Before still be being written down two years, the People's Daily has sent an article on small letter -- " the undergraduate in sending sleep deeply: You are not unemployed, providential hard look! " critically those sit comfortably in the tower of ivory, loaf him put an end to the undergraduates of future.
Many netizens are commented on at that time, the undergraduate of these bedraggled time, had not walked out of the school, had been defeated.
Can be in a few days ago, a statement of Tsinghua university, it is to let numerous netizen astonish more.
Tsinghua university issues announcement, to Marxism institute two doctoral students are made persuade to retreat processing.
The reason does not have him, it is not absorption school work, every day dawdle.
During these two doctoral students are being read, indulge for a long time the activity beyond learning, without asking for leave successive activity of two weeks of teacher and student that did not join school regulation, research, basis " one's status as a student of Tsinghua college graduate student administers a regulation " one's status as a student be cancellinged.
These year, ben Shuobo of each courtyard school's student is persuaded to retreat, by the its common occurance of discharge.
A few students went to an university to loosen his thoroughly later, mix credit, mix diploma, do not have radical awe-stricken move to learning, daily lead a befuddled life.
In the final analysis, the stupiddest thing on this world, nothing is more... than " in the age that should try hard most, chose to enjoy " .
There is a problem on the network, you know to use what method, can easily finish a child?
The answer is docile and obedient to him, do not let him / she takes a bit pain.
Not be love fondly. On the road that grow, some harships must him child bears, some affliction also must the child experiences personally.
Tung China says, the person's lifetime is the process that be paid ceaselessly and harvests.
Form two kinds of people gradually in the meeting in this process, a kind of person succeeds because of effort, another kind because of slack and fail.
Far-sighted parents, regular meeting lets the child take these 3 kinds of pain.
01
The suffering of the life
Still write down is while still alive of lock of that 23 years old of man poplar starved to deathly the news in the home?
This accident was born 2010, this calls young limb of Yang Suo perfect, consciousness freely of normal, activity, but lazy however arrived the utmost.
"He does not wash the dress, wear dirty refuse, change again. Village person gives his flesh, food, he is hanged on eave, put all the time smelly also do not do eat. Put all the time smelly also do not do eat..
Say with its he is starved to death, be inferior to saying is lazy dead, more be inferior to saying is died by parental coddle.
Village person says, yang Suo's parents is right he very be very fond of, for the son forever tarry, give a name technically to the child call Yang Suo.
"When Yang Suo is 8 years old, when parents goes out, still carrying him with a carring pole, do not let him walk. " Yang Deyu says hall elder brother of Yang Suo.
"Yang Suo is held out actually clever, but he learns far from, also do not do work. We want severity only a bit, yang Suo tells his father and mother, his parents can find the school the following day. " the teacher says a tax when the elementary school on Yang Suo.
"Yang Suo also tries to work sometimes, after his parents sees, say, you arrive to play at the same time, fasten tired move. " village person says.
Yang Suo, father dies because of liver disease. Yang Suo's mother still is bestowing favor on Yang Suo, a bit farm work also does not make him dry. To later, maternal body of Yang Suo is worse and worse, when must calling Yang Suo to work, yang Suo works far from, one grouchy play a mother.
Yang Suo everyday faineant, his mother is assuming all farm work and chore, result break down from constant overwork. Yang Suo, his mother dies due to illness.
Lost the Yang Suo of support, had indulged early comfortable and easy and comfortable life, be willing only lazy in the home, final and starved to death in the home.
Yang Suo passes happily perhaps, but his happiness also is confined to childhood, next by oneself parental while still alive kill.
His tragedy makes a person thoughtful, to the child we always are contained in the mouth to be afraid of changed, hold in both hands be afraid of in the hand fell, but this is love, still be killed.
Was used to the child that is caressed, do not know this person is worldly more it is harships.
Was used to easy and comfortable child, disabled person was become in comfortable area, without a bit ability.
But for Yu Zi daughter of parents, it is one travels far gradually all right gradually after all, want to say good-bye sooner or later, how to want to let him face the twist of life and lead a vagrant life to in those days.
02
The suffering of predicament
Once had seen a movie, be called " incorporeal song king " .
This is ministry biography film, those who tell about is the legend lifetime of American jazz and Charles of · of rock-and-roll character thunder.
When Charles is 7 years old, because glaucoma is brought about,lose the sight, from now on dejected.
The film is true and reductive a setting at that time:
Charles is blundered be in the ground by the chair, invisible all around small Charles of the environment is very scared, his subliminal call out mom: "Mom! I need you! Will quickly save me! Beg you! I very fear! I very fear!!Film " incorporeal song king " stage photo
Mom hears Charles call, hasten ran to want uprear Charles, stop in place again however.
She looks at Charles to bend over to cry helplessly on the ground cry, look at him from terrified tend quiet, look at his erase tear to begin to feel the world with ear.
Differentiate is clear the direction of each article, extend the hand to charcoal when Charles even, by when blaze is burnable, she is silent as the grave also, weep silently. . . . . .
Film " incorporeal song king " stage photo
Was familiar with darkness slowly when Charles, when the presence that felt mom, she also cannot help again, pull Charles in the bosom closely. . . . . .
Film " incorporeal song king " stage photo
Far-sighted parents won't rear the child into the flower in conservatory, know however let go, let them feel the pain of predicament.
Popular feeling is the flesh is long, neither one mother can be in after witnessing the child to get hurt ceaselessly, still can apathetic.
But the protective circle that only child of be willing to part with or use walks out of him, let go let him experience aching, experience to be sufferred from to life fact, he just can grow, ability is in block one side alone in the future.
Because they know, predicament is the normal of life, can bear the suffering of predicament, just can sample of the life sweet.
Masiluo says famous psychologist: "Setback to the child may not is an evildoing, the key depends on him treating the manner of the setback. The key depends on him treating the manner of the setback..
So, face a setback when the child, parents needs to do, not be big package takes a side greatly he solves a problem, want to foster him to solve the ability of the problem however.
Let go the thing that allows the child to do difficulty, because difficulty also means good luck and change.
03
The suffering of study
Ceng Zaizhi on see a problem: Why most person auxes would rather the pain that takes the life, is what also do not wish to have study bitter?
Dot assist answers highestly advocate be such answers:
Because,be probably lazy. The bitter need of study eats actively, the suffering of the life... you are lying not to move it to come. . .The suffering of study can avoid, it is OK that otherwise study escapes.
But the suffering of the life, escape without can escape, avoid without can avoid.
Tell the child please, you do not take the pain of study now, the life can make you very bitter in the future.
Great the university entrance exam of Henan examinee Jiang made blank examine paper actively 2006, after the university entrance exam she ever tried to go out work, but record of formal schooling is not tall, increase technical ability of major of it doesn't matter, unusual hardships that apply for a job, give out " pressure is particularly great, often feel to I am sorry parents, had even dead idea many times " deep feeling.
Later after many setbacks, jiang Duo entered an ability school to be read more. Memory the university entrance exam, her say frankly " I feel a bit funny now. Her say frankly " I feel a bit funny now..
The experience of the examinee Chen Shengzhang of hand in a blank examination paper is more labyrinthian however 2007, he has done medicines and chemical reagents to promote after the university entrance exam, sale of plan of activity of insurance company clerk, commonweal, nightclub member wait for the job, each job is done not long, find new job often.
2008 the Ji Jian of blank examine paper ever was a child that there is talent very much on maths, after the university entrance exam he all the time flounder each district works.
Had done cafeteria miscellaneous labour, should build coolie too, had stuck one's deceased father grind placard, to culture transmission company has written soft article; On the life, he has slept the pew of park edge, had collected rubbish to change money to have a meal.
Since after-thought original a few years work the life, ji Jian chokes up with sobs, think oneself are without dignity, "Living like the dog " .
Mug of 10 years of cold windows, everyday the life of 2.1 line is dry really, but the hard look that follows the life is compared, study is much more relaxed.
Do not know from when to begin, socially " read no use is talked " begin to be popular.
Someone says: "What does Beijing University graduation have to use, be still to should go out to sell pork? Be still to should go out to sell pork??
But they said one part fact only, another part truth is, that sells porky university graduate Chen Sheng, had opened a few a hunderd schools to interlink inn now, social status passes 100 million.
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Knowledge does not change a destiny certainly, but cannot change a destiny certainly without knowledge.
Working hours is longer, it is important to feel to read more.
Be afraid of bear hardships, suffer from all one's life, do not fear pain, suffer from a period of time.
Candy eats much, the child won't feel sweet, can feel be bored with only, nature also won't be cherished, had had bitter child only, just can understand those sweetness have many precious.
So, not again doting your child, your altruistic dedication just touched yourself, but the lifetime that killed the child however.
You often always can go, the child can face the storm on this world sooner or later, did not have your protection to moment, he himself does not have independent ability again, his life is sure to step forward dimension difficult.
Far-sighted parents, know force the child, because they know, sunshine always is after harships, life does not have bilked suffering, also do not have the route that takes in vain.
What eat now is bitter, the injury that suffers now, can become in the future badge.
So, the age that must not bear hardships in this, the choice is easy and comfortable.
