Belong to invalid 6 praised hole, parents should notice to avoid!

Praise the child ought to specific, clear, namely " allegation fact, acknowledge a fact " . The toy consciousness ground that sees the child is messy for instance " content puts in former office 's charge " , can take advantage of a favorable situation praise: "Very glad to see you arrange a toy, this convention is really good, baby should hold to You more later! " and a little general expression, for instance " dishy " " very fierce " " really able " for the child to devoid judgement and resolution, can not be clear about oneself " club " particular facet. Do not have incentive effect not only,

Easy still encourage his conceit.

Learning dance recently gradually, there is time this day night, mom asks her to come " domestic show " . Jumped gradually paragraph of dance that the teacher just taught. Mom compares cowardly child at ordinary times to encourage, not hesitate oneself " lying " . Then, see enraptured ground say: "Baby jumps but beautiful, better than the teacher! Better than the teacher!!

Proposal: Original intention is good, but effect may not is ideal. If your praise let the child listen to going out is a holiday, what can make its lose pair of parents is trustful, also feel disgusted naturally your evaluation and praise. Actually, the detail good qualities of affirmative child is same can incentive child, ran Mom can say " the movement that darling kicks a leg that today is very beautiful ah " " that action that throws a head is old cool, mom wants to learn with you " ...

East Africa often likes a painting east, attend formal study to still do not have how long, in this painterly match in garden with respect to bear the palm. When he tells mother this one good news, get such praising however: "You drew a picture to win a prize unexpectedly, it seems is not stupid. It seems is not stupid..

Proposal: If praise the fine words when the child bad say, be being revealed actually is the parental doubt to the child and distrust, virtually can hurt its pride, let him felt meddlesome to do also do in vain. The attention that can gain parents the child is him hope hard and approbate, if you give genuine admiration, the child will be times more enthusiastic add. Believe east east mammy sees child bear the palm is hit also is glad in the heart, might as well openness praises: Baby is drawn really well!

Sincere sincere single-minded devotion builds building blocks, built an again and again, build a success eventually! He calls mom gladly to see his " work " . Mom is in and boudoir is sweet " talk on the phone congee " , hear the call of darling, looked at say: "Build so that have originality! " tell a telephone call then again.

Proposal: Similar case is not scarce, some parents hinder at oneself the limitation of current activity, praise more at will, simply. But whether had you thought the child's feeling? The child can think: The building blocks that mom builds to me a bit disinclination, what I build is bad, is mom grouchy? These doubts and suspicions can let the child lose one's head. Actually the child's accost is more share and expect: Share oneself complacent work and close person, approbate and encourage what expect to win mother. Have this case again, you knew how to should be done!

The child is differ in thousands ways originally, accordingly, suggest you undertake praising according to specific characteristic of the child:

● age

The child with small age, because its are cognitive,ability and judgement ability are in preliminary development phase, also come from the explicit evaluation that parents, teacher waits for to his understanding. Accordingly, can apply ability to praise give priority to, for instance " can help mom pour rubbish, it is a young assistant really " , the active affection that can make the child very fast comprehend parents is conveyed, the way that expects according to parents thereby develops.

The child with largish age, for instance after 3 years old, its acknowledge ability and judgement ability had further progress, the child can differentiate simple dispute, still can make simple ego assessment. Parental face should adopt a process to praise to such child give priority to, for instance " darling holds to him to go, did not let mom hold in the arms, it is good child really! " this can let the child understand this process that good deed fashions, understand how oneself should be done.

● individual character and ability

Ability is strong, self-confident the child with higher heart, their performance is more excellent, the chance that is praised is more, accordingly, the proposal is used fore-and-aft relative praise a method, the past in praising the child to complete the process of the task namely and present performance are comparative, the small cap that folds for instance is much more orderly than before, make the child rise further on the foundation of oneself; Also can take reservation " concealment praise " means, for instance " this small cap that mom likes you to fold very much. " prevent the child to generate arrogant and complacent sentiment.

Ability is inferior and self-confident the child with poorer heart, they give the performance that stresses now inaccessibly, accordingly, appear when its when progress, parents should capture detail in time to behave medium a bit progress, undertake to the child ability is praised, stimulate self-confident heart of the child, make the child have greater progress, for instance " wear the dress today need not mom is urged, really much better. Really much better..

Consider to discover, complimentary kind is different, the result that produces also differs somewhat. For instance, if you are complimentary,car of a driver leaves very well, he can not feel glad certainly, because this is planted,he hears the word too much. And if complimentary his badminton is hit well, he may feel very glad.

To praise means to add variety, besides phonic spoken language, return usable and breathed limbs language: Look attentively at dedicatedly, knowingly the thumb since smile, enthusiastic hug, vertical stroke is to telling the child, you are very satisfactory to his practice.