" crane cry Hua Ting " : Not be prince of imperial callosity cruel, however two people do not know

" crane cry Hua Ting " the gut with burning a brain, 3 fold invert, the fragrant heart that dress of the setting with boundless air, exquisite won many audiences. Begin a few concentration, the prince desolate of collect advance personate counterpoises to earn in order to cry surely sufficient the audience is mixed to his Bei affection, and the preference of imperial desolate ancient bronze mirror and the callosity to prince make a lot of audiences much to him one is hostile to.

It is a son, why king is " it is a son first, it is official in feudal times again " , and prince " it is official in feudal times first, be a son again " ? The audience is right of prince by cruel the heart has Qi Qi, call loss for the inequitable experience of prince.

But will review begun gut again, we discover not hard, bring about him prince by the callosity that the germ of cruel is not an emperor. However what the jealousy between prince and emperor and suspicion held back parentage is expedite, the communication that is two people appeared problem.

Prince tells in Zhang Shangshu, king is about to embarrass on coronal ceremony he, he chooses secretary and not announce, oneself make stop coronal ceremony. In prince already arrest vital witness wife, do sufficient after complete preparation, still mix in emperor of father of the test in levee king. In discharge problem incident, prince to prevent by in the book makes circumvent, anticipate the enemy plays tricks, fall with Lu Shangshu carries a blame on the head and be being accused finally.

Emperor and prince concern in mutual suspicion further and further, the emperor ases if more and more merciless, prince ases if more and more pitiful, the misunderstanding between father and son is hated more and more greatly also.

And the propulsion as gut, as the communication of prince and emperor, we see the emperor's dark father loves gradually, the emperor is right of prince cannot the care that character says.

Be granted in Liu Wenxi marriage at king side the wife of a prince, prince cannot be able to bear or endure urgently the ground looks for father emperor to beg for leniency grant marriage, although begin father emperor,refused. Can be inside make imperial palace for short stays away from the capital, after the emperor is informed prince to want to win contest ejaculation willow for Wen Xi, although the emperor does not think " let prince had been won " , but emperor or the preparation of birthday character 8 that let a servent check the Wen Xi that check land are granted marriage to prince.

And in facing prince to sign up for incident in mansion, be hidden the truth from and do not send, the emperor is about to punish prince is waited for when make imperial palace for short stays away from the capital, a confess of prince melted gradually the firm ice between emperor and prince.

Understanding is pulled close filiation, also melted the heart river of father emperor callosity, opened wide the heart door leaf of prince iciness.

The most important in parentage is understanding, understanding can be overcome by every means pullback, can melt any misunderstanding and animosity.

Musical instrument of Lu of intimate elder sister is in " Yue grows, become the child the child " in tell:

Parents understood the child, learned to communicate.

The child understood parents, learned to care.

The man understood a woman, learned esteem.

The woman understood a man, go to school was met good-tempered.

The daughter-in-law understood husband's father and mother, learned to get along.

The child understood parents, know how to love parents.

Parents understood the child, know how to love the child.

Search heats up on frequency these days " doctoral refus sees sick into death mother " make a lot of people eristic in succession, inside information has him only therein witting, I dare not make wild guesses. Just from inside erst correspondence we are knowable the doctor once was a dutiful son, good child, but facts one wishes to hide let the child become public opinion mouth medium " disobedient child " .

Beyond question is when parents and child each other pay no attention to solution, misunderstanding, animosity appeared.

" small jubilate " in the mom of Tao Hong personate for exert one's utmost effort of daughter it may be said, quited the job of foreground happiness, did not remarry, alone drag daughter lives. To do not disturb daughter study, abandoned all recreation; To can supervise and urge the daughter is absorption, the bedroom changes his costume or dress glazing. It is mom this kind of bend its all love force the daughter quickly into depressed disease patient.

Do not understand the child when mom, the child is met angry, depressive, more traitorous, close child the crack between also formed chasm gradually, cut off each other warmth and happiness.

With its all things is being carried do not tell the child, be in however finally blame the child not not sensible, obedient, stick label to the child, be paid as what tell the child a few earlier us and consider.

We are not the sea, can accomplish sea Na Baichuan, satisfy any requirement of the child. But we also are not robots, it is good to need to prepare food for the child only. We are parents, it is the person of the child that accompany, person that attend, it is intimate elder sister of the child, also be growing adviser of the child.

Feel uncomfortable when us, we can tell the child the body is uncomfortable;

Pay when us a lot of, can tell the child we are tired;

Take when us hold forbid to notice, we can tell the child our idea and apprehension;

Only we told the child, the child just can know father and mother pay and work hard, the child just can understand parents.

And the cornerstone that understanding is love.

Did not understand, he Laiai, why will care, he Lai affection.

Tell the child when us, we with respect to get through the gate of parentage, walked into each other heart door leaf.

How does our parents understand the child then?

001) teach by personal example as well as verbal instrution

Dong Qing is in interview program " face-to-face " in tell: "You hope your child becomes what kind of person, you should do a what kind of person above all. You should do a what kind of person above all..

After the daughter can walk two years old alone more, I often am taking her to go to market.

Occasionally, carried course is really much, I can tell the child, the course that mom carries is very heavy, can you help me take take? She very the little bag that makes allowances for the ground to had taken me to give the past, ground of bump of fart bump fart goes in front hum move canzonet.

Although the daughter wants me to hold in the arms rarely, can shout to want me to cherish time in her, I all along unreasonable, hold in the arms directly however remove her, let her understand mom understands you, understanding you are tired, want to rest a little while. After but be being held in the arms,taking a paragraph of route, I am met to her arm of complain tearfully mom became acerbity, the daughter can understand me.

In our mutual understanding, the daughter loves me very much, and I also am touched more and more at the daughter show sympathy and love termlessly.

Yo first Yo oneself, want what kind of child, we become such father and mother with respect to need hard.

002) communicate in time

Begin the idea us and child to communicate moment when us, the child also can be communicated with us and cooperate.

Common, the daughter that is my company 3 years old mostly kisses together child read, an amuse oneself. Have paragraph of time, because I signed up on the net,the time on the line runs camp, want to learn time government, and complete work as soon as possible, but daughter as usual of 3 years old wants me,accompany play.

Then, I am in and in daughter play process, tell her: I need couplet net to attend class a little while, cannot accompany her to play, you yourself can read draw first this, did not want to look to play meeting toy with respect to oneself, when mom finishs exercise accompanies you to play.

Although the daughter is not quite willing, but before looking at me to had sat to computer, amuse oneself so that play to rise, and I give in exercise in time.

Treat the child as when us a person tells her, the child cooperates us with respect to true meeting, did not underestimate the child forever.

What the child often imagines than us is fiercer.

Musical instrument of Lu of intimate elder sister often is away on official business as a result of working reason need groom, and father is outer the job, then year young the son is in nursery school put one's child in a boarding nursery. The child comes home to be conveyed very sadly with mom, want to come home everyday. And intimate elder sister is mixed communicate, tell the child: Father is outer the ground, and him job is very busy, inconvenience of ability to walk does not squeeze grandmother to go up bus. Although the son is not happy, but the difficulties that one is reluctant to mention that still understood mom, understood mom's difficulty.

Treat the child as when us a person, communicate the opinion that expresses oneself, the child also can understand us.

003) the company can be established close child day

Conditional company can be installed close child day, allow parents this day to be able to look after children visiting company, let the child know our working state.

Be in close child day, we can show working flow to the child, let the child understand us to be in a company busy what.

" piggy admire is strange " in, pig father guides admire to surprise to see his working environment with George, let the child have to pig father thereby more intimate knowledge and admire. Pig father looks after children go seeing long way, also understood the worker's pain.

If company condition does not allow, we also can use the book related the job to tell the child our working content, let the arrangement that the child knows to we are in a company.

Know the fact that we busy everyday when the child, the child is met complain less, much considerate.

Time can pass, appearance often can go, parents can be absent, but the body and mind that parental every word and deed can engrave in the child previous generation acting according to legend. And we understand the child, can let the child learn to understand parents, understand another person, understand the society that we live, get used to future better.

We live in different times, different setting, channel of close filial generation is met hard to avoid appears, difference hard to avoid can exist. But idea can fail to meet each other, understanding is OK however and accrete.

Want everybody to give an understanding only, close child ligament is met more and more close together.