Recently, hunan is defended inspect first gear to be aimed at ripe age the program that the female searchs true love " like that again enchanted " sowing in heat, the program basically stars around 5 divorce daughter and man of people of 30 high grade element spreads out, in by a definite date the true love that belongs to oneself is searched inside time of 21 days, the program broadcasts caused extensive discussion, especially the amative view of elder sisters is to cause heat to discuss more, for instance the Bai Bing in the program consults to Jin Sha: Should otherwise of the schoolgirl when appointment arrive first?
This problem is in reality also regular meeting is encountered, and total still meeting sees a few people suggest, the schoolgirl when appointment must arrive later than the man, the expectation that can reinforce each other feels, actually my individual not so think, if can arrive early,feel instead, can make this appointment more successful instead, reason is as follows.
1. time keeping is basic and formal
In daily human contact, appointment is indispensable, and between appointment, the most important is time keeping, can be spent without who to your spare time waiting to go up. Especially in on-the-job field more apparent, likelihood you are late one minute to be able to miss a very good interview opportunity, perhaps lose the business with brushstroke sizable income, issueing time keeping in such condition so is very important. Meet probably someone says, sweethearts appointment is not to talk about the business, why must come by the dot on time? But you should understand, appointment also is a kind of communication, develop the process of ego, it is sweethearts, if do not become time keeping,return a responsibility, feel your of course such as others, so you also can sell at a discount greatly to the impression of the other side, the appointment journey of hypothesis the other side is more compact, cannot arrive early because of you however or be late and throw into confusion rhythm, so how do you let the other side want?
So the schoolgirl need not go intentionally on date time pressure of the other side, whenever should do a punctual person, if can be on punctual foundation in advance 5-10 minute, I believe the other side is met to your view very different, the attention that because this enough sees you,dates to this, the other side in the process that dates in two people for this also won't wait for you slow.
2. conversion thinks
Just think, if be others,arrive early, can the first your mood that sees him be how? It is to feel to be taken seriously for certain, feel the mood is cheerful, next appointment of open of ground of two people joy is itinerary. Same, if you arrived, discover the other side still is done not have, can your mood be what kind of? Angst, angry, fire is big, although the other side explains the reason perhaps expressed his regret, can your mood change suddenly? Very apparent won't, since such, why cannot arrive early a little while in appointment? Is the generation that reduces this kind of negative sentiment more helpful to appointment? Accordingly, handle this issue, it is very important that conversion thinks, learned conversion to think, the result is natural also with respect to clearly.
3. respects others to be equal to him esteem
Look be like is the very common problem between a sweethearts, but however accumulate containing esteem and by esteem, hypothesis and the object that you date are boss, it is a colleague, can you still have such bewilderment? Affirm, meet even go early not self-consciously, because in your heart the other side needs to be respected, the schoolboy that why dates then does not need? He also is the associate on your life road, by what be about to be not respected? Say light be feeling is not formal appointment, need not so care about, saying to weigh is not to respect him, and if things go on like this, also can let the other side do not respect you, the likelihood just began the man to be able to indulge the woman, feel to wait also just as well, but time became long he also is met be agitated, also meet grouchy, and go to what moment woman had been used to the man to await, the man loses patience already however, can be at swords' points only as a result so, affect appointment result thereby, rather such, be inferior to mutual at the beginning respect.
So, whether does the schoolgirl need to arrive early to be in appointment, I consider as what need very much, the place that considers a person only thinks, the place that reachs a person and, just can harvest equal esteem and reliance, be to your view what kind of? The welcome discusses together.
