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We live on this world, like pursuit perfect, like that real life often is to have those who be short of regret. Change character, the life that is short of regret just is real life, just be the condition with normal life.
Who can assure oneself this lifetime can happy? Life is inferior to meaning nine times out of ten, the nowhere that be short of regret is absent, what to have true perfect.
There are one billion four hundred and ten million and sixty-five thousand four hundred and eight kinds of people on this world, natural also meeting has the family with complex numerous and complicated: Have the family of marital happiness, also have the family that leaves other, have the family of the family of bereft of one's spouse, recombining family, Ding Ke, still have break alone the family is waited a moment, everybody has the predestined relationship way of everybody, also have his respective vivid way, chose themselves to assume, it is good to can be in charge of for oneself.
A hot search sees on the net: Is the life of Ding Ke a group of things with common features happy?
What is Ding Ke a group of things with common features?
Spoken parts in an opera is the herd that those have fecundity and active choice does not think to give birth to the child. Because of various reasons, they are not willing to give birth to the child, enjoy ego quite " bound of 2 the world " life condition.
May somebody feels very unimaginably queer, major after all person is willing to give birth to the child, a few people can feel not to think the person of unripe child is barpque very. My individual feels it doesn't matter worries about others very much, the family chooses so, explain this is best to them lifestyle, they feel they are planted in this " Ding Ke " in condition OK and happy, and we need not worry for them, the family has the family's happiness and fun.
Also can the netizen worries " particularly big " , if everybody does not want,give birth to the child then, not be the mankind ruined. I see such foolish comment, want to say worry about troubles of one's own imagining only.
This world is full of diversity, total somebody likes the child, somebody does not like the child; Those natural meetings that like the child give birth to a lot of children, do not like do not bring the child to this world with respect to the choice. Our everybody chooses to be in charge of in what be his, have what happiness.
This follows marry and not marriage creed person same, those who want to marry go marrying, do not want to marry lone oneself pass, also may not can have what happiness or misfortune.
Happy or what there also is what eternity on this world is unfortunate, everybody made a choice, can assume be happiness.
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Huang Tongxue is the teacher that I lead when I just worked, when I know him he is 35 years old, divorce 5 years. He does not have the child with ex-wife, they are 3 view should not and divorce. Huang Tongxue now 41 years old, but remain a person.
Meet with him before long before me, ask he still plans to marry again.
He says: "I feel to marry is a very troublesome issue, having the child also is a very troublesome issue. Looking in you probably is to feel happy, but look in me even if bother. You resemble Wei Lin (our collective friend) , a person is much nicer, now the knot is legitimate child life pressure is very great, wife does not have the job to want to return a room to borrow, still get the money of the fee that pays baby-sitter and farther-in-law mother-in-law. I am much better, more or less is a person is earned me from height.
When you perhaps see me, feel my person passes loneliness is extremely dolefully, but in fact I enjoy such life status.
I do not have plan marriage now not only, also should give birth to the child without the plan later or marry. My this person such, cannot carry for the child duty, I can be carried for myself and parents only duty. I can be carried for myself and parents only duty..
Hear this, I ask him: "That your pa Mom, be also this view? Don't they urge you? Don't they urge you??
"My pa Mom is some more advanced year when still can urge me, but in last few years they won't, they choose to respect me. The person is living, not be for pa Mom or, also not be for the child living, not be for the person that not matter more living. Take me for, I am to be my living.
Likelihood somebody can feel I make such decision is very not sensible, but rather, I am a course cogitative, analyse to what myself undertook a complete profundity, just made such decision.
Not marriage man is overcome, to other people it is miserable world, to me character is Elysium. To me character is Elysium..
I still was discussed with him about " Ding Ke a group of things with common features " how the topic of provide for the aged.
He says with me: "My life provides for oneself capability is very strong, the capability that faces loneliness is very strong also, provide for the aged is not a difficult problem to me. A person does not spend the money that I earn now at all, meet oneself put the money of provide for the aged of one part. My meeting provide for my parents, wait for me age became old the beadhouse with seek a condition good goes. My this person does not need children to come placatory me, because I won't feel alone.
Was used to, person, it is empty sky comes, empty sky goes, when should going, went. Without the soul, without so called reincarnation, do not have what ancestor more. I do not care about these, two legs to step on, also disappeared on this world. Also disappeared on this world..
Met that to chat with Huang Tongxue a lot of, I discover he considers these issues so that pretty connects to appear really.
Ding Ke also may not is a tragedy, just they very enjoy such life status, they not marriage not Yo, why is not be in charge of for oneself, also be courage laudable.
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Still what a reader sends me leave a message, very worth while and thoughtful:
"I am born in a quiet little village, the person in the village is right, everybody is known. The education that accepts as a child is the girl wants little sister of brother of clever and lovely sensible care, pa Mom hits you love you, was brought up to want to become virtuous wife fine mother, if divorce is scandal, girl record of formal schooling is married too high if going out to wait and so on a moment.
But after I walk out of a village through the university entrance exam, I saw lifetime and single female teacher in the university, also dynamic has loved but the female teacher of the divorce, have husband and wife more two conjugal love hold to Ding Ke.
I discover this moment, life is not a kind, you can resemble most person euqally living, it is marital husband's father and mother or child everyday, but the acme that you also can love yourself, active choice is alone.
The person is living it is good at oneself to want feel no regret only, no matter be which kinds of life, I feel Dou Ting is good, should not regret only oneself choice, also not this meets with on crooked future world. The times is varying, we do not know future is what appearance forever. The sunshine 20 years ago opens an umbrella is the jest of bring owls to Athens, sunshine opens an umbrella nowadays is daily only however.
Perhaps did not come, front courtyard of odd relatives by marriage and rainbow family also can become common, more people choose cash him investment is not blind much more unripe child. Each have each vivid way, about future and happy, who can say definitely again? Who can say definitely again??
You choose to give birth to the child to follow the prescribed order to choose to be in charge of for his, and bear consequence; You choose Ding Ke, the life also as usual undertakes, the day did not collapse come down, the sun or as usual rise, you live according to original foot as before.
A person passes whether happily, should with him himself inner feeling is accurate, is not how other people sees him, will give a definition for him.
What calculates " satisfactory " ?
Want to be able to have patronized oneself body only, put oneself heart, man overcomes may not of not fourth gram to have what great rejoicing or big Bei. Will meet tomorrow how, our have no way is witting, be in charge of for oneself, it is good to bear consequence.
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