The key depends on how finding a balance to nod between ego and setback, let him study face a setback.
Because cannot be changed,frustration sense is or manage some business, and the mood such as the anger that cause, angst, trouble is experienced. The generation matter that the setback feels may be very complex, cannot find out it to come from where even sometimes. However the mood that frustration sense can erode us, let us be on the road of life emergence orbit.
But in fact, life avoids a setback impossibly, the setback is met the square field surface such as consist in school work, family and job, because this key depends on how be between ego and setback,find a balance to nod, let him study face a setback.
Let oneself have recover from an illness force
Yale spirit science and education awards Suosiweike (Steven Southwick) express: "Most person is envisaged more toughly than us, resemble fine fine branch can be blown curvedly by fresh gale, won't rupture however, he believes, anybody can train let oneself have more recover from an illness force. Anybody can train let oneself have more recover from an illness force..
This kind can the calm faces a setback, lending machine ego adjusted ability is ego recovers from an illness force. Why does the scientist have some of person to be able to be brave in to face a setback in research, some people discover when cannot recover after a setback, this kind of ego recovers from an illness force is to be able to be passed through take exercise those who reach, this also is besides ego major ability, the most important amulet, can make oneself successful connect those who live life to try refine.
Train 6 methods of openly energy
Cha Ni of dean of college of medicine of Yi Kan of Xi Naishan of American new York (Dennis Charney) express, since the setback is not had,can avoid, so take exercise recover from an illness force, it is important all the more to walk out of predicament. Squeezing the meeting after holding like balata spring back is same, have recover from an illness the person of force also can let him rebound from cereal bottom.
Lifehack is offerred provide 6 practical meanses below, can let sense of our conquer frustration, let life return to orbit:
One, dedicated today
Program future is admittedly important, but face unknowable future, hard to avoid can have setback feeling, we should not let this kind of feeling destroy our mood. This kind is anxious to what did not come, OK and knockdown anybody.
Put the central issue in future with its, be inferior to well dedicated today. Today just is us a day when have truly. Cannot come again yesterday, tomorrow also uncontrollable, only today, we can do anything.
Put the central issue today.
2, do not compare with other
This society was full of originally competition and quite, do not have commonplace doubt at this o'clock. However company group the be current of media, have the power of add fuel to the fire more to this. Want us to get online only, the life of others likes a magazine general, lay open is in we at the moment. Write down sincerely right now, everything what what we see, it is insufficient only the reality with true, burnt Ji , like covering as the magazine.
Most person is known perfectly well such, still cannot help wanting to be compared with others, next frustration sense searchs easily come, for example your number that press assist is inferior to others a long time. So try one, two chapel do not get online. Although we lie,one cannot do not have the times of the mobile phone, we still need and family, friend, job is contacted somewhat, but we can delete all needless companies on the mobile phone group.
Have bit of difficulty possibly at the beginning, because we are given by the habit,kidnap and restricted. Passed a few days however, always stretch his hand no longer when us go taking a mobile phone, pay close attention to the number pressing assist inside, or when the new announcement that is bright red group group, qing Dynasty of a kind of god enrages the feeling of bright to be able to arise spontaneously, our life can enter normal practice, with the person relative frustration sense also is met die.
3, for life infuse new idea
Most person thinks his life is invariable, find out frustration sense very hard to come from where right now, this is us the dilemma that inflexible life place faces.
What condole weirs is, no matter although we live the life of happy joy,we live what kind of life –, we still can feel the day is inflexible and drab. The formality of day after day is pushing us to advance, also make our walking faltering at the same time, lose power.
Do not mean us to should resign instantly right now the job, leave family, buy piece of one-way airline ticket to hide far.
Try to be in invariable life, add into new change. Trying to do that you want early to do, think all the time however him impracticable thing. Or it is to put down some we made for a long time, however already nonsense affection, this kind of frustration move that does not have cause can disappear possibly.
4, cherish have
People total habit goes pursueing better thing, for example better relationship, better job, better oneself... , we put the central issue on the thing that we do not have, forgot to go to what had had cherishing us however.
If we encountered not satisfactory thing on the job, so see what what we have other. Ask oneself at the same time, do I have good life? Am I cherished around the person thing beside me?
We can be found certainly at least same the thing that we cherish, be admired well and appreciate it, our frustrate heart can get be pacified.
5, the calm faces scar
Life is inequitable. We are located in different life starting point natively, have different life form. Some people may be when childhood, was faced with the psychological scar that we never experience, or the unpleasant experience that is associate with, stayed to wipe the pain that destroy hard in their heart.
The old injury of this kind of associate with was not obtained solve, regular meeting is caused in people heart unidentified so frustration sense. Right now exclusive and effective method, face up to associate with only, ability puts down associate with truly.
This does not mean you to need instantly psychological consult business (although some people have this need really) , the method is very simple, want to admit the old injury in the past only, with respect to the heart that can release oneself. Understand oneself more only, him understanding reacts to the mood of certain circumstances, ability drives out this kind results from the frustration sense in the past.
6, be brave in to face fear
Frustration sense may come from at the fear to some thing, the likelihood is a huge thing, also may be form by the bagatelle of accumulate over a long period. May be only at the beginning we do not wish to touch touched petty thing all the time, as time passes, it is bigger and bigger, turn our heart into medium frustrate feeling and fear, let us hesitate to move forward.
Overcome scared method right now, cross an one half step everyday only, go contacting that thing that makes us fear. Can discover next, the thing does not envisage like us so flooey. More marvellous is, our heart can flounce off scared chains accordingly, experience the freedom like unrestrained and far -ranging.
Successful person is the road is found out in the setback, unsuccessful person is to look for excuse ceaselessly, even full of remorse. Since the setback is to need the process of classics, find the method of the change only, ability turns round a situation. Only we find out frustration sense quickly to come from where more, ability casts off it quickly more. Do not be fear of so face a setback, walk out of our comfortable circle only, ability lives better life.
