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Concealed marriage, did I become wrong?
Princely article is exploded " concealed legitimate child " ascend small gain to heat up search.
To female of 32 years old, this age, itself of knot legitimate child is a poor and common thing, it doesn't matter but of the Eight Diagrams. And regard the public as the character, a female star, concealed marriage this thing with respect to stamp painful female of field of one part duty.
Tell the truth, I feel her underground also give no cause for more criticism.
After all, the actor is to rely on acting and talent conversation, should not lend machine hype privacy, make public privacy.
As the female strong person that the career has, princely article also has certain famous degree, return concealed legitimate child, perhaps be the privacy that stems from protective family, perhaps be other reason, our unknown.
But on duty field " concealed marriage " this responsibility is increasing. Why is everybody willing to make public marriage?
Most propbably marriage this heavy chains, held back a career not only, also block up other possibility. Without domestic be a burden on, won't affect the preferment of duty field, still can use sexual glamour to profit, scarcely again can good.
Before before long, qin Lan in the program " woman 30+ " in divulge, because industry firm some is aesthetic, can let oneself maintain girl sense all the time only, the age is largish can act only female 2, perhaps be the same as age male mother.
Watch professional career of the male instead, from 20 years old can active all the time arrive 50 years old, nonexistent what is borne period, age of nonexistent also what is discriminated against, 20 years old act blueness acerbity small unripe, 40 years old can act mature uncle, interval period was not borne among.
If the man got married, can be thought maturity is sedate, responsible feeling has take on, the job may more exert to one's utmost.
And feminine marriage, return duty field, discovery does not have his position already, after bearing, should disperse more major energy takes care of a family.
After marriage of male and female, difference is such big, bear almost the rises job way that block decided a female.
Bear the original sin that is a female
Had looked so an interesting video: " the interview that neither one man can carry " .
In video, interview official asks a few questions that pass, man one face is awkward.
"Hope you do not want the child inside 3 years, can accept " " you are fought control capacity how " " if you want to accomplish administrative layer, your sexual distinction did not prevail " ...These sexual bias, resemble the rule of a Yan Ke, each azimuth assesses the value that measuring a female. And bear broad like axe, transversely is worn female, the half is a family, the half is the job.
Do you think this is an exemple only?
These invisible doorsills on duty field, everywhere force sb to do one's bidding is worn female.
Ever media exposes to the sun piece, married not the female of Yo applies for a job, again and again by refus, reason has only, your birth resembles a time bomb.
Outstanding be like Yao Chen, ceng Zaixing explodes oneself in the speech for nothing, because bear a problem, missed a lot of good plays, within an inch of delayed a career.
Prep let alone, resemble us such Everyman, mark is mixed a few years on on-the-job field, stay up late work overtime do not work to spend a youth, had a few years of experience to still consider much point salary, do good work, even family of give attention to two or morethings, everywhere hard.
Do not have method, almost all enterprise, right give birth to Yo period female to be full of wariness:
Single woman, after meaning, should marry ask for leave, give birth to the child to ask maternity leave next.
Bore the female of a child, mean can give birth to 2 embryoes to ask maternity leave at any time.
Had given birth to the female of 2 child, seeming is safe, but she should take care of two child, the child falls ill be in hospital often should ask for leave, basically work without energy attend to.
Reality is so brutal, do a woman to mean, you should do two works inherently, one is a mother, one is employee.
" not unripe " in so say: Duty field mom is malefactor, be in the home is malefactor to the child to the mother-in-law, be in a company is malefactor to the boss.
Advertise " all-pervasive female " , it is the greatest to the female harm
Look now the name of the program also is pretty is interesting, " mom is preterhuman " , " where does father go to " . This also mirrors instead, chinese family still basically is female advocate inside male advocate outside.
When starring Ma Yi is interviewed, also had encountered this kind of problem, "As an actress and two the child's mom, the career that how has balanced you and family are you? The career that how has balanced you and family are you??
Why to balance the thing that the job and family are a female, and does the male need to grow an enterprise only? Why to bear the thing that is a woman, family or woman one the individual's thing?
Had looked so a group of data, chinese female spends the time that handling free chore, compare the man on average many 2.5 times, include to wash clothes cook, take care of a family to wait.
If value of economy of housework of global female free gets commercializing admissive, appraise value is as high as 10 trillion dollar.
However, in traditional idea, doing chore is feminine bounden duty. Because housework is inconvertible current money, without value, also cannot get a society approbate. The housework of free is considered as the altruistic dedication of out woman and love.
And now " all-pervasive female " be born, ask woman career has not only, keep beautiful even countenance, gentle and graceful figure, hall house was gotten on, the kitchen was gotten below, working family neither by accident. Still some authors are flat and direct advertise, "Good woman is the home in best geomantic " ...
It is to eulogizing apparently female, mix in the burden of aggravating female however actually psychological pressure. The god of wealth of a household is flourishing, that is the action of man pillar, once this family pillar became crooked, that is a woman this is geomantic and bad.
Because " all-pervasive woman " exist, major female have a sense of inferiority, because differ too far, it is oneself not quite good, became a kind of self-condemned excuse even, or became the target that is censured.
"Other woman goes to work at the same time, bring child at the same time, work with respect to you busy " " other woman brings child at the same time, do chore at the same time, be affectedly unconventional with respect to you " " capability of other woman job is strong, the husband that return flourishing, help husband, see you again " ...Sang Debai division has said so a word, all-pervasive woman is a myth.
Regard commerce as female elite, before Sang Debai case ever ascended blessing cloth Sibang 50 " the strongest volume " person, when husband is alive, they are smooth booth housework. Be pregnant when her when unripe darling, it is husband is in for the most part help take care of. Wash the dress to cook at ordinary times, still support her work, offer commerce to suggest, sometimes still baby-sitter helps.
More middleaged women are like us, husband is not counted on on, can crack seeks to live on.
Although family and career are nonexistent contrary relation, but achieve real balance very hard also. After all, the energy of a person and time are finite, throw the job when you, be destined to want give up family.
Dong Mingzhu says even the female strong person of Chi Zha business circles, what exclusive ashamed is opposite is the child. Arrive to get when you certain thing, renounce the greatest value of additional something with respect to need.
We can as far as possible less chance cost, abandon the thing of the least value temporarily. Must not slashing oneself become all-pervasive woman, but also do not let him confine be stranded to be in the family.
Appropriately outside force of regressive, have the aid of, can let us maintain our integrality better. "My whats go " this kind of state is very perfect, but have " I need not go " freedom is more at ease however.
