Ceng Guofan: Have the person of brains truly, do not hand in greatly with these 3 kinds of people, i

Ceng Guofan: Have the person of brains truly, do not hand in greatly with these 3 kinds of people, in case the upper part of the body of ask for trouble

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Believe to know the person of recent history, to Ceng Guofan won't unfamiliar, he is late Qing Dynasty one of 4 names official, still be home of a special far-sighted politician, writer, a Confucian school of idealist philosophy of the Song and Ming Dynasties at the same time, the Hunan that and still was founded single-handed has great reputation quite at that time army. In addition, ceng Guofan has ability very much not just, there also is very deep attainment in the respect that know a person, he disentombs and promoted late Qing Dynasty the Li Hongzhang in 4 names official and Zun Zongtang.

And, ceng Guofan is on the be related that manage the home, also having oneself original opinion, stay " Ceng Guofan a letter from home " still be acted according to to be by later ages classical. And in book of this a member of the same clan, ceng Guofan has allude: Have head truly, can become big implement person, can keep away from 3 kinds of people, won't hand in otherwise greatly to be met with its the upper part of the body of ask for trouble. So, which 3 kinds of people be after all?

Above all, the first kind is lower than oneself to those positions or position person, hold in the arms with proud or the person that disdain. Such person often heart high morale is proud, be in successful when be pleased with oneself, and frustrated when, what can blame the manners and morals of the time is unjust. And do not interact with such person, because be opposite such person is nice, won't get how response, belong to a kind " useless result " . And, such person often can communicate negative energy to you, let a person if he is general,also become cynical.

And, such person often can have extremely strong envious mentality, meet the person with more outstanding than oneself bear grudges, still can plant this " outstanding " was attributed to rearward of the other side to make what snappish. Get along with such person, the meeting that often lives is very happy, often can encounter the other side " throw a damp over " , affect oneself life.

Next, the 2nd kind of person is those are fawned on, the person of fawn on. Such person, what there is superior only in the eye is good, even if bad it is good to also can say, inspect a leader to be " be the acknowledged leader person " . And this kind does not divide pair of faults " support " , often can affect your viewpoint of value, the view that brings about pair of worlds thereby is changed subsequently. And, if your viewpoint and he is one day different, so he can hate you, it is to hit even press you.

Still have, such person special be good at foment dissension, after displeasing him, meet provocative the relation of you and boss, cause your impressional suffer a disastrous decline in boss heart finally, do not have err obviously what thing, suffer " unexpected disaster " . Accordingly, want to leave such person a few further in the life, cannot hand in greatly, otherwise the upper part of the body of very easy ask for trouble.

Finally, the 3rd kind of person is the sort of debt that offers others, regard as manage place ought to person. In real life, this kind of person is very common, also be us at the same time special a kind of nauseous person. When seeking a help to you in a few people especially, helping a person originally is mutual affection, the word that does not help is devoir, get along after all the relation does not have particular situation, everybody won't help a person actively.

But, there still is a lot of to be happy to help honest person of the person in the life, they appeal in what face another person when, won't choose to refuse, often can use up oneself greatest effort to help him. If of honest person help is the sort of " manage place ought to person " , so, it is good to his you that they are met, regarding as is place of a manage ought to thing. After this, such person is met more so incontinent that what beg benefaction like you, want you to refuse only, he is in with respect to meeting bear grudges heart, everything what he helps before forgetting you.

Be just like, a child looks for you to want candy to eat every day, you give every time, one day you forget took, he can think you are intended, have resentment to you.

Accordingly, honest person is in when coming up against such person, should know refuse, after all you can be helped he temporarily, cannot help his generation however, "Award a person to be inferior to giving a person with the fish with fishing " ! And, if you promised to help him, fail to succeed however finally, so he still can blame you conversely instead: "Without diamond, still pull china to live " ! Is this to the loss outweights the gain? So, honest person should see well after the state, go helping another person again, do not want the goodness because of oneself, and bring unexpected disaster to oneself.

And Ceng Guofan is a hope, we can understand through knowing these 3 kinds of people: The action of a person is decided by the heart, although there is good person on this world, but also can have evil person. What we should do is, the person that affects us from those meetings is a few further, not close evil, not become enemies, act on " of gentleman hand in weak like water " the principle that make friend is OK.

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