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30 be troubled by one constellation in the evening, first day of the lunar year goes!

You are firm from last night orgiastic in come to one's senses, had still been in " go close to visit friend " road went up?

Respecting spends the New Year, no more than two " important matter " :

Year ago clear away buy, drive toward the home;

The 7 great aunt after year 8 mother's eldest sister, classmate party cannot stop.

So, today, open of solicit comments type " the mode after year " .

Respecting strings together kin, you most what be afraid of?

"Salary how many? End of the year award how many? Have welfare? Than officeholder how appearance? Than officeholder how appearance??

"When to take a girlfriend? "When to take a girlfriend??

"When to buy a baby? "When to buy a baby??

"When to want a 2 embryoes? "When to want a 2 embryoes??

"2 father's younger brother, just gave your Ipad not carefully fell. Just gave your Ipad not carefully fell..

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Respecting classmate meets, you most what be afraid of?

"Tore open change last year, gave 5 million compensation the money again. Also do not know to investment medium of communication there is? Also do not know to investment medium of communication there is??

"Go to Canada receiving a son to go back to the motherland a few days ago, can freeze me bad. Can freeze me bad..

"Brother, are you still carrying a room on the back to borrow? Return remnant how many? Return remnant how many??

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There is ten million to alpaca gallops and pass only in the heart, be afraid of in case do not live, blurt out:

"Be at ease, I can take a girlfriend certainly. But you also must live to be to be awaited in those days! But you also must live to be to be awaited in those days!!

These hold out nice person at ordinary times obviously, how to arrive to spend the New Year, doesn't with respect to the belt on abrupt mouth knife, mouth have block?

Actually, change an angle to want, all the year round does not meet on a few person, abrupt collect stays a long time to / a day, what can you nod a little again?

"Hello, I am good " after greeting, remain only " the house of your home, the ground of my home; The darling of your home, the dog of my home " . Accordingly, should solve " plunge into a heart " problem, must from germ -- this " can say nothing " the current situation speaks of.

Recently, I read a of Li Xiaomo of famous media person to be made newly -- " stop invalid socialization please " . Though this book basically is aimed at daily socialization, but put in " the Spring Festival " below this specific environment, also discovered unexpectedly a lot of super the socialization that gives power is politic.

China is one advocates the country with wide multichannel of arteries and veins of ceremony, person, friend. Accordingly, we can risk the risk that is plunged into to appear heart door leaf, go year after year year old years old close to visit friend, attend all sorts of friend parties. "In case can encounter an opportunity... " the person that believes 90% above attend homecoming, had had such idea.

However, idea is very plump, reality very bone feeling. Besides hear all sorts of do not rely on chart " Dong Changxi is short " , real dried food is taking magnifier to search, search very hard also.

This is not arteries and veins of person of a development at all, train gregarious time. Just be a flock of people is orgiastic, only this just.

Accordingly, if you think oneself,not be " dinner party " person, do not attend orgiastic, .

Spend the New Year 7 days, turned circuit, on good friend address book many a hundred or so comes a name. This, the person arteries and veins that is you?

Xiaomo says in the book, need manages true person arteries and veins.

What meaning? Might as well come first below count the answer of a few problems:

Inside the person that you know, is how many person reachs your home OK do oneself open freezer to take food and drink?

Inside the person that you know, do how many person there is give birthday present every year with your each other?

Inside the person that you know, how many person goes out finish sth, you are met drive the past for a short while, bend force photograph aids?

Believe the number won't exceed 20, and have these only, just be your true person arteries and veins. It is you time of investment of be most willing to, give feeling, do one's best trains the person of the relation. It is to be able to be you provide timely help, those who perfect most that individual that relies on chart.

No matter you are introversion or extroversion, no matter your ability has many strong, the gregarious limit of everybody, can be only at most between 10-15 individual.

Do not let your socialization, turn a know exactly about sth into the quantity, useless bavin that does not have quality.

What if I want to mix really,just knew then is such-and-such produce be mixed (blame amour) , contact means besides crossing-over, how can you still do?

1, affirm oneself have mutual beneficial sth used to one's own advantage.

There is a word to appear repeatedly in Xiaomo's book: Gregarious essence is mutually beneficial.

Last year uncle of double ended radius sleeker " ode can " spread everywhere to great river north and south. Substantially, the mutually beneficial with here is a meaning. Say that is to say, what can we get each other? Or be materially, or it is soulful, the concern that one-sided gives is clammy, and cannot long.

Accordingly, before developing a paragraph of relationship, above all we should see ourselves " what to have " .

2, undertake actively the 2nd times contacting.

Perhaps be the topic that did not talk for the first time, or a few stay affirmatory matter. Anyhow, create the opportunity of communication the 2nd times to each other, since to the other side it is good, also can show oneself value again at the same time.

3, the name that lets the other side see you through 3 kinds of different channel at least, remember you.

If there is collective friend between you, again good did not pass. If be single-track connection only, also did not concern. The channel of so much now communication communication, all sorts of phonating platform, want to think a little only, can find the way that allows the other side to see you again.

Gregarious software

The mouth of other

Mail phone

Visit face-to-face

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Do not make connection means unused, turn each name into the friend of vivid, just be true socialization.

The Spring Festival, it is the day with a ceaseless party. No matter be lad photograph,get together, or the first time meet, gregarious essence won't be changed.

Disregard those as far as possible " do not have a word to seek a word " the head that do not have li.

Do socialization of good person border " break abandon from " .

3 paces build serious person arteries and veins.

Had this at 3 o'clock, believe to be in on the way that seeks friend in person, you are met more gas of know how things stand and feel confident of handling them and confidence.

Still have, did not forget please: No matter you are developing the socialization of which kinds of administrative levels, in the final analysis has two words only -- genuine.

Wish you the festival plays happily, everything Happy!

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