Foster the child's process, the heart that is a marathon type repairs refine, the child grows in can have a lot of " branch " , for instance dingy, lazy, piquant, do strange, face these problems, parents often is returned can calmly ground is solved. But " the child lies " the forbidden zone that is a lot of families, it is the igneous explosive barrel of direct rile parents more, it is absolutely flagrant.
Parents is special fear oneself child becomes " the child that puts a sheep " , once Mom of a lot of treasure discovers the child has lying sign, appear particularly excited, light berate, beat and scold again, good make the child long nod memory. Parents forgot it seems that, had we also said a lie in one's childhood?
If discover cheeper appears lying phenomenon, the parent need not worry overly, because this is almost,grow the thing with inevitable phase. Actually the child lies have a reason, affix to child easily " lie " label, do not have dug backside however because of,move, that ability is most let a person break down.
Appear when the child " lie " phenomenon, parents cannot punish the child blindly, want to understand the child's lying reason first however, next again specific aim ground does specific guidance.
1, the illusion is become reality, expect " the dream comes true "
The child is 3 two years old when, be imagination explodes canopy when, in their world, be impossible and impossible, also do not have " right " and " wrong " standard answer, see a few things, add oneself imagination, can machine an all sorts of magical things, conception gives all sorts of bridges paragraph. Add a vocabulary finite, the language conveys ability to owe beautiful, can braid consequently piece all sorts of " lie " .
For instance child of 2 years old saw the Chinese rhubarb duck on lake face in the park by day, special love, ask mom can come home its belt. Mom tells child to say cannot, if this duck volant word, can guide it to fly back to the home. What mom says is " if " , it is hypothesis condition, but child face about comes home tell grandmother, the Chinese rhubarb duck of face saying a lake flew back to the home. This regarded the imagination as namely reality, the child still attributes involuntary lying level.
2, screwy fact, cause parental attention
In child child times, with the child most close is parents, parents can have a variety of human relations in society, but the child's relation is more onefold, special depend on parents. When them discovery is passed exaggerated its demit, when the influence that perhaps enlarges a few things, can cause parental attention, satisfy oneself better thereby, or some more floriferous time is on him body, so the child is met ground of do one's best is done so.
Xiaoming is children staying behind, parents all the year round outer work, he lives in grandfather grandma home all the time. Nursery school opens new year's day this year welcome party, xiaoming and mom call say for safe for the purpose of, the school stipulates parents must be accompanied, grandfather grandma is no good. Mom examines minutely again and again, he says again: "Calculated grandfather grandma to come, also can stand outside the door only, cannot come in to play with darling. " face flaw 100 crammer, mom still came back, she knows the son is to think her, in cause parental attention with lying means, accompany him morely thereby. Mom is after the mood that pacifies good Xiaoming, also point out so doing is incorrect, after returning acceptance, can communicate more.
3, ego protection, play truant
This kind of type is most common, because err thing is afraid of,accept penalty, so the child makes up all sorts of reason and excuse come play truant, realize ego protection. On January 17, chongqing cloud Yang Shatuo is pressed down, a pupil of 10 years old says he is going to school be walked along by two stranger capture on the road, the parent is frightened so that call the police rapidly.
According to the view of this pupil, "Come down on the car one male one female two people, the hand that grabbed his satchel to still pulling him procrastinates forcedly went up a minibus, drove next below red flag bridge, take the advantage of two people to call carelessly during, oneself just took two books to pulled open door to escape from satchel. " classics investigation, the truth is the child does not want to write line of business unexpectedly, oneself desertion satchel and exercise, made up this monstrous lie, the ursine child of appropriate appropriate.
4, exaggerated its demit, satisfy vanity
Occasionally you can discover, of the child vie heart and vanity are even more serious than adult. It is especially after instantly material condition is great and contented, talk big also makes a kind of way that shows off between the child. Envy oneself to let others, the child also can speak the crammer of a lot of irrelevant sometimes, boast him home has how many car for instance, vaunting grandfather home has how old.
Occasionally the child can make up painstakingly a story, reach unusual degree even, often making up making up make up no less than going to, oneself do not know this how wind up. Of dot this kind is lying, it is the boast of a kind of innocent and mischievous type actually, the attention that is conceivable others only and envy just.
Do not want to go to school install collywobbles, this kind of method seems to have magical magic power, generation generation ground acceded to come down. Because cost of this kind of crammer is low, the effect is not bad. Some child still can scatter bigger lie, niu Niu comes home to say with mom one day, the school should organize spring outing, need parent prepares lunch ahead of schedule to the child, the lunch of children is shared, because this is special,enjoin mom to must be done most the chop of expert eats, such ability won't be humiliating.
You look, children can lie, reason does not imagine like adult so extremely, also not be the bad child of what hopeless. Seek the ground that accurate child lies, next redo has specific aim rectify and reform, mend the fold after a sheep is lost, when be not late!
The crammer of 3 years old of the following children, because,be mostly active imagination, forgetful wait for a reason, not clear to writing down business fills by the imagination complete, attribute involuntary lying action. Pedagogic home Professor Shiluke says Germany: "Child first time says falsehood is a of his growing process significant progress significantly, lying mark wears the child he had the imagination, action that initiates a gender, and with surroundings contact with. " so the parent of this moment, need not be eager to correcting the child's error, also need not expose his crammer, guide its to distinguish however reality and visional, will represent his recognition to the world with more accurate, substantial term.
And to the behavior that lies intentionally, the parent is about bring to sb's attention.
1, church child is honest, set oneself an example to others
Above said the reason that so much child lies, not be the behavior absolve that should be them, the parent should tell the child, honesty is a kind of high quality, also be every child's necessary character, and rather than is optional.
Lie, no more than is to be in the behavior that conceals uneasiness of some kind of your child, discovery lies the parent mights as well guide the child, look not to lie meeting how, the result also is done not have so flooey, parents and child discuss the method that resolves an issue together, give the child sufficient credit. Tell the child, honesty is an upright person, above all can the heavy psychological burden that debus causes because of lying, relaxed go into battle. And dishonest, can come with a crammer only round another crammer, future trouble is boundless.
Parents wants set an example first in this respect, do not lie as far as possible do not look for excuse, the business that promises the child must do, those who cannot come true not easily promise, make a good example to the child.
2, the reason that makes clear Hunan lies
Face the child lie behavior, the parent does not want to be scolded blindly, and should come down to do clear child to lie calmly first the truth of backside. Because err thing fears punishment,looking is, still did not get be satisfactioned adequately because of some kind of demand, also or it is the talk irresponsible that vies each other. In make clear because of,Hunan is moved hind, redo is corrected and help sb to get over his worries.
Did not speak truth in the child before, avoid by all means gives the child " next covering " , parent openness is waited for, tell the child with real operation, honesty has money reward, but the child parents that lie also did not abandon, accompany all the time however you are helped face a problem beside you, solve a problem. Let the child say open-armed word with the parent's accredit, form kiss goodly child interactive relation.
3, the opportunity that makes up for fault to the child
Parents should let the child know, lying should pay price, want to be in charge of for oneself behavior. Do not advocate beat and scold, but the opportunity that can make up for fault to the child. For instance the child broke a vase into pieces to be treated unjustly however go up in feline body, so the parent is OK in order to deduct the means of partial pocket money, let its undertake redeeming. Let him know, err thing is about to pay price, but know a fault to change, it is good child.
Anyhow, after discovering the child lies, we need to judge the purpose that the child lies carefully, again careful choice handles way, the most important is the parent wants set an example, establish the model that has had, child of a side overshoots difficulty.
I am candied mom, it is division of infant of an advanced Yo, also be the mom of 4 years old of darling, in Yo any problems that encounter in the process can ask me, hope my a bit proposal can help you solve the trouble in the process that bring child and quandary.
