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01

In " fire is weighed on the month " in initial a few part, the official is behaved so that have bit of broken bits really fully on, it is him obviously first the heavy Xue Zhi of hold up, he rejected her again finally, make heavy Xue Zhi sad.

Hear the conversation of he and Lin Qian generation later, just discover he is not not to love, however his identity does not allow him to love, he is a country Shi Zhizi, although calm now, but also very fear oneself cannot bring happiness to heavy Xue Zhi, can refuse very reluctantly only so, also do not want to he follows to have a rough time after letting her.

Go up later again the official highs fully eyebrow, be informed oneself one's life experience, he just knows why he is liked by the mother as a child, so that mother is not his strange mother, and the one's own mother that she is hating herself all the time, so no matter how he tries hard, she also does not like him.

Foster mother is the daughter with town imperatorial country, father to consolidate oneself influence, can abandon only oneself one's own mother, be together with her, even if get him later bring up personally in government office, also cannot make a wife satisfactory, can send fierce of be used to of clever sword mountain villa him only finally, father and son had not seen a lot of two years.

Come after that of father and son meeting also is at swords' points, he hates father to did not cherish a mother well, let her lose life, and father also has ashamed regret to him, feel these year will did not bring up him well grown.

Should know to go up after the one's lot that the official shows, go seeing the attitude when he faces love again, understood very easily it seems that, a child that is harmed by former unripe family, need cures this pain with lifetime, one is short of the child of love, also do not know how to should love.

02

Former unripe family this word, in last few years classics regular meeting is heard, very much even teleplay also is saying to lay domestic issue formerly, for instance " Dou Ting is good " , " settle down " medium heroine, also be by the child with tired place of former unripe family, fortunately, they are depending on their ability, enter for oneself give a day, walk out of the family that the past brings pain that.

It is some children only can fall to slant in such growing environment, because cannot get love as a child, his heart longs to love, perhaps produced the psychology of a kind of hate again, may make a few extreme issues so.

Had seen a teleplay " boy of my Mo Ge benefit " , among them Ling Yu is a such children, he follows mom to come to a new family, stepfather although very be very fond of him, should kiss him son look upon, but he or the person that feel oneself are not this home.

The likelihood still has a daughter because of stepfather, and this daughter always bullies him, let him have kind of feeling that live under another's roof, and the heart of dot is very sensitive, in the process that grow, if do not have correct guiding, go very easily slant.

He wants to let stepfather be looked at with new eyes to him, he wants to let he and mom go up too truly happy life, then to succeed by hook and crook, he injured his closest person, at the same time also him park dangerous situation, also did not get to final what,

Of moment this he just discovers he did a lot of bad things, also misunderstood oneself stepfather, if not be oneself,act wilfully, the likelihood also won't fall to such end, he regrets unceasingly.

See growing experience of Ling Yu, can feel he is a very poor child, it is to live under another's roof as a child nevertheless, spelled life ground to want to be before stepfather project oneself, want to let him approbate him, and final ability discovers he is wrong.

If he is grown in a perfect family, the one's own father and mother that has oneself accompanies him, teach him, probable he also won't become this model.

03

Must say, the influence of former unripe family to a child is very great really, parental marriage also can affect the child's choice.

Good friend Xiaolin this year already 35 years old, still lone, press lay now standard, she has been big surplus female, ask her every time can anxious, boil again go down too late really, and she just says: "Not be not to want to marry, just do not encounter that appropriate. Just do not encounter that appropriate..

Actually she does not want to marry, having one share is to did not encounter that right person, still having one share is the effect that suffers former unripe family, the marriage of her parents lets her dare not love.

Memory rises in one's childhood, parents always quarrels before her, when making a noise badly, often shouting to want to divorce, mother at that time howling clear away a thing, taking her to answer grandmother home to go, and father also does not have block mother.

such, the mother sees father did not receive her, also went back again with respect to oneself for some time too, every time such, let her small also replace parents tired, many times she wants to tell them, if did not pass to go down really, that favour divorces, she can accept.

Also be the feeling because of parents, after waiting for her to be brought up, psychology always can have kind of shadow, she worries about the sweetheart that encounters after oneself, also can make a noise ceaseless so like parents, if two people still want departure finally,she worries, that is not as good as what do not marry at the beginning.

A few this years so she is procrastinating conciously all the time, she also is not not to admire the friend beside, have a happy family, but she always can fear, the meeting is afraid, let her procrastinate all the time because of such psychology namely, had not encountered that right person.

04

Sometimes, a person dare not love, because,be nevertheless as a child " be short of love " , because give birth to domestic influence formerly,be.

If he is,grow in a very good family atmosphere, his nature is hopeful and optimistic, when facing the person that oneself like, also won't be overcautious, be gone after boldly however, go be together with her.

But differ because of growing environment, the meeting in his heart has some of shadow, his meeting concern cannot bring her happiness, also can fear two the individual's love cannot long.

But what you should be clear about is, we cannot choose former unripe family, but the life that we can choose in the future, be not given birth to formerly domestic place is tired, should learn and reconciled in the past, only such, ability has spent the following time.

Hope every child can be not hurt by place of former unripe family, hope they ground of can healthy joy grows!