Protect the joyance of other, it is a kind of taller goodness.
01
From gym the way home, go in front of me to sweethearts, the girl complains aloud to the boy friend: "The dress that she says to I am bought newly actually resembles bedgown, enrage me dead, every time such, won't say Orphean word, the dress with respect to herself is lofty go up, have grade with respect to herself, of others is ground booth goods, others is earthy old hat... "
Listening to her complain I remembered suddenly a long time ago oneself.
Just rested the boudoir honey of maternity leave says with me, she encountered a person that disappears for ages, the family saw her the first word is: "After you give birth to the child, old a lot of ah. old a lot of ah..
I say for fun: "This kind of person ah... what still disappear later is good, so ill good people. So ill good people..
Boudoir honey says: "What the someone says also is truth, I may be old really. I may be old really..
I say: "Girl of 1978 years old calculates gave birth to the child to often can go where, it is to take baby for certain tired gaunt, you should rest more later, a bit better to oneself. A bit better to oneself..
She says: "How do I feel you can talk more and more now, previously ah, conversation sentence sentence take an injection, the word that speaks now always lets a person feel so comfortable. The word that speaks now always lets a person feel so comfortable..
I say: "Junior once upon a time ignorance, acerbity when forthright and sincere. Know to want the feeling of apprehension others now, make others happy regard as oneself! Make others happy regard as oneself!!
02
What appearance am I former?
Write down that years 3 high, produced I remember the thing that can feel compunctious all one's life, classmate of a junior high school goes to my school seeing me, because did not see 3 years, his change is real too big, white before fair and snow-white Adonis, exploded later the whelk of one face, so the stature of 175, change went to a meter later 9, so, stand until our class doorway calls me when him, how I also want not to remove him is who.
Take an entrance till me, look up at him for ages face-to-face, looked up and down for ages, just react suddenly come over, probably because too open-eyed, I actually truly ponders the ground, before about a hundred student that there still is one whole passage in whole class, the voice that uses 120 decibel said: "How do you become so ugly! "How do you become so ugly!!
My day, recall that one screen now, think to him kowtow says to I am sorry on direct genuflect ground very much really, his awkward face at that time my eternal life is unforgettable, originally the laugh of one face tenderness is worn see me, I say that word, his expression arrived with respect to deadlocked on the face, next those present erupted the whole room burst into laughter.
I am adv unimaginably, should be what kind of good-tempered ability excuses me to give what man-made becomes at that time the sort of embarrassed, but he just was stupefied to count a second however at that time, the head that tapped me gently next says, "Disappear a few years, talk or so caustic, go, take you to eat delicious. Take you to eat delicious..
Warm cried, have wood! I feel sincerely at the outset that does not have a heart to do not have lung, selfishness to arrive idiotic I can spend childhood and early youth safe and soundly, because the person beside is too kind-hearted,be absolutely.
Still have, every time somebody bought new clothes to wear rise let classmates evaluate, total somebody is pointing to me to say: "You let her look, she does not say lie. " but actually, do not have a person to dare let me evaluate, because of person of my true very miserly boast, it is to throw a damp over simply specialist.
03
Because do not speak to pass the question of cerebrum, also have before me had written, our home grandfather advises in earnest had attended several classes to me, he feels conversation hurts a person to do not have breeding namely.
But dot always is the definition that has a few mistakes to human nature, for instance we are met identify affectation for others consider, regard small knife mouth as forthright and sincere, regard complimentary others as flattery, regard the defect that points out others honest. Even sometimes even if knows utterance oneself undeserved, always be however very easily excuse oneself, say with others next: "I am well-meant, it is the mouth too straight. It is the mouth too straight..
But actually, others does not care your original intention, what others cares about is the result of your behavior. The talk is too straight, this behavior itself had made ill will, because of your utterance, harm others.
A lot of years ago, chat with the grandfather once, I say: "If have some of thing, you feel bad namely obviously, even against one's will come to an agreement or understanding? " he says: "You want to know, what occasionally others needs is not your proposal, they want those who listen is you to praise. They want those who listen is you to praise..
I say: "Is that very false? I can not think so hypocritical. I can not think so hypocritical..
The grandfather says: "Your look upon a person when, cannot set out from oneself be fond of merely, very fatter than consistent individual, she may wear what dress really very won't good-looking, but to herself, perhaps wearing skirt is more good-looking than wearing pants, wearing black is more good-looking than wearing white, you should learn to see a thing with the eye of the other side, should learn to enjoy the advantage of others more. Should learn to enjoy the advantage of others more..
I began little to know the word that he says at the outset later, liking the defect that points out others is not forthright and sincere certainly, however your vision is narrow the advantage of invisible others, liking complimentary others is not hypocritical certainly, also can be a kind of goodness. Person and person interact, always cannot be a pair " I very forthright and sincere, I very cruel, I have what to say what " manner, should be at ease others in, consider oneself be fond of not merely, also want to do little hard for the joy of others.
04
A word sees on the net, deep think like that.
"Protect the joyance of other, it is a kind of taller goodness. It is a kind of taller goodness..
Yesterday, do not contact with a for a long time, but what each other know is very deep the friend that can saying is awake photograph cherish chats, I tell her I had a male mind, also tell her, I again self-abased arrive in dust, next she is very sturdy say: "I do not know your male god is what kind of, anyway I feel you deserve to go up very good and very good person. Anyway I feel you deserve to go up very good and very good person..
A very common saying is not, but gave me whacker power!
Although we can persuade ourselves also persuade others: Walk along oneself road to let others say. But the person with again powerful even if also does the word that is less than pair of others to did not enter a heart absolutely, won't have otherwise " gossip is a fearing thing " this kind of idiom.
You can imagine yourself to live in a kind of environment, the person beside can point to your defect say everyday: You fat, the clothes that buys newly is very ugly, your eye is too small, the face is too big... it is gutty be born to feel without what can love.
But if exchange these words into praise and honor, what affect possibly is you not merely everyday the mood, in still having your eye oneself, especially not quite self-confident to those person, one is encouraged, one praises, accredit, to them character is provide timely help almost.
So, do not grudge please oneself kindness, want not always to point out the defect of others, try to be encouraged to others more and praise. We may not become a great man forever, but can choose to blend in goodness however daily trifling in.
Your little is tender, in making others life possibly greatly good, vice versa.
