01 incident are reductive
On March 28, tsinghua Yao class gives birth to Zhang Kunwei (alias) ask for in fabaceous valve marriage, because appearance lacks ego management to be oppugned by the netizen " drive is poor " " overconfident " , it is Pu Xinnan's representing.
Zhang Kunwei abandons cereal song high pay after Tsinghua graduates, shanxi of countryside coming home 2 schools teach, pass a contest now, write the pluralistic month such as the program to enter 50 thousand. He goes up with respect to Ceng Zaidou valve a year ago proof marriage, because of every months of income 3000 yuan are mocked at that time " do not deserve to look for a girlfriend " .
On April 2, zhang Kunwei dispatch of problem of angst of involute, figure, sexual distinction, say: "The victim of sexual problem also includes the silent great majority in the schoolboy " , put forward " the male makes money besides hardship, when tool person, still have the value of existence? " .
In the meantime, he expresses to won't consider the 3rd times to send marriage of post ask forring again at present.
Itself is one dates small business of failure, as Zhang Kunwei's dispatch, evolved into the situation that bisexual each other rips finally, smell of gunpowder gradually thick.
In browsed most comment to scold afterwar, I sum up simply for the following content (be not him viewpoint) :
The female thinks Zhang Kunwei appearance lacks management, taking economic income to show off is spirit barren and overconfident expression, it is Pu Xinnan's delegate.
The male thinks major female says without the qualification others drive is poor, do oneself have many outstanding? Those who grow good-lookingly, want to talk about economic base, grow badly to look to have money should choose color again, typical double mark.
This can'ts help letting me remember Yang Li of actor of the show that take off a mouth again that " him obviously so common, however unluckily so self-confident " stalk, join in increasing person when discussing, also introduced to bisexual and contrary conflict hot search again.
02 real current situations
Cast a couple to contend for, in seeing the Zhang Kunwei of Tsinghua Yao class whether be like mouth of most female netizen really general " drive is poor and self-confident " . After all, marriage also is to build on the foundation of person and material.
Tsinghua Yao class says again " class of experiment of science of Tsinghua school computer " , by world-renowned computer scientist Yao Jizhi academician established 2005, devote oneself to education and industry of grain of American hemp province, Princeton to wait for undergraduate students of world top-ranking college to have coequal, taller even competition ability get run international is excellent person with ability of innovation computer science.
The talent that in a such top environments education comes out, ever held a post in Gu Ge, the person that school of 2 this academy teachs, is drive poor really?
Lunar income 50 thousand what level be in again? With the median of each city salary was 2020 exemple, outside dividing Beijing Shanghai, city of a gleam of and median of salary of city of new a gleam of all did not exceed 6000 yuan.
Note: Income median, it is to point to with statistical on the concept of median will measure some zone the income level of ordinary people, compare at per capita, income median more press close to is common actual standard of living of the people, the per capita because of some area can be more than income median far because of the difference of the rich and the poor, and income median is OK this kind difference report comes out. Baidu of median of detail reference income 100 divisions.
Will look according to statistical data, lunar income 50 thousand enough is banner majority person, the person of good-paying of tall record of formal schooling, ought not to self-confident?
Where is the current situation that watchs most person instead?
Taking 5000 salary, drinking astral Buck to eating sea floor to scoop up, dawdle of white sky class, next in the evening hitting game, whenever make an appointment with on 35 good friends on the weekend,make a sightseeing tour, K song skips enlighten. Book comes to you the live thing of the aerospace outside compose a quarrel is euqally strange, what chicken broth of nearsightedness frequency, heart had held you is all, the bank blocks deposit on one minute, meeting gain is big after imagining his again money, relapse so.
Be compared and character, who be after all is drive poor and self-confident?
The essence of 03 things
Dating essence is based on what value matchs to trade namely.
With respect to Zhang Kunwei this thing, the be based oning that essence makes public namely value matchs trade, no matter you use much more luxuriant flowery language to decorate, it is such.
Date to be divided again date to date under the counter and be made public, date under the counter final result nothing more than two him people subjective opinion, and date publicly, judge a head to talk with respect to what need to accept another person sufficient.
The truth that dates publicly to sell food with the free market of agricultural products is euqally simple, booth advocate need sells a Chinese cabbage, booth advocate the attribute that when be being worn on Chinese cabbage, acquiesced to reveal Chinese cabbage before the public, colour and lustre, price, fresh degree wait for information, look to go up this Chinese cabbage and Fu Deqi's corresponding value, can clinch a deal this business, any one party conditions do not match to go up, this business is destined to cannot be reached.
Zhang Kunwei is in date avowedly on this thing, also be nevertheless oneself this " Chinese cabbage " on attribute mark just, why to cause such farce?
Nothing more than namely of each big sale date drive, search is heated up on, see fistfight of male fist female fist, view the data with tiring-room jumpy insanity, sigh with emotion incidentally the KPI of this quarter was finished again.
As to the attack to party, the opinion on public affairs that is a netizen? What concerns with me. The fistfight of male fist female fist is a thing that does not have a result anyway, caused the farce of bisexual and contradictory become acute, the opinion on public affairs that is not me then causes, with me what concerns?
Regard Everyman as us, publish the course that must want to know a thing before opinion on public affairs, great majority is discharge tool person, reduce the accomplice of dispute.
04 ego are cognitive
Male woman, not be a society can the resource of distribution according to need.
No matter man or it is a woman, no matter you are what kind of outstanding, also meet somebody does not like you, the person is impossible to get everybody's jubilation.
Chinese society, excessive enlarge the advantage of record of formal schooling and income, oversight the glamour of other side, the style of conversation that is like grace, not arrogant not what sympathize with work of heart, opposite to the person is the atmosphere of impetuous, passion to art, cordial etc, these things can allow a person to like.
But you won't teach on these thing book, also won't have an examination, do not have the assessment of KPI more, also by most person oversight.
Association process of the men and women is not company invite applications for a job, not be an outstanding personal details like with respect to what ground of certain of course gets others, male and female association is communicate between person and person, the collision between the soul and soul, is not to take a group of data to undertake contrast, poorer one party must absolute acceptance likes to win the home.
No matter men and women, the choose that others has no right to censure and interfere you occasionally standard. But cannot find a target, also cannot act shamelessly blames a society unjust, others does not indulge you, more be seek an issue from him body.
All conventions are picked pick cut, it is did not encounter right person in you, encounter right person one day when you, all problems be readily solved.
Hope you marry in the future, because,be love.
