Admit season end another year, enter oneself for an examination the return that the children of American college took a college, perhaps admit, perhaps refuse, after perhaps be being pushed, admit, return some by " Waitlist " backup.
I am awaiting this end that admits season all the time. All fools' day this day, be all universities admit date of expiration. Those children that I pay close attention to all the time, obtained the result that files an university in succession, look at they or surprizing or disappointed face, I have a lot of deep feeling.
In the class of myself child, have a lying child. He also comes from China, I call him small K.
01
My child is in high school these a few years, come back to say with me from time to time: "Mom takes an exam today, I saw small K copies the answer again " , " mom, the exercise of small K is copy " ...
This small K, because meet a student that previous term or session graduates, got that student then all study data. And a lot of exercise of American school and examination are annual it is reduplicative content, so he found shortcut so, need not learn, exercise and exam can take tall fraction easily.
Such thing, appear again and again on this child body, he does not evade a few student studying abroads that come from China likewise even.
Mention with me when the child these when, myself was immersed in huge in contradiction. I do not know how to should guide the child. The child's feeling is: Good inequity, and very humiliating. I say with the child, as the friend, should remind him to be not done so.
But remind later, did not see any action, small K still continues to copy the answer, copy exercise. Very strange is, school teachers are very long do not have discovery. I can have only with what him child says: "We cannot be in charge of him to borrowed, you should make sure you do not do in that way thing. You should make sure you do not do in that way thing..
Time is long, the worry that this thing causes to me is increasing. Want to know, the every time in American school works, achievement of every time exam, very important, the GPA of a student, must come in the exercise from this and exam namely. After my child has an examination a few times, say: "Hey, I was reviewed a long time, take an exam or had not taken an examination of small K " .
Every time this moment, I do not know how to should say with him. I am increasing second think in the heart, otherwise should talk about this problem with the teacher, but I feel again such " declare black state " practice not open and upright.
But, the guiding that I do not know how this are correct again my child. Should let him see on K body as a child, "Take shortcut " be OK of savor benefit? In the meantime, I also am thinking, do not know such thing, american parent is met how look upon, if why be handled.
Then, I made an appointment with American friend of place, discuss this issue technically. This friend does not have somebody to say this thing with the teacher in very open-eyed school, I ask him: "If be your child,encounter such trouble, how can you do? Encourage the child to tell a teacher? " this friend says with me: "Do not let the child tell a teacher, did not go be in charge of, sooner Or Later, he Is Going To Pay For It. Trust Me. He can pay price for this sooner or later, believe me. Believe me..
02
Till a day of semester end, in a teacher works in the chemistry of small K and taking an exam, saw clue. He discovers, the exercise of small K and exam, the result with can appear very odd now and then, compare the work with consistent portion very expensive difficulty, small K answers sb's question entirely almost, and in a few exams, the base with extremely small difficulty is inscribed, he answers completely however not know what is said.
Then the teacher calls him the office, notch him that very expensive work, make him new be done, the result cans be imagined, small K works that to this, do not know how to start.
That time, chemical teacher offers serious criticism to him, became invalid the achievement that he works that. Whether to have other punishment to him, influential to the achievement of that course annual, our unknown.
We feel small K is cogged by discovery, meeting somewhat convergent, but near end as high school, season of the university entrance exam comes, the behavior making a holiday of small K, grow in intensity. In enter oneself for an examination on the application form of the university, he fills the extracurricular activity that left to abound: Main force of brunt of club of successive and old such-and-such football, such-and-such basketball team, jackaroo in such-and-such company.
But he what we understand, a thing does only almost after classes are over: It is curtilage in the home, hang on the net to play game. His lodging family finds me even, following me to understand small K is a what kind of child, because " he talks with us far from, classes are over everyday in the room that returns him himself, come from no less than buildings. Come from no less than buildings..
Eventually, enter oneself for an examination season ends, it is children when awaiting admission notice. I am awaiting the application outcome of myself child, also want to know, one is the application of false information completely, the meeting come what result.
Small K applied for more than 20 schools, belong to student of rife of application school amount. Then, he receives the incoming letter of the university ceaselessly, but almost all letters, it is same content: "Refuse " . Graduation season ends, he is very lucky, in more than 20 universities that enter oneself for an examination, a school admitted him. If not be this one school,saved him, he is about to be faced with nescient the condition that can go up.
I had not read the complete set material of small K, but the reason that I can imagine to those schools reject him: Because borrowed for long, his partial course result is so very good. But TOEFL exam and SAT achievement are exceedingly low however, be in with his school success cannot mutual confirm.
More than 20 refuse a letter, whether can you give that child vigilant? Probably won't, because of him very rejoice a school admitted him, I hear of, his parents cheers for this caper.
He is " make a holiday " completely not successful case. Have countless children, with false achievement, false social activity, took an admission notice of another school.
03
The data on conference of California university shows: 6.5% what Chinese student holds student sum total, but 1/3 what learning builds a holiday to occupy all learning to make feigned case example. Shengbabala divides California university many professor of school expresses, cogged it is them to Chinese student basically be anxious one of.
Student studying abroad of the United States' famous China of university of public university Maryland accuses " collective and cogged " , even the professor says " all Chinese students are to lean cogged the Maryland college that enter.
The flaw among the professor speech of Maryland university was caught by Chinese student studying abroad wearing, student studying abroads held remonstrant activity accordingly, because the professor in this incident is pointed to to say by Chinese student studying abroad " disgrace China " . The Chinese student studying abroad that those are accused collective is cogged, only one admits he is cogged, to the accusation of other student, be not worth because of evidence and by cancel.
All students that I believe may not is true were participated in cogged, our student studying abroads, the captured a professor flaw of acumen, hit turn over beautifully battle. But after all calm, do not know students can ask him: "My true one is assured and bold with justice? "My true one is assured and bold with justice??
Why is Chinese student studying abroad pointed to again and again cogged? Is the university that is the United States really wearing blinkers to see a person?
The parents of our China, most know the answer.
The case that cites before me, small K, he studies abroad in American high school, he is cogged on TOEFL and SAT without method, because his GPA follows TOEFL and SAT cannot mutual confirm.
04
But Where is the child of our home?
Exam of SAT of Asian examination room is cogged incident frequency goes out, the Asian examination room 2014 cogged case was patted even big heat sells.
Of course, anyhow, SAT and TOEFL standardize an exam this kind cogged, have every year, participating in cogged person is minority after all, but another problem, of home in school success, the moisture among this has how old, be afraid is the country in us grows a heart to know abdomen bright
Know on have a word: Our Chinese thinks cogged, who bars so that live?
Cogged, report affusion, application writ generation is written. . . . . . That bit of secret of our China student studying abroad, early by college get behind of the United States.
It is an university not just, even in the middle school, when growing to communicate with the teacher with school of a few middle schools in me, they once differred of degree arrive a little: "Student studying abroads application material, with their actual performance, differ too far. One enters oneself for an examination the child of complete A of the English in material, won't say English almost completely actually. Won't say English almost completely actually..
Build false, cogged, affusion in the light of what bedding face accumulates, american school must drill a piercing eye, and must execute " distinction is treated " . Officials of college recruit students won't admit, but a teacher that ever held the post of official of recruit students of California some college has said with me: "The SAT of Chinese student is reduced at least 50 minutes in the grading system of our university. "The SAT of Chinese student is reduced at least 50 minutes in the grading system of our university..
On May 29, 2015 " student of 15 China leaving the United States is suspected of conspiring cogged for one's deceased father case " , court of American Pittsburgh place admits his guilt to first the student sentences 5 years of probation (Probation) , the judge agrees to give Li Biyuan American immigration office, arrangement returns its dispatch China.
May 2017, because 4 China student studying abroad is cogged be arrested. According to American media estimation, 5 years of 2013-2018, in student studying abroad of 270 thousand China, have 8000 because the name is cogged by discharge.
Look in me, those by the student of discharge, it is lucky, they are timely was gotten on about " sincere letter " class, they remembered from now on probably, not stretch his hand, stretch his hand to be caught surely.
Terrible is those cogged and not by discharge, was not handled, successful pass a test the child, they are being taken such fluky, move toward their future.
I examine my conscience sometimes, if do an evildoing to be able to let me get apparent benefit, won't be discovered by others again at the same time, can I resist alluring?
Face such problem, my heart is not sturdy. But I know, when doing guilty thing for the first time, I can face inner shame, self-condemned, uneasiness. But when facing similar case the 2nd times, I can can't help the method that continuity chooses this kind of dishonour, because the sort of reap without sowing melting flavor is too inviting, and that moment, the ashamed regret of my heart and obstacle will small much, in the choice that is in so, I compromise ceaseless coast ceaselessly, that ego that compromises to be agreed with to my heart all the time, with the fictile in behavior I, had been over to cannot be united completely. I do not know, how am I next in the day, face not be me that me.
This also is why, I insist not to make my child cogged.
05
Of this one prolonged cogged with affusion, cost is the future of all children.
I am only accompany read the parent, everything what I say, it is the understanding with the individual's clumsy little nevertheless, at teaching system, at the social value, influence that does not have a tiny bit, more cannot drive to concern sincere letter change.
I want to do, do not pass even if think of place to see with my place, tell more people, also gift myself more these 7 years of meanings. All these that I say today, doing not have is news, without an unexpected, these are not to go even regular, however bright regulation, do then I draw up what will have to use?
I want to see me to each the person of this article says: American university, middle school, more and more those who see our child clear " inflation " application material. Our child does not have even if cogged, chinese child unified exam tries, can endorse, can employ a person to write application material, meeting piano 10 class, the social activity with meeting nonexistent enumerate. . . . . .
What all these is seen by recruit students official already is clear, obviously for nothing. Of our parenthood, be inferior to stepping next hearts first, a road is refuse. Even if the purpose for utility, everything returns even if is to take an examination of an university, we also step next hearts.
American university, what to look in application data? What to look for? Look for that child that takes an examination of full marks? Look for that piano the child of 10 class? Seek the document with that luxuriant flowery language?
Not be. Everything what what they do, be to should know " who are you? Be to should know " who are you??
So, who do you want your child to become?
Look in me, diligent effort, curious desire strong, hobby extensive, thinking is society of nimble, service, responsible feeling, honest be as good as one's word. . . . . . The school wants.
All these, can carry tomorrow your child is in university requisition, write those who go in, and did not write everything what go in, show that individual that examines your child.
If you want to invite the application that he did not come to,writ captures the heart of recruit students official the first sentence, so one does not understand him completely / her person " era is written " the alleged beauty article of an accumulation affix, touch certainly nevertheless intendment cuts herself condition the story that writes him experience to pass.
American university, be in via using blinkers already look upon our child. Face such condition, of our parenthood, only outlet, rear a true child namely probably, let this child next, oneself go telling about: Who am I.
