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Why your joy is less and less

Do not know when to rise, joy became the luxury of modern, joy ased if to elapse along with time.

Strange flower says in first phase is inscribed about happy argue, cai Kang Yong is mentioned, in one's childhood you can feel happy because of a lot of things, eat ice-cream, first time to skate for the first time for instance, see a movie for the first time... can bring greatest surprise to you.

And after be brought up, even if the thing that does novelty, we can experience joy less and less also.

Was to eat ice-cream likewise, ate you to also be done not have glad, you feel the fat on him waist, scold oneself to did not accuse force oneself;

It is to skate likewise, you feel fancy to rink no longer, complain him limb is not harmonious however, how to learn won't;

It is to see a movie likewise, you more care about why others is geminate see a movie into the team, and you however oneself are alone...

It seems that creature comfort is much, mental results is little however; Those who have is more than before, before joy is compared however little; The cause is better than before, in the heart empty bigger and bigger however.

Cypress swallow friendship ever had said psychological expert, "We can feel everything has probably, but only alone heart still terrified angst " .

So after all, the joy that what killed you be?

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Your joyless

The likelihood results from this thinking is inertial

Psychology thinks, a person is long-term joyless, apparently look, it is to be affected by the negative sentiment such as angst, depressed, anger.

And actually, this is by subconscious medium inactive thinking mode " hold accuse " .

Lin Qingxia was patted in 19 years old " outside the window " later, scene is infinite, explode red two sides 3 ground.

Came 1972 7 years of time 1979, lin Qingxia took 55 sport. She ever in memory:

"The first film is shown in Hong Kong when, I one evening becomes famous, became star, evermore I work ceaselessly... "

Explode overnight red hind, of Lin Qingxia invite come in great numbers about, but old hind she is recollected however, this paragraph of time her biggest feeling is -- " all of body and mind is exhausted " .

Although scene is infinite, although the play receives be irresolute when firmness is needed, although be acted according to what envy for everybody " goddess " , it is under bright appearance, she more it is joyless.

She always feels him acting blueness is acerbity, think oneself are not quite good, dissatisfactory to oneself, also do not approbate, go out repeatedly act fine jade precious jade female advocate also feel tired, be in her low for a long time, be driven beyond forbearance finally, flat escape to recuperate to California.

Look today, the Lin Qingxia of this paragraph of time, was to be immersed in actually " ego is critically " in inactive thinking mode.

Be immersed in the person of mode of this kind of thinking, often indulge only oneself are faulty, long atttack internally, serious word creates low self-esteem mentality.

They are not not quite outstanding really, what cannot see oneself however is outstanding.

Besides " ego is critically " besides, inactive thinking mode still exists " compliant concede " " perfect creed " " sensitive depend on " ... the type that waits to differ 8 kinds, below these thinking mode you, whether had had such feeling:

With the person association dare not open heart door leaf, often feel disturbed, sensitive and flimsy, get hurt very easily pursuit is perfect, often feel others of him be not a patch on, bring about you to lack self-confident heart badly to be used to concede to please, in affinity the habit subdues him, submit to humiliation, often meet broken bits male

...

Such you, suffer fully suffer, long-term fall is in of negative sentiment sloughy in, did not become aware to be held to accuse by which kinds of mode to oneself however, considering a change can be to do not know how to start only of course, oneself live very tiredly, also allow the person turn from side to side beside.

Awfuller is, if serve as a woman, special after becoming a mother, still can let ground of exert a subtle influence on of this kind of inactive thinking affect the child.

Zhang Ailing's mother is such person. Zhang Ailing says when memory mother: "She just awakes always is very not happy, played for a long time with me just now glad to rise. Played for a long time with me just now glad to rise..

Her disposition is impatient Yan Ke, the mood is very flabby calm, perfect to filial pursuit, such mother, let Zhang Ailing love to be hated again again to her, also nurturance she is pessimistic sensitive nature. The mother gives her shadow, she cannot be at ease to old age.

Subconscious in the inactive thinking mode that hide, if a kind of disease is common, collapse oneself, also endanger family and friend.

Become aware only and see, just be the beginning of the change.

The joy that what killed you be after all? Subconscious in mode of which kinds of inactive thinking be after all " hold accuse " you? What do you still have to is the method cast off and be changed?

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