Netizen of Anhui old city " happy sail head " released small gain to express a few days ago, oneself this year 18 years old, since elementary school, be invaded by cousin sex act indecently towards be as long as 6 years, during this, family persuades her to get Rao Ren to be in all the time and Rao Ren.
As a result of this kind of behavior of the cousin, caused very great psychology umbrage to oneself, relapse for this from incomplete, suffer from went up depressed disease, angst disease, attempt to commit suicide for many times even. Local public security bureau is in after be informed this one circumstance, had acquired connection with party, intervene launch investigation.
One, acquaintance sex is invaded act indecently towards, a lot of victims are not understood by family member and circumjacent person, suffer because of this even " the victim is guilty " the attack of argument.
1, most sex is invaded, happen on acquaintance body
Mention a gender to invade act indecently towards, the metropolis in the brain of a lot of people imprints give a such picture: The night of a pitch-dark, on the way home, by a stranger from the back take everything into one's own hands lives, next, pull a dark corner. . . . . .
This setting is a lot of China females' set thinking pattern, so, be taught as a child: Come home not late, the person that do not go up in the road and does not know talks. However, findings shows, in minor female, the children sex of 85% above is invaded happen between acquaintance, "Cousin " , " uncle " , " uncle " , " elder sister's husband " , " neighbour " , " classmate " wait to all be high frequency word.
Often encounter such thing to happen, the reaction of a lot of people is to fear, defy allude, feel very ashamed, next, the choice is silent, say like place of a netizen: "Remember be invaded by sex of hall father's younger brother in those days, because small not dare utter a word, was brought up now, want to see he feels very disgusting only, the shadow in the heart is not so easy take out. The shadow in the heart is not so easy take out..
2, " family scandal cannot outside raise " , let a lot of parents choose silent
Have some of child that is invaded by the gender, destroy in what suffer the body and spirit to go up hind, feel helpless when trying to appeal to parents, a lot of parents can feel fab, panicky, sadness, indignant, self-condemned. Then, act on " family scandal cannot outside raise " idea, very much parent chose 3 close its mouth, because be in their eye, the child is invaded by the gender act indecently towards the thing that has been dishonour, by kin act indecently towards can let more whole and familial unconscious be ashamed.
More terrible is, a few parents show pair of victims do not understand, scold, cold-shoulder the child or be immersed in pessimistic despair in. "Sina hotspot " a netizen ever expressed, oneself are in year young when, what ever encountered kin is act indecently towards, after telling mother this thing when oneself, the result was to be hit, be scolded next thinking of age of small off year such insalubrious.
This thing, brought very big psychology impact to this netizen, after as a result grows up at be in, answer household to live rarely, the relation with parents is very cool also.
3, " the victim is guilty " argument, turn the victim to deeper hell
More those who make popular feeling painful is, often happen the female encounters the gender is invaded or act indecently towards, total somebody challenge for a short while victim: "Be your dress too was exposed? " " why doesn't the girl come home in the evening greatly? " " the word that you ought not to say, allude others? Allude others??
All these doubt, do not pass even if want to show a view, the victim is guilty. Think the victim encounters misfortune namely, it is the thing that what oneself did to be worth be murdered certainly, try to debase to the victim at the same time, censure. In the person eye that condemns a victim, the victim must be " perfect victim " , namely 0 fault, just be innocent likely.
Guangxi 11 years old stay behind female child be invaded by the sex of old person collective in the village. Ever since, for many times in order to threaten, the method such as menace, rape this child. Most the brutallest is, because the child is crossed by humiliate much, not only sympathize with without the person, meet with instead whole village is abuse. The accomplice of the person that these violating, turn the victim to deeper hell.
Hellion worse, because everybody knows perfectly well him,be hellion namely, however nobody station comes out to point to admit, use instead " the victim is guilty theory " this kind absurd the idea that is without human nature again, undertake bespatter, defile to victim, and meet only so the person that even if is violated more be insatiable, endanger more people.
2, undertake to acquaintance the gender is invaded act indecently towards, the inner status of the person that violate
To what be familiar with young female undertake the gender is invaded, besides impulse, the influence of the disposition with oneself of the person that violate, manner, former unripe family is inseparable.
1, insufficient to life confidence, self-abased, pressure is great
This kind of person normally introvert, not to be pooh-poohed and person interact, to the life the confidence of each respects is not worth. Can choose year young female child as the object that abreact, it is to feel to they did not prevent and resist ability, can highlight more hold accuse feeling and power move, will young on child body " go human nature is changed " characteristic extreme is changed. And, because of the child year young ignorance, right the behavior of the person that violate also does not know is how to return a responsibility, accordingly, won't cause acuteness revolt or serious consequence.
2, show oneself " manly " , change female thing, label is changed
Some people think man spirit is the gas of coarse Yang Gang by accident, in sexual relationship, the male should learn conquer, the female should learn to be obedient to.
Add much instantly with each passing day in independent, mature female, often can give " old man creed " the male brings a kind of oppressive sense, be opposite when them " manly " when feeling disturbed, the means that may injure another person with a kind offsets drop of this kind of psychology. Then, the target the lock is the girl of muddled surely, in order to come true they " I have authority to get a gender " screwy idea, change female thing, label is changed.
3, narcissism character cause trouble, invade through the gender young female, search psychological balance
The person of narcissism character, everything is a center with ego, in interacting with circumjacent person, often can appear " be besieged on all sides " , harming others while, always feel the society is owing he.
Face the increase chain of this society and food chain, they feel they became forsaken loser, accordingly, meeting choice compensates his psychological unbalance through retaliation. And the gender is invaded beside familiar young female, in letting them compete in psychology, found a dominant position, feel oneself are done not have so failed.
4, the traumatic experience that comes from former unripe family
Some people, in childhood times, because parents is right oneself long-term oversight is cool, bring about the disposition that close and is not willing to communicate, after manhood, can appear in affinity a few problems.
Have a few people more, in childhood when have the memory that once was invaded by the gender, this kind of experience left deep harm to them, as time passes forms a kind of clammy psychology, down to is met after manhood make similar move.
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3, the harm of sexual enroach on to a child
The gender is invaded those who bring the child is more than it is the ache on the body, more is the harm of mental respect. The psychological shadow that childhood period leaves, often can affect lifetime.
1, suffer from easily on mental disease
Encounter a gender to approach act indecently towards incident, the child can generate scared sentiment commonly. Year young the child of a few may feel ashamed, can appear greatly a little excessive and self-condemned debase with ego. The feeling that the flashback of traumatic memory and scar concern can emerge to come out now at any time, appear then insomnia, nightmare, phonism, psychedelic and break away from reality, such for some time abidance, the child suffers from easily on angst disease and depressed disease, develop mental disease possibly still.
2, the moral quality with occurrence greater contrast changes
After the gender invades incident happening, the child's mood can get very big impact. Meeting Yi Ji offends some children, get angry easily, the mood is indignant. Some child moods will be very low, behave even if " hair fade " , hide even rise.
Also some children can feel alone, do not cry to be troubled by, be in coma condition, this kind of performance says for " mood shock " , it is the reaction that a kind of ego after encountering excessive and intense stimulation protects. Patient of multiple character obstacle is childhood more very had sufferred the person that the gender is invaded and abuses.
3, after be brought up build abiding affinity very hard
Although the psychological scar of childhood times is forgotten after manhood, the scar that bears also can be gone to by the depression subconscious in, according to psychoanalysis theory, anguish remembers mood of the melt into inside the meeting, or outside the problem such as melt into behavior, human relation.
Ever sufferred the girl that the gender invades, lack safe sense mostly after manhood, build stable and abiding affinity with other hard, to the male, become wariness is heavy. Some girls from now on evasive the association with the male, still a few move toward extreme of other one party.
4, how defence child is invaded by the gender act indecently towards
Children are very pure, innocent, be cheated easily, by harm. We cannot the bad person that full ferret out locks in shadow, direct and the most essential, efficient way still teachs the child, let them learn ego protection, be far from harm.
1, build good parentage, communicate communication with the child everyday.
Parents should master the child's mentation at any time, listen attentively to the word that child place says seriously, if the child tells,some uncle or aunt play together, this moment was taken care all the more with respect to need. If discover to there is minor injury on child body, there is wave motion on the mood, appear a few bizarre behavior are waited a moment, want to give positive attention. Want the child since education to face unpleasant feeling, free expression, be brave in " say not " habit.
2, tell child privacy clearly place must not others is touched
The parent can help child learning make clear his body bounds stage by stage, tell child privacy place to only oneself and close talent can be contacted, have father mother only or the doctor is in necessary when just can touch touch. If oneself do not agree, someone else contact is to encroach.
3, once encounter a gender to invade, want to learn adapt oneself to changing circumstances
Parents should make the child clear, in the contact with other, if judgement goes out,be bad contact, come down calmly as soon as possible, think method leaves wittily next. If force cannot contend with trespasser, also escape without the opportunity, be encroached below the circumstance that have no alternative, not with jumping the building means that harms him life comes make a stand against, want to had protected oneself life.
