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About " groups Hangzhou is small ride bicycle to be caught go in a direction not allowed by traffic regulations, the cry on each other's shoulder after picking up the telephone " the discussion of this news, had been in know first place of hot a list of names posted up hanged two days continuously, browse more than 20 million times.

A what thing is this?

A boy, successive a few days work overtime 11, at 12 o'clock, the girlfriend when working overtime that evening calls say to did not take the key, he sends the key by bicycle. In road coming home because cycle go in a direction not allowed by traffic regulations, be barred fall by the policeman.

Receive a telephone call when him, throw the phone suddenly, break down in public on the ave --

Cry wail, kneel down to the policeman, run suddenly to the side of the bridge. . . . . .

"The company is urging me! The girlfriend did not take the key to also urge me! " " I am sorry, my pressure is very great, I just want to cry. I just want to cry..

After crying, the boy still comes down very quickly calmly, apologize to the policeman, leave. The girlfriend is waiting for him, the company also is in wait for him. Adult does not have time to break down, of adult breaking down is quiet silence.

But we look get, the mood that he has erupted is the truest.

About this thing, we want to recommend a psychology to seek advice from cliff of division king snow to tell about " mood management " article, hope you live no matter again tired, also do not forget the feeling with him real attention.

When should breaking down, be about to abreact come out.

Civil / Wang Xueyan

Yes, mood to individual will tell, have protective sense. Every kinds of mood assumed corresponding function, help us understand our underlying demand.

Annoy when us, indignant mood can remind us to reject to perhaps be far from harm sex experience;

When our joy, joy can help we and other establish safe relationship;

When our sadness, this kind of mood meets those who hint the certain anguish of our heart needs a security release a passageway again.

Etc.

Mood itself is the cent that does not have stand or fall, have ruinous is the demand that we reject mood place to communicate, impertinent to the mood perhaps management pattern.

Face different situation, we can shift different psychological resource. Faced personnel, setting is different, the pressure that we feel is different also, bring into play also should differ accordingly to mode, bring about what arise finally to answer means to also differ.

The expressive means of the mood from elementary to advanced have a few arrangement.

The first class, body expression.

Why disease of a lot of body and mind, for instance cancer, hypertensive, the disease of system of gastric ulcer, immunity. . . . . . It is the body falls ill obviously, is total however meeting touched with psychology above?

Because of these disease backside, the pressure that often has beyond expression sentiment is being done strange.

When the mood is able to convey, it is not to disappear at this point, become all sorts of pressure stockpile to be in the body however, have charge to body organ, come out finally with the means expression of the disease, this kind of circumstance calls psychological admiral the body change.

The 2nd class, behavior expression.

One individual gas takes a cup urgently to fell, this is in with behavior namely expressive mood.

It is a few more mature that behavior expression wants than body expression, when because become,expressing a sentiment with behavior, party can experience a mood, and when be being conveyed with the body, party sometimes essential cannot clear feeling the existence of those moods.

Often convey the person of the mood with behavior, also can bear in the life all sorts of ruinous results, for instance human relationship becomes very strained -- because of Ta cannot the mood that clarity describes him, so people also cannot understand Ta very well, this meeting lets Ta more experience the mood with him narrate hard, also obtain understanding and help hard, slowly with all round the person's relation can be destroyed, the person also can feel all round very get hurt.

The 3rd class, language expression.

This is relatively mature expression means.

Can express the sentiment that gives oneself with language clarity when us, explain oneself were experienced at least experience the mood, safety that assesses an impact to spend, constituent language expression waits immanent psychology process a moment -- this procedure is not simple, mood of diction character expression is not so easy also.

A lot of people cannot use a language to convey, because do not have enough safe feeling to the relation,be, aux would rather bearing also do not convey. And the result that bear, or harms him, because or erupts and hurt opposite party.

Dynamical sex (psychoanalysis) psychology seeks advice in very main job, help the person that appeal expand the capacity that conveys with the language namely, because once can use a language,expression comes out, pressure is released, need not be conveyed with the action, also need not harm the body.

The 4th class, symbolistic expression.

This is means of very mature a kind of expression, for instance earth epicenter loses the child of home, put up a house ceaselessly with building blocks, overturn, put up afresh again come. In this process, the child is using symbolistic means expression to be lost to home with a variety of what rebuilding feeling.

(by the way, it is very significant that game develops healthy spirit to the child. )

Understand the function of the mood when us enough much hind, what need next is experience mood, understand the ability of the mood. We jump over familiar, understanding to be abounded more to the mood, to the management of the mood ability just is jumped over strong.

Good mood government ability still comes from our interior to oneself, the manner to other, we are more capable that him love exceeds capable love other. Admit when what there is lot of enough much opposite in our character with esteem, we are capable also to choose better way to manage his mood.

About managing a mood, can try to use a few simple small key:

1, in human relation, listening is more important than saying. The mood that pays close attention to speech backside more appeals to beg, ability not by faze of literal meaning place. And, in all the audition of affection sex, itself can be helped establish good human relationship.

2, handle a mood first, reconditioning thing. Avoid the processing business that the mood turns, do the business worse more thereby.

3, when the mood be about to when out of control, make stop to oneself first, start to talk again after on number 10 numbers, often the harm sex of the mood is done not have so big.

4, try to be conveyed directly, is not to expect him whats need not say the other side can understand. Such expectation that can bring pair of bilateral defeat only.

5, most the most important, grow oneself character, when one the individual's spirit is more healthy, more capable him esteem respects another person, do true oneself. Jump over when a person true when facing oneself, the relationship with other will be easier.

Wish we always can be embraced with our mood tenderness.