"After the university entrance exam ends, the son says to want to be loosened well, have a meal with the classmate all the day, see a movie, amuse oneself, successive two days did not come home, I fear this kind loosens the action that became abandon really, make the child was caught ' abuse ' . " yesterday, mr Zhang worry says heavily.
Take an examination of try successive two days did not come home
Yesterday morning, mr Zhang that works in company of medium of a culture says, his son is in Xi'an east outskirt one high school goes to school, study extraordinary tension at ordinary times. After the university entrance exam ended on June 8, that evening return to school after the vacation beforehand appraise 620 minutes. This result that he studies to the child is very satisfactory, feel the child tightens close Zhang Zhang at that time so old, one excited, say to the child, you want how to play now, want security only, do not give an accident to go. The wife returns the child 300 yuan, let go out to be loosened well with classmates.
Letting what Mr Zhang did not think of is, the child makes an appointment with additionally 3 classmates 8 days night, go out together 9 days in the morning see a movie after amuse oneself, have a meal, sing, before dawn had arrived 10 days when coming home much at 1 o'clock bell. After much at 10 o'clock 10 days morning bell gets up, go out to looked for a classmate to play again, had not come home afternoon up to 12 days. The son is more sensible nevertheless, one day should hit a few phones to sign up for to he and sweetheart restful, say he and classmate play these days hey. 11 days of before dawn are much at 1 o'clock, the child says he is in classmate home, agreed with additionally 5 classmates, preparation goes to Nanjing travelling, he also promised the child at that time, let a wife plan baggage and charge to the child.
"But, a news that see from the net in the morning make me suddenly afraid rise. Of press is Wuhan after a schoolboy attended the university entrance exam on June 8, one box beer was drunk when meeting with the classmate that evening, mad just come home to 9 days of before dawn, play game again then, about friend kickball, dozen desk swim, drink... 11 days in the morning, this schoolboy feels lightheaded, the station also stands flabby, after fainting, be sent into the hospital by parents. After I see a story, worried to rise at a draught. " here when, abrupt halt, say then, "Ought not to let him become really at that time ' bolt bronco ' ... "
Indulging psychology is " Shuang Renjian "
To this, professor of horse of division of psychology of spirit of a large hospital says the suburb austral Xi'an, annual after the university entrance exam, examinee " blowout type " apolaustic behavior common occurance, but, indulging psychology is " Shuang Renjian " . If loosen,turned fine long hair into incontinent apolaustic behavior, not only helpless should stimulate condition at eliminating, and accentuate possibly still already some psychological problems, bring new harm to health of body and mind even.
Professor Ma says, the apolaustic psychology that should let the child is had can charge a sex, the parent should participate in scheduling of summer vacation time more, helping again after the plan that hears the child first give an idea. If the child's plan is healthy,mix active, the parent ought to provide the support of each respect for the child's activity, to the child " loosen and do not indulge " behavior gives seasonable award. The value that the parent shares depends on the acknowledge of a child, mood and behavior, guide the orbit that loosening to go up.
Zhao Lili of our newspaper reporter
