China is formal state, courtesy breeding only then from Meng Tong. In real life, no matter reside the home to still go out travel, receive a visitor or visit friend, celebrate condole or have dinner, courtesy nowhere is absent.
When countryside is resided, what 10 lis of 8 villages pass through to send the flesh end of the year is consuetudinary. Of course, the weight that sends the flesh, flesh to who is to have cultured. According to tine of position in the family hierarchy, foreword, give smally send greatly; Custom established by usage, the person that grow two generation sends 4 jins, the others is 2 jins. This is courtesy. If should send 2 jins sent 4 jins, the person that suffer not only " Faith is measured " , still can go to fleshy go back. This shows, courtesy is order, custom reflect.
However, courtesy passed still not as good as, gu Jin manages. Pure the wording and purpose of what one writes of world of bright end chapter has a gold to be born, he sends a person flocks and herds, felt bright and beautiful is worn on the Dai Jinzi on the part that wants flocks and herds, body. "Pass the number that it is affection, many duty the door, its and this person 10 gold are undeserved one gold also. " look in Zhang Shichun, courtesy surmounted each other mutual affection, spare part can rise counteractive, see thereby duty at the person.
Courtesy has betrothal the scanty, action that is not the same as different, bright dispute. Between father and son, between husband and wife, between guest, between the comrade, the courtesy of this choice is different. If use wrong, had been used, contact can change flavour, meet bad custom and ethos.
Song Shi, northward folk does red white happy event, have the person that be in charge of a ceremony, they are called " Bai Xiren " . Han Qi of prime minister in feudal China attends party of one marriage home, with respect to experience Bai Xiren's courtesy. On banquet, han Qi took a litchi from inside dish, bai Xiren sings Nuo loudly immediately: "Endowment politics eat litchi, ask numerous guest to eat litchi together. " Han Qi feels uneasy, litchi replace dish, bai Xiren hallooes again: "Endowment politics do not eat litchi, ask numerous guest to put down litchi. " Han Qi laughs helplessly for it.
The person that cross courtesy, what your person avoids is wary not as good as. Of Ji Xiaolan " read small careless hall to take notes " have a talking, tian Baiyan ever helped Ji up with the friend, invited hill of gentleman of concealed of end of the Song Dynasty civilian. Talking about, some customer is sent suddenly outside some guest arrived, hill civilian hears acoustical escape. The other day answer fall, hill civilian explains: Two guests that arrived that day, a the ways of the world is too dark, "Meet to have lipsalve surely hundreds " , it is beautiful as what avoid; Another idea too close, courtesy too carry, to the deliberate of word word word of others, I am unable to bear this kind to make excessive demands, "Reason flees escape to fear especially not fast ear " . The character of ghost, the person's thing. The feeling of hill civilian, accord with reason.
"Courtesy is much person, the person needs danger Bei " , this is judged or have break biased. But conclude not hard, give others the person of excessive courtesy of purpose, or thinks " ceremony much person is not strange " , installing in or heart small 99. Below this kind of circumstance, connect on reason be illogical, they are not to consider those who go up. And too exacting to others courtesy person, they think " the person respects me I am flourish, person irreverent I I namely disgrace " , not be afraid that others courtesy passes and numerous, be afraid of humanness place cheap. In fact, no matter which kind of, do not take off peacockish, argumentative, it is to lose watermelon, collect sesame seed.
Head for Guangdong ban opium forest criterion when go to one's post of Xu Li Beijing, ever issued a document: "All pointed old residence, use meal of the daily life of a family only, do not do whole desk feast fully surely, must not use bird's nest barbecue especially, with section waste. This blame is polite, do not reason is violated... the person that require search must twist report namely, the illicit person that send decides travel spy ginseng. V/arc upon its promulgation the law shall be enforced to the letter, abide by of each appropriate report not is violated. " between the lines, healthy atmosphere grand like that. With the name of the law, refuse extravagant, needless courtesy, highlighted forest criterion Xu Lianjie is acted according to fair, devoted to of post excellent personal integrity.
"The crucian carp in husband gully is filled with feet, and the person feels big; The eel in the river counts foot, and the person feels small. " the one feet in brook how long crucian carp fish, people thinks already very big; Jiang Haizhong counts the eel with long feet, people thinks to return a little bit can bigger however. This is spent namely, its root establish the heart at the person, in certain group scale cardinal principle is same. Courtesy has degree, when using, 10 thousand cannot because the illicit of oneself breaks through it, exceed norms.
Everybody can see, these year, of barback " courtesy " also changing. Issue basic level survey, decrease I am afraid I have to go now to be the same as, simplify recieve; Leader cadre is walked on new, simplify greet send, do not get treat; Office attends a meeting, little flower, removed towel. Courtesy is more relaxed, more custom, brought a common practice not only up to good, also be helpful for army using energy and material resources in " edge " on. Carry out a proof, place courtesy in a proper place, at the person at the thing beneficial.
Courtesy is more relaxed, more custom, brought a common practice not only up to good, also be helpful for army using energy and material resources in " edge " on. Carry out a proof, place courtesy in a proper place, at the person at the thing beneficial.
