Of article Piao heart aid senior advisory Shi Liumin
" youth group " ending, why " the teenager is sent " so fire, the netizen breathes out continuously: Because this is ours at all,live!
Among them some of clue makes me special sigh with emotion.
The first collect begins ability, the Wang Shengnan of Yan Ni personate, angst is absent with respect to nowhere.
Daughter chela just enters the school, she is lying between baluster to say: The university entrance exam begins to time 10 thousand days, you should read attentively against time.
But this ability is Gao Yigang enter a school the first day!
Forest Mom lets me think of another news to the child's angst --
A mom's good to let on the child one private nursery school, accompany slept the president.
Below the temptation of school of top class and private name, the mother chose to accompany sleep, but return insufficient, the president still wants the 2nd times, the 3rd. . . . . .
This mom does not have method, told the husband the thing.
In the way one speaks or what he says, to husband cold-shoulder, be in overtones to the child's worry:
"Is your month disrelished 20 thousand pieces lose face? " " cannot let the child be defeated in the scratch line! " " for child enter a school, what do oneself subdue a dot to calculate? What do oneself subdue a dot to calculate??Its true and false still is informed, nevertheless the comment below is very true.
I can understand this kind of angst: School of the international on the child, a year of ten tuition that do not poor, the parent still must have done figure government talent is promising be admitted.
Friend circle is all sorts of fokelore everyday: Such-and-such child 4 years old 1000 words, child of whose whose home is admitted by Tsinghua Beijing University, whose home bought house learning an area, house price rose again 10 thousand...
You want not angst, very difficult really.
So what is the backside of angst?
It is you actually of immanent child projectile, it is us cannot accept oneself;
Cannot accept oneself to live life so extremely, became the day too embarrassed and as meaning, sad with tired out.
Be like forest Mom, is she satisfactory to the life? Satisfactory to husband? It is dissatisfactory for certain --
Hired what the price does not poor to learn region house, husband is unemployed do not calculate, still be cheated, vice-president is on name, who knows last company manager runnings road, husband was in debt to still enter prison house, is she satisfactory?
Her angst is right to the life actually of marriage abreact, so she is met and the for trifles thing with ceaseless husband quarrels, be in forever the divorce of durative intermittence.
And accompany that sleeping mom, is she satisfactory to marriage? Is she satisfactory to husband?
"Every month the monthly pay of 20 thousand your have the nerve? " it is her the manner to husband.
And a lot of netizens say, we do not have even the qualification of have the nerve.
What this kind of opposite lives is faint with the dissatisfaction to husband, delivered child body finally to go up.
Because the child is a hope, the woman can sum up angst into experience and lesson, again in the mouth that rub takes the child into a place of strategic importance of pill of a sugar.
As if such, they won't walk along their old road to perhaps make same mistake, won't can't bear peace needing into what be like his too.
Friend circle is mad last year pass a writings " male to middleaged as the dog " actually, is middleaged woman why like a dog?
Still not be Zhang Ailing mouth is medium: "Open open one's eyes, everybody cannot be relied on. Everybody cannot be relied on..
Know on have a query: Does the life of middleaged woman have pain after all?
The answer of top praise is:
"Before dawn woke at 3 o'clock, after unripe child easy get up in the night to urinate, lie in silent night, already burst into tears insensibly. Much hope somebody obliterates for me tear, but not. Parents is old, the child is big, the sweetheart is cold. Think somebody holds me in the arms more, but not, did not have before early. Did not have before early..Reality costs increasing, saving namely worse and worse of less and less, body, pressure is greater and greater, energy backwater of less and less, career not before, marriage is muddleheaded safety of contradiction of not clear, family, children...
Angst, it is the mark of middleaged woman matchs current society.
You think you are making tremendous sacrifice, all sacrifice are in yield for the child, but does the child understand really?
" the teenager is sent " another child Qian Sanyi, sound of his mother a surname, family circumstances liberals, the son is to learn bully, prospective clear north is without be concerned about, want money to have money, want a position to have a place, want achievement to have result...
She need not trouble monthly pay 20 thousand and child achievement is good with bad, so total can angst goes having a shadow, everything is just fine?
So you are really wrong still!
She and husband already seemingly in harmony but actually at variance, live apart 15 years, without love asexuality, can say nothing, she outside clear witting husband somebody, marriage already exist in name only, but overtly agree but covertly oppose dead not to divorce as before.
Below the environment of this kind of angst and sacrifice, is the child last how?
They become parental father and mother, or parental spouse!
Resemble Qian Sanyi, he cannot bear heart mom is sad, replaced the part of father even, want to save mom.
He and mother live together, whats listen mom's arrangement.
Mom is not happy, he also does not allow himself happy, he acceded of mom depressed and dim.
When Qian Sanyi is loved early, how mom says?
"Others is in accost my son " , she used accost this word, it is subconscious actually regarded the son as oneself spouse, the bend of alien is entered at her it is accost, be like small 3 her husband also were ticked off same.
This is the relation of a kind of malign accrete actually.
Eventually one day, he meets Qian Sanyi to annoy to mom, can howl to mom:
"Although I look for a girlfriend, also do not look for you of this appearance! " " actually I am in all the time for company you act in a play " .He can envy Lin Miaomiao, say:
"My former unripe family has a problem, I envy you to give birth to domestic health formerly. I envy you to give birth to domestic health formerly..
Want the child when us so or when it is better that husband becomes more perfect, be inferior to admitting the need that is oneself, it is oneself the hope is OK more perfect.
We are true of angst is him, it is the age, it is the bewilderment that affective is short of estrangement to face life pressure to bring.
Everything what what do is to conceal of the heart can't bear and forsaken fear --
It is to fear oneself are inferior to others, it is to always hope to be able to win and unwilling to lag behind.
Eventually is dissatisfactory -- malcontent husband, marriage, go and present oneself.
Admit and we learn to promote the rehabilitate of ego capability only, promote oneself the capability of each respect, ability won't make an a person adept in martial arts and given to chivalrous conduct that swing boiler, won't place the hope on others body --
Hope child or husband will assume him affective to be short of caustic.
Pay with all one's strength when what with one one's heart does his utmost otherwise betray what change connections to also be not answered thoroughly -- off the rails, break off a leg, arrange prepare Chinese medicine by roasting it in a panbig gun, affair, that is life really a catastrophe.
And I can not want to persuade you, fasten angst, wanting Buddha is.
Rather, I want to tell you:
Angst is not evildoing, it is better to explain you hope better life and hope are encountered oneself.
What you should do is the hope that absolutely cannot let others assume you, want to learn ego to grow.
And grow best time is now.
Total someone says: Talk about money, too common. Is wealthy person different angst?
Money although common, but the square field surface in the life cannot leave it, a lot of problems in life, rely on to be able to be solved of Qian Zhen.
The value with the biggest money perhaps is not what to can give you, can let you do not fear what to lose however.
Resemble Su Mingyu, how does former unripe family can't bear, can never mind, she is rich.
Bottom gas of the woman, safe feeling and attributive feeling, when can letting us be in those who face the life to be able to 't bear namely, still need not fear, in feeling, need not go depending on anybody.
Be in " Venus is beautiful " in, liu Tao says frankly her show marriage breath shadow, husband to go bankrupt, reappear repay a debt, oneself are holding out pregnant to still accompany the experience of the marital go on a journey of depressed disease.
She says: "Danger of the life after my marriage is as unripe as annulus, exceed my place to want, perhaps be this unexpected is labyrinthian, make I burst forth firm, face up to cross and do not have dread. Face up to cross and do not have dread..
Yu Xiuhua says: "I also had had libidinal heyday, had had the night that all of body and mind cracks. Had had the night that all of body and mind cracks..
You look to be connected star or the life of celebrity is potential also full ground chicken feather, what is more,the rather that we.
Liu Tao arrives 34 years old of the easiest angst 37 years old in the woman in, ceaseless him breakthrough, hurry on with his journey everyday take sport, on her body you see the confine that is less than the age and anxiety, be opposite however the world still retentive enthusiasm and effort.
So, our angst when, still can learn the fear that explores him heart, learn how ego is contented, learn the ability of love, let a heart become stable with abundant.
Want you to begin only, infinite likelihood is waiting for you.
Wish you are OK with angst associate with, can take wind on foot, yun Danfeng is light, body and mind is abundant, comfortable and delighted.
