" museum of national wet goldfish "
GUO CHAO JIN YU BO WU GUAN
2021/04/3
The world in April, spring day swims fish
"Factitious what is dead? "Factitious what is dead??
"How to after the person died, meet? "How to after the person died, meet??
"I died, can you have another me? Can you have another me??
Whenever tomb-sweeping day hold a memorial ceremony for sweeps martyr, curious what is the child always be " die " . Can serve as parents, how do we explain ability lets the child understand already " death " , do not give TA the shading in the heart again?
Tomb-sweeping day, hold concurrently a nature and humanitarian two big connotation, since " 24 solar term " one of, also be traditional festival of ancestor of hold a memorial ceremony for. "24 solar term " it is antediluvian farming the child of agrarian civilization, it produces a respect to having direct effect in agriculture not only, still affecting the basic necessities of life of the ancients at the same time, it is culture idea even.
Ask about when the child " death " what be
How should you reply?
1, " he is sleeping " " the grandfather is not quite comfortable, he was asleep, we also do not disturb him. We also do not disturb him..
Analysis: The child generates doubt to dying not only, and very can interrogative to sleeping. Why be asleep to always do not awake? When case is severe, his care and interrogative, let him begin to produce fear to perhaps be defied to sleeping likely.
2, " the grandfather went seeing a grandma " " the grandfather thinks a grandma, he goes to very far place, go and grandma meeting, answer temporarily did not come. Answer temporarily did not come..
Analysis: Say so, make the child OK accept, and the join that loves between the sort of family member can be communicated. But after period of time, the child also can have doubt, why I cannot see a grandma, why doesn't the grandfather still come back, why to follow us one case? At that time, we begin to catch mad...
3, " science developed, the person won't die " " developed scientificly later, the person's body will be very good, won't die, do not worry. Do not worry..
Analysis: When generating fear to dying, somebody hopes " immortal not old " . But this kind of your view, did not help the child answer dead question not only, instead lets him live in the illusion.
3, " science developed, the person won't die " " developed scientificly later, the person's body will be very good, won't die, do not worry. Do not worry..
Analysis: When generating fear to dying, somebody hopes " immortal not old " . But this kind of your view, did not help the child answer dead question not only, instead lets him live in the illusion.
4, " what is dead ah vivid, you know what " " kids does not say this kind of word, you are so small dead or vivid ah, was brought up mom is told to you again. Was brought up mom is told to you again..
Analysis: The doubt that you make meeting general child so is blocked in the heart, letting him feel to die is one lets a person not shame or the thing that dare not mention, should be very terrible, meeting Jonah. If the child has feared to die this thing, the parent is answered so, the child can feel more helpless.
To the child, their abstract thinking has not been built good, right " die " without the concept, what does very difficult also clear death mean to people, can know from father mother mouth only, death is a bad thing, not happy thing.
This phase, the method that the parent can use personification of a few analogies explains " death " , can use for instance kind a plant will compare.
The seed sprouted, a life was born;
Grow ceaselessly tall, be like teenage period to be in chief body;
Blossommed and bear fruit, give birth to the child like adult marriage;
Wither, the age that means a person is old, was about to die;
The plant is final and addle, with clay be in harmony for an organic whole, but cannot pass how long, again can the seed sprouts, go up like this world, everyday someone leaves, at the same time also more darling are born, unripe be born not to cease, relapse circularly.
Also can raise a goldfish to the child,
When goldfish is living beautiful, swim agilely,
Died to float in surface silently later, if colleague, living when arbitrary, cheesy, arrived to die that momently, also be like a little goldfish general calm, unruffled. The parent can tell the child, death is the thing that everybody can encounter, it is few and far between and common thing, do not have fear to dying.
Dead itself is not terrible, terrible is we are without preparation unexpectedly. So, it is moment the origin that lets the child know life and attributive. As the parent, we need to solve the child quandary to death in time, dredge loses sexual mood, help them form the correct acknowledge of pair of diseases, consenescence and death.
Editor: Crape myrtle
Design: Dream graceful
Museum of national wet goldfish - Fuzhou goldfish
Goldfish is the urban calling card of Fuzhou
Let goldfish become a state wet new IP
/ / of museum of national wet goldfish
Place: 3 lane alley of 7 alley tower 79
Time: 9:00-21:00 (20:30 stop carry out bill)
