3 view have much more important Piao consistently after all the 280th night
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" China 80 hind datagram is accused " statistic is released, be in " the which condition that values a spouse most " in, 3 view are unanimous conquer disposition, outside, economy, jump house the first.
A lot of people surprised to this one result, fine nevertheless fine presumably, 3 view are unanimous crucial really. And in future, 3 view disagreement also will become the one big main factor that affects marriage.
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What is just real 3 view disagreement?
You like to read a book, he likes to play game, this does not call 3 view disagreement;
But he says to see a book what is used, do not install namely literary? This ability calls 3 view disagreement.
You like to go Western-style food office eats beef, he likes to discharging archives Lu to string together greatly, this does not call 3 view disagreement;
But he says that plaything is too expensive, not delicious still, say you are really feigned, this ability is 3 view disagreement.
You like holiday to go each district travels, he likes to be curtilage in the home, this is not 3 view disagreement;
But he says what travel has amused, do not spend money to meet with namely blame, lie in the home much more comfortable, this is 3 view disagreement.
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Actually, 3 view are unanimous, not be a requirement just the same of means of your interest be fond of, thinking, however each other can seek common points while reserving difference, know include, understanding and appreciation.
Otherwise, you share pleasure with him, he feels you are in show off; You pour out with him sad, he feels you are argumentative. The person that shoulds not with 3 view gets along, tiredder than moving a brick, because he won't know you at all.
You say the sea with him but true beauty, he says you do not know here drowned how many person;
You say to spend modern drama of 480 guard the threshing floor, he says these money see 10 movies quite;
You make up everyday dress up, he says you are smelly beautiful; You insist to go gym, he says you spend money in disorder;
You like to buy a flower to decorate the home in, he said to be defeated, so expensive still, buy it to work!
Looking in you is the thing of follow a rational line to do some work well, became unimaginably queer in his eye.
03
You change his acknowledge very hard, he also won't understand your think of a way, you do not go up in a frequency forever, get along rise nature is very tired.
Be in especially beautiful money on this thing, often become 3 view to should not most centralized contradiction erupts dot.
For instance, I have a good friend, 51 when go out to travel with Laogong. Travel agent provided two kinds of formulas at that time, one kind 1800 but include shop, another kind 3500 pure play.
She wants to choose 3500 pure those who play, but since be a destination,Laogong thinks, pick cheap be to one's profit of course, even if be pulled shop, be not being bought stoutly is.
But the good friend thinks, cheap formula, the eating affirmation that live is poor, and be being pulled by the tourist guide even nose goes, waste a lot of time in shop on, essential with respect to no point. Two have husband and wife not easily very much time comes out to play, what should play of course is a bit more to one's heart's content.
Finally two National People's Congress is noisy, travel to did not go not only, still be troubled by so that part on bad terms.
Such example, have in the life many.
Small the coffee to a few, arrive greatly the car of hundred thousands of, because too much marriage consumes the different roughhouse of view.
And in wrangling, we forgot first heart, actually first heart " very " , it may be the pressure that wants to look for a place to loosen next lives and job well, the likelihood is the force of two-men of husband and wife that wants to look for a place to play a romance. . . . . .
But at the outset the heart is touching disagreement of on 3 view, tragic wind up, as time passes, nobody remember this trip again first heart, even of marriage first heart!
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Lin Xinru has told the story about her mom so:
Forest the person that mom is a grace, fall even next buildings rubbish, should clear away apparel validly orderly. Forest father appearance is brilliant, can make money very much.
In alien eye, they are a pair of created by nature, but in Lin Xinru 12 years old when, they divorced.
Forest mom says: "Other is very good, but be less than too, after all, all one's life too long. All one's life too long..
So forest mom likes to raise a flower, but forest father plays cigarette ash always however in past flowerpot, throw butt; Forest mom loves clean, but forest father does not love to bathe, dress chaos is thrown; Forest father is can make money very much, but accompany rarely however forest mom.
Later forest the stepfather that mom encountered Lin Xinru, he can give forest the carelessly of mom that spend a flower buys beautiful flowerpot, also can wash the dress actively to clear away the home, and still can accompany forest mom takes a walk see sunrise, study cookbook together. . . . . .
Although be very small business, but the heart was become before the person that shoulds not in 3 view tired, in the person eye that agrees in 3 view, became comfortable.
So, the person that is about to look for a 3 view to agree at the beginning is together.
He likes to play game, but also support you to read a book;
He likes to be curtilage in the home, but the fun in also be willing to listen to you to share journey;
He likes Lu to string together, go discharging archives greatly, but also can accompany you to walk into Western-style food hall.
Saying not to love is next, long be in not tired ability is the most important.
All one's life very long really, money, appearance perhaps can decide you may be together only, but 3 view decided you are comfortable do not suit to step down.
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Mr. Wang Kun says: Between husband and wife " resonance of the ability that be the same as frequency, communicate ability lay one's heart bare. The core with 3 unanimous view depends on understanding, include and communicate, and these are lack of the place in major now marriage, we want to control control the other side even, but often forgetting everybody is independence is individual, we are controlled the more, the other side is apart from us further, the problem such as mock of brawl of husband and wife, each other, cold war also can grow in intensity, move toward emotional burst finally.
Life view is unanimous, won't differ because of lifestyle and turn the home into battleground;
Monetary view is unanimous, won't produce a lot of contradiction because of the problem of money;
Life viewpoint of value is consistent, won't because do not have a word without common language,can talk;
Educational view is unanimous, won't cause difference because of educational child, bring about the parent and child not happy!
If you had not married, search please with oneself 3 view as far as possible of press close to;
If you had married, but the other side follows your 3 view disagreement, must accomplish hard please communicate, understand and include, participate in same study together, grow jointly, make our 3 view are close to ceaselessly.
Best marriage, have collective way namely, grow hard together next, make feeling more harmonious thereby, make the life better.
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You feel to be in matrimony, it is not important that are 3 views weighed after all?
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We disappeared not to come loose at 10 o'clock tomorrow evening ~
