Watched a paragraph of video today, it is the spot that first gear organizes technically for old people dates TV program, there are 12 female honored guests on the stage, a male honored guest. Carry 3 segment respectively, male, female honored guest issues understand one another in the guiding of compere. Male, female honored guest carries the problem such as state of member of income of interest interest, wage, family, body, living condition straight face quizs each other.
The question that raises from these old people can see, if enter marriage, face a lot of problems with respect to meeting, basically be responsibility and obligation most.
1, marriage is just as the one leaf bateau in boundless, need two people of husband and wife already make concerted effort delimits good paddle good helm, still need those who notice it to bear force, excess load certainly will causes disaster.
Marriage should assume due responsibility and obligation when thing both sides above all, this means marriage is a kind of enjoyment that makes a person cheerful not just, and accompanying heavy burden. If the liability that marital place brings exceeded the psychology of both sides of husband and wife to bear ability and spirit bear ability, so, bateau will be very fast by embezzle of tremendous ocean wave place.
2, ideologist Luo Su has said a paragraph of word: "It is difficult that existence is returned to wear additionally one kind in contemporary marriage, the person of those value that can realize love most is experienced to this the deepest. Love can develop, wanting it only is to be mixed freely initiative; If think love is a kind of responsibility, it can be eliminated. It can be eliminated..
The person always is to enjoy cheerful go loving with sweet ability, and won't be to increase a burden burdensome and go loving, on this problem, the other and all thing as what we see be used to from social boss sky is same, be without egoistic brave to carry the business of heavy burden, see inaccessibly, marriage also is such.
The happiness of the life after cherishing pair of marriage is envisaged and the people all without exception in be passionately in love steps marital hall, regretful is, things go contrary to one's wishes, often be happiness disappeared very quickly, and problem and responsibility are like development however medium child is bigger and bigger. Of the right and obligation oppose directional development, make marital boat can'ts bear heavy burden increasingly.
3, the unit of economic accounting independence that the family regards a society as, limitted the person's activity, make person and the outer world are in another kind of relation in, habit and daily life burden are changing the feeling of person and person.
After one individual marriage gets married, his whole life structure also immediately produced change, he begins is feel truly above all from already of materially not free.
The demand of materially, domestic worry abouting thing, the bagatelle of the life took greater and greater place between his interest, his life seemed to come at a draught a take a sudden turn, such turning world of the whole mentality that changed a person, whole innermost being, its meeting and onerous and as dry as a chip housework influence are weakened together, those who extinguish emotional force of the person and love is all.
4, be in especially show level, people begins pursuit generally to enjoy, but of economic base fatigued and weak, make the party of a lot of marriage must be economic would you mind day and night, all the day with contact with of fuel sauce vinegar, with the dirty clothes that does not wash, housework associate with that does not do, still get an excrement child of region of a make water, the old person of lackey old age, the close friends that dinner party of for company smiling face comes and go, the hardship therein and trouble are not in a few words can be conveyed come out, if think to wanted to have love only, all these is as dry as a chip insipid bagatelle can become make a person relaxed and happy, that is an illusion purely.
5, so, passed the old people of years rinse, in marriage on choose idol problem very sober, very actual also. Before numerous responsibility and obligation, the force of Angus greatly inferior. Cannot for only divert oneself from loneliness or boredom is alone, go seeking a partner. Must not get the 2nd times again marital harm.
