" toot... " the aerosol of small beautiful edge and kitchen is being done " fight " , the edge is preparing rich dinner to family, thinking the child to put a society to come back happily originally, but what did not think of to accompany child footstep however is a cry however.
Have one's heart filled with anxious small beautiful to see the child this pair of appearance, very feel distressed ask path child produced what job, ground of rain of beautiful belt of child criterion pear and her say " mom, xuan Xuan is too abhorrent, I am fed up with him! " the small beautiful that hears this word can'ts help the heart gives birth to fury " this small Xuan Tai is beyond the mark, it what did after all is beyond the mark to what did after all the thing let my home baby suffer so big grievance, do not have courtesy really, I must look for sometime his parent goes judging judge which is right, go down to return so again Oh? Go down to return so again Oh??
Next small beautiful is had his heart filled with considering comfort the child, planning how to help the child resolve this worry in the heart, and inadvertently and other, but when the following day small beautiful should look after children when look for theory of Xuan Xuan's parent, the daughter says to did not want to go actually, let small beautiful greatly rusty.
? Resemble this kind of negative sentiment of above child, parents should from time to time metropolis bring into contact with, because child itself is flimsy, and the mood is very changeful still. So our parent can see the child easily each not same mood, sometimes happy very complete, sometimes sad very dinkum.
But these moods can resemble as transient as a fleeting cloud always to the child same, those who come is fast, those who go is fast also, letting the guardian is incomprehensible very.
Still be in those who be mood place insecurity of the child to be no good at that time obviously, but later him do sth over and over again terrible, the child is mixed however the person that do not have a thing is same, why can you create this kind of appearance so?
The child achieved this kind of status, because mood reaction of the child is temporary,basically be, won't last very long, in this moment, it is reincarnate that the child ases if to resemble like becoming the goldfish that only 7 seconds remember.
So, parents were not necessary too of too exaggerated child experience, every time the child still is done not have how, you fell into enemy hands above all however, but this also can understand, after all parent insecurity child is perfectly justified, but when having, we want to be able to distinguish an opportunity or circumstance, and also should remove a very good belt to move action to the child, do not produce misdirect to its at least.
To that thing of A beautiful daughter, a Juan has asked about a daughter later, why so angry at that time, but be fed up with a small room later,highed? The daughter says: "High a small room grabbed my toy namely at that time actually, and I like that toy most, I am very so sad, be to be fed up with him dead simply. But after the event feels, he also has played the toy to me, so I am not fed up with him. So I am not fed up with him..
Actually this is the child, the A Juan after understanding just realizes some moment to still cannot be opposite really the child's mood too truer, not was necessary not only, possible still meeting gives the child shading.
Child of a lot of moment sufferred subdue or when the mood is bad, the parent can be in do his best for a short while comfort them, seek for the child again subsequently rough. And this kind of psychology that always feels him child sufferred extremely big grievance, won't let child heart get balance and effective protection not only, still meet a child take sideslip, what the child can run accordingly is more flimsy with ego.
Hit an example to say when to the child walks, did not take care to throw a fall, originally oneself are done not have too too care about, the likelihood is to feel to little aches, but you feel the child ases if however got be subdued extremely bigly. Not only oneself are frightened procurable without sufficient arrange, return pair of child exorbitant insecurity and protection.
Can let the child feel he may get really so very great harm, such bagatelle is encountered to be able to have very large reaction again when him after this oneself so, feel oneself are very pitiful, and this namely the child that we mention's very weak performance.
And as to say the child becomes ego, namely because of the parent too too care about the child experience, too the place of too partial child, too too for child consider, can let what the child feels he should suffer excellent long so much originally take seriously, you everything should be core with me.
Even he still can take this kind of idea to the following experience in, put forward to others ineffable need some requirements. Become very selfish, very rampant, and such person won't be liked by everybody.
So, the parent should as early as possible transform too exaggerated child the defect of negative sentiment, because this is probable,be to be in gradually " poison " the child.
Can be the negative sentiment to the child, the parent cannot sit by and watch is paid no attention to, so specific how to treat ability appropriate?
01. pacifies undesirable mood of the child to become relevant knowledge
When should facing the child's particularly bad negative sentiment, the parent wants the can seasonable mood that stabilizes the child, is not he also go accordingly energetically apply colours to a drawing, make mood more expand.
Additionally the parent still needs the development of specific understanding a got-up affair, what is understanding the reason that the child generates such sentiments, also can help better settlement so problem. And without giving thought to,the wrongest way is the parent the be partial to of thirty-seven thousand one hundred and ninety-one and indulgent child.
The daughter that says A Juan for example and oneself say to be fed up with Xuan Xuan's thing, and the mood is very bad at that time, what A Juan should do is should comfort a daughter above all, do not make her mood so intense, sit next well communicate with the daughter why the daughter can have so big opinion to Xuan Xuan, also avoided so at that time oneself misunderstanding and the misdirect to the child.
02. help child expresses a sentiment correctly and undertake introductory to its
When child mood bad to perhaps produce directional deviate when, the parent should help the child convey them to think expressive mood correctly, is not cry through crying, the grievance that this kind of clamorous mood will come convey him heart and lopsided.
Subsequently the parent should undertake the dredge of thinking to the child, when telling the child to face a such issues namely how to think after all, how making gift is correct, rear the child such thinking system, exercise the child to be in when encountering similar issue next time still can rise to the occasion.
After saying to return the home when the child for example, howling ground and you said to also do not think again and play obviously, because give me mother obviously,bought new shoe walks dirty, he is very so furious, also do not think again and be in obviously, the frontier says to return an edge to censure furiously obviously a variety of bad. This moment should make clear that parent above all Hunan thing is how to return a responsibility, those who ask the child is to step on your shoe intentionally obviously still walk innocently. If the child says those who walk to the other side is intended, you should church child should learn good-tempered, make allowances for the other side, and state with the other side you walk to my new shoe, I very not happy, hope you do not want next time again such. If the other side is innocently, you can teach the child to say the metropolis in our life cannot avoid such small error more, stepped on you not carefully obviously today, you will step on the other side not carefully possibly also tomorrow, so we should handle this kind of issue with gentle state of mind, and do not hold in the arms with so intense sentiment.
So the parent should know even if the child expressed very intense negative sentiment with you at that time, also be provisionality, we do not want too the sensitive rate that increases the child, and should as far as possible go pacifying the child and the mood that guides them how to convey them correctly, this ability is the rightest processing kind.
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