want socialization, they can become a friend with each person even, because they know,face different person what to should say.

Compare at " greet " , they hope to undertake having the communication of deepness more, they like to chat man-to-manly, encountered the friend of have a common goal, they are OK go up glibly a little very long. So, indrawn person friend the amount is not much perhaps, but the good friend that is lay one's heart bare.

In this blundering society, the deepness communication between person and person appears particularly precious, and indrawn person the capacity that just has this Xiang Baogui, this makes the socialization that place of the person that they have extroversion does not have goes qualitative.

Self-communion

A lot of moment, indrawn person just do not want to talk and not be to be able to say nothing. Introversion and extroversion are normal disposition idiosyncratic, and indrawn person understands him more, they are not willing him reluctance goes blending in a certain group.

Come from because of their energy at the heart, even if a person reads a book quietly, take a walk to also can acquire contented move, and extroversion person energy comes from the outside, accordingly they like to be mixed through socialization interactive will complement energy, fill lack a heart.

Indrawn person like self-communion, so they understand themselves very much, know oneself advantage and insufficient place, in socialization more be good at conveying oneself with right kind, and be chosen actively can become the friend's person with oneself. Not good at one's words is the person that in the light of those they do not consider to have overmuch contact only, serve friend family of they or special enthusiasm.

How better socialization?

Disposition often is changed very hard, but, cannot avoid to be able to have a lot of gregarious setting in the life, so, to introversion person for, what gregarious skill should master?

One, the gregarious environment that enters subgroup system

Feel not timely in large party when you, can try to enter the gregarious environment of subgroup body, go seeking a few people that have collective topic with you, chat together with them can alleviate your uneasy sense in big environment.

2, ego is promoted (Self-promotion)

It is to learn ego to promote next, the person of a lot of introversion is too low-key, so that be ignored very easily by others. You can try the achievement that naturally discusses him and achievement, be conveyed neither haughty nor humbly and can not let other feel disgusted and still can attract more people to want to understand you.

You perhaps meet such very bashful doing, so you can begin from the friend that your is familiar with quite first, practice ceaselessly, can be till you before the masses calm ground talks about him.

Indrawn person the advantage of the person that have introversion, we should not have to them change impression toughly, not good at one's words is misunderstanding of a huge, the kind that they express themselves is not in the public the circumstance harangues certainly, perhaps be a character or deepness communication, do not want the gregarious ability of the person that underestimate an introversion forever.

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