The put together that updates yesterday evening art program " happy trio " in, all along sweet explode watch, chen Yihan of close vigour husband and wife and Xu Fuxiang actually cold war!
In the program, xu Fuxiang boils bubble surface to eat to Chen Yihan. In this process, xu Fuxiang says: "Why to fasten a family in very clean, does our home resemble a factory same? Does our home resemble a factory same??
"About the same, is our home very random? I am very serious the ground is cleaned alas. Where is random? " (camera lens gives the farfetched display in the room)
Chen Yihan says then: "Do you feel our home is very dirty? Do you feel the where in our home is random? Then you go to their home. Then you go to their home..
Xu Fuxiang talks no longer, boil bubble surface quietly.
After bubble surface has been boiled, two people have because of the problem that how has had difference. Xu Fuxiang says, you eat first, you do not eat for certain, eat those who remain is good to me.
But Chen Yihan says, so good trouble, it is good that we become two bowls with respect to cent.
Two people have each idea each, the likelihood is the mood before and present mood were accumulated one case. Xu Fuxiang goes to the outside directly, still saying: Strange, indescribable.
Two people began cold war so. One sleeps on sofa, one is sitting below eave outside, everybody does not say a word.
A lot of people look this one act so that feel to be the same as experience. We also had encountered such hour in the life, more than be with other in part, can have this kind of hour with the best friend, closest parents.
Be enraged so that what word does not want to say by the other side, want to ignore him only. But these businesses that make you angry, when waiting for you to come down to think again calmly, be worth to be carried far from. You do not understand yourself why to be met at that time even so angry.
This is one the individual's mood, it is extemporaneous, beat via rising. If this moment chooses to quarrel, two people are noisy noisy likelihood was taken seriously, come in you of my go toing this kind is opposite in battle, all temporarily mood out of control can become great scourges, erode each other feeling.
So, in oneself special life, when feeling very indescribable, xu Fuxiang chose to go out sober. He sits below eave alone, do not talk, sitting silently, ponder over the thing that just produces.
Towards evening when, xu Fuxiang came down already completely calmly. He saw into house lying on sofa, downhearted Chen Yihan, offer actively to say, go ran. Chen Yihan is answered immediately, I follow you to run at the back, I accompany you, you are comfortable good.
Two people pass ran all and negative, not happy mood all abreacts came out. Chen Yihan says, any when, have the reason that can abreact. The person gets along with the person long can understand more and more additional the habit of the half, oneself have oneself method, can go slow that is nervous.
Xu Fuxiang is in later in interviewing, say, if a person is angry when, what you speak actually is incorrect, be inferior to making him sober, I feel this is my processing means. Come down to do not have a thing calmly, because the metropolis that it is a person thinks, when two people have conflict, should give each other the space.
In the process of ran, xu Fuxiang plays the hand of a Chen Yihan, two people restore good relations.
Chen Yihan says, you should adore your other in part very much, although I am apparently good,resemble giving him outer part all the time, but my heart adores him very much actually, when you adore a person really, this thing can have love.
Adoring truly is from the bottom of the heart approbate, it is to know he is very outstanding, he is very good.
In the program, xu Fuxiang cares very much all the time and care about Chen Yihan, and Chen Yihan's good to Xu Fuxiang way does not give him outer part namely, say his where is incorrect. This also is a kind of method that expresses love, only each other know and understand.
Be in before " the love of daughters " in, zhang Heng often also meets Zheng Shuang's boy friend and Zheng bright cold war. But the tacit understanding that the sort of cold war is not bilateral established by usage, however the cold force of one-sided. Below this kind of circumstance, another is brought to bear on the person of cold force is very those who be overcome, they change the attitude of the other side without method, can him blame, ask oneself after all where err repeatedly.
" nonviolent communicate " in one book, author Marshall offerred 4 measure in human association process: Observation, experience, need, request.
It is the person that treats stranger or oneself to be close to no matter, these 4 measure are very those who be necessary. Will feel the demand of other through meticulous observation, raise appropriate question next, will solve a problem with this.
We also can try to go to such doing in the life, serious listen respectfully and the mood that feel another person change, understand the requirement of other, put forward oneself request in appropriate hour next.
The way of life is so long, two people are in young when understanding, be in love, can accompany lifetime next, it is a very happy thing. We quarrel outside already much enougher, arrived in the home, make oneself sober, get along well, not for meaningless thing, destroyed each other the figure in heart of the other side.
