Life liquidates detailed account -- comprehensive promotion " happy force " , go up too orderly, effective and beautiful life
"Our course is told namely actually, how good have an easy time lives, go up too namely Methodistic, businesslike, and live goodly, let us learn this concept: Orderly, effective, and beautiful. " -- Huang Feng beautiful
In table of the article after the class of every class, we arranged Huang Feng this tax section tells about beautiful teacher " viewpoint elite " , it is in order to help great master after curricular study, convenient reviewing the key of curricular content, deepness thinks and understand thereby, finish this tax detailed list at the same time, promote happy force continuously.
The 4th class, why the truth understands, do not do namely? -- disentomb your deep-seated psychogenic disorder (next collect)
[this class outline]
Go up collect:
Part 1. -- the interference that casts off a mood, let " problem " rise to surface
Part 2. -- sum up problem backside " deep-seated psychogenic disorder "
Play part:
Part 1. -- 3 kinds " deep-seated psychogenic disorder " analytic
Part 2. -- finish [vexed detailed list]
[this section viewpoint elite]
? Poke " mood " dense fog, reel off raw silk from cocoons pares chrysalis ground finds those accumulation to give the event of the mood, just be " discover a problem " the first pace, the psychogenic disorder that perplexes oneself is found slowly later.
? Our everybody can hold the position of him " thinking arranges division " , with the means of detailed list, spend from the dimension of the job, life, time, space, list those let you have the event of negative sentiment in the round as far as possible, oneself go pondering over the psychogenic disorder of incident backside, that solves a problem to be met next a lot of more relaxed.
? Become aware when us knew problem place, not anxious the thinking of take advantage of an opportunity according to cerebrum, the method that solves a problem for oneself immediately leaves final conclusion. Because we are in " discover a problem " the thing that the place in this link should do, did not end. We just invite these problems at present, appear clearly in " the head thinks " the level, had not entered " the heart thinks " the level, go seeing the bottom is activity of what kind of psychology, wear in block up we know how to should be done obviously, but do not do namely?
? Recognize Hunan " deep-seated psychogenic disorder " , it is the necessary link that discovers a problem effectively. For summary, these " deep-seated psychogenic disorder " , divide roughly it is 3 kinds: Escapism, persistent past, anxious future.
We just are mentioned, want recognize Hunan heart " deep-seated psychogenic disorder " : Escapism, persistent past, anxious future.
3 kinds of this roughly wraparound psychogenic disorder, not be to want us to solve it immediately, perhaps escape it, also not be to use the instantly that regards standard judge as us; This more resembling is guide us one kind to become aware the way that knows ego, down this direction, go searching us 1000 people 1000, attribute oneself problem.
We say escapism first.
Be be faced without time and solve the problem in the life because of business, because be afraid of,still face a problem and pretend to busy. Be like my good friend, inertial let her think to live at working ability only, ability solves a problem.
Still had had a lot of people be forced to choose to more foreground occupational is experienced, also had had teenage times love by the experience of block, but who stipulates good life is to obtain social class certainly, the young person that who provides marriageable age again cannot love. Decide for the thinking of these societies situation, a lot of people chose the life style that he like far from, also escaped originally can the reflection that the palm dominates life and behavior.
Thinking is decided situation
One of reasons of escapism are thinking calm situation, management learns Great Master Si Difen. Division dimension says, there is thinking in people life calm situation, it has positive one side, also have inactive one side. Have a such famous tests, in installing the fly of 6 bees and as much into bottle of a glass, make the same score bottle next put, let bottom forward window. Result bee wants ceaselessly to find outlet in bottom, die to their force exhaust all the time; And fly can not be in in dichotomy bell the bottleneck that crosses another end escapes one sky. Thinking means of the bee is exit is in in brightness, repeat this to look ceaselessly be like logical behavior, and fly is none advertent to so called logic, 4 chaos fly to walk out of prison cell eventually.
Daniel of nobel prize psychologist. Ka Niman says, the person's cerebra has two systems, system 1 it is automatic responses mode, dress for instance, drive, the arithmetic with computational so simple 3+8. System 2 it is to should calculate type to become 56*13 to cannot give out instantly so the thing of the answer, for instance strong keep back do not go opening gregarious software, let oneself begin to clear the rational control of the room. However if we are done not have conciously rational control, our cerebra always is mixed by intuition inertial and lazy, can unthink with respect to unthink, can escape a problem not to want to face. This saves more energy in order to to live to hominid have profit, but the modern society that does not need to save a large number of energy to chase to live basically in order to obtain in modern society, natural laziness with respect to meeting block up we continue to grow. One of the good friend's problems are, she escaped to communicate so thorny issue with the boss, also escaped to clear away a room to discard old other people looks to be like and work so have nothing to do, affect the business of own mood however. However according to is inertial, allow by the room randommer and randommer, be without according to of ground of main threads of an affair inertial and blind job feels with bringing his security.
Realise thinking decides the existence of situation, remind oneself to not be immersed in fixed thinking mode casually when handling an issue every time, can help us break inherent habit.
How does persistent past understand:
Those who hate to part with refuse and young times is epistolary, the handiwork of child growing process and book; On the job once faulty experience also makes we always think method pulls an one bureau with same way, the result is the time that wasted no use. What psychology element be make us right crossed minute of persistence in the past?
One, it is to fear to deny first original oneself. The face has pair of article here, to memory, and to the viewpoint the persistence of 3 respects.
1, to the persistence of article: The clothes that impulse buys, the implements that once liked, abandon these once choice and judgement resembled denying once oneself.
2, to memorial persistence: Epistolary, photograph, the honor in the past, the account that cannot clear and abandons perhaps is not to want to abandon once memory.
3, to the persistence of the viewpoint: From heliocentric theory of respecting of the earth's core, the mankind and oneself struggled a lot of years. Change a point of view, arrange a new thinking, it is the progress on past foundation is not negative.
2, it is the desire that makes up for a regret.
It is chess card no matter kind still be physical ability kind athletics, look forward to again battle the person that of one bureau often is those play away matches. If wish,cannot be in the more in the stand facing each other in the past, righter once failure is persistent unceasingly. If do not have,the success is gained on the item that once had made, a lot of people can choose same item, try to achieve a goal with same method, the result still often fails actually.
3, because threw many sunken cost Sunk Cost,still having is.
Sunken cost comes from economics, it is to show people is in decision-making when often can consider before devoted, if abandon, with respect to the complete loss that before meaning, invests, be immersed in jump over defect to jump over deep condition.
The major that chose not to like or marriage, but had pursued a trade or maintain marriage very long, threw many affection, money, energy and time, the investment that goes to make accordingly did not waste, so but hold on, but insist to mean a kill actually sure won't perfect.
We again for say to worry about future:
Cannot clear the current situation, not be willing to part with or use abandons, come from the persistence that opposite goes to not only, what also come from pair of future that cannot control is anxious. If do not have these article, these concern, such social class, how will I live tomorrow. The good friend's case, fear to drop an among them project first, because fear,perhaps be of the boss the evaluation is bad and the future that affects oneself.
Where does the psychogenic disorder that lets us see anxious future come from?
One, it is pair of demand that come from exterior and safe feeling first. Theory was changed to also explain people always worries future outside Fuluoyide's psychology, be consult because of ours the standard always comes from exterior element. Also say inside power of Buddha, the way is sought outside the heart, be outside path. Sent a message in the life for instance and do not love oneself, did not receive information to arise for a long time scanty from feeling, feel oneself and outside broke connection, be isolated. We always are the meanings of the ability oneself and existence, give exterior irrelevant person will evaluate. Let us from to material, psychology, with safe feeling of the idea 3 respects explain.
1, feel to corporeal safety for instance: Waste Babylon feeling of material, the persistence that comes from qualitative to getting thing to fast ancient hard-earned probably is mixed pair tomorrow anxious. Modern society should live is not a problem any more when, the primitive dependence to material cannot have brought safe sense to us, and have what fear to lose more more more also.
2, count the safe move to psychology: The social animal's instinct makes we fear to be isolated and drop out, know more people desperately so, maintain more and meaningless relationship, office politics also appears in the group. Hold together can bring understanding already among collective relation, esteem and good-tempered those who wait for psychology and behavior grow, in transfer oneself also can let lose in depending on originally direction.
3, count the safe move to the idea: Let him a Triton of the minnows maintain the thinking pattern that think independently and acts without courage, come from the to the organization dependence in gene of human social animal probably again.
2, it is concern regrets
Because fear future can regret, and buy needless goods, pursue the job that chickens ribs not to like commonly, choose not pleased partner.
3, it is pair of devoted satisfaction
Have not find when us when the target perhaps makes clear be fond of, muddleheaded ground throws time and energy to let us can be obtained for future satisfy temporarily, also do not do sureness letting a person than what. A lot of people moil and the purpose that attend a party are for only occupied can do, obtain in the investment that does not need in these likelihoods comfort book.
-- finish " vexed detailed list "
Become aware know these psychogenic disorder, it is very important. This meeting makes us deeper mix clearly him acknowledge, examine oneself. Go seeking the way that solves a problem on this foundation, often such method, ability can have specific aim more.
So begin to finish today's " vexed detailed list " . Are 4 dimension that still write down so that course mentions today spent? The job, life, time, space, want to let the incident of him mood addle, do not add judge ground to write down those to let your be perturbed, anxiety, be in escapism, persistent past, anxious future 3 respects, find this thing correspondence which psychogenic disorder. Same, I also offerred my pattern plate, consult for you
Today's course arrives here. After class playing a part can say the source that realizes psychogenic disorder in us, how to change thinking loop to. Means of what kind of thinking, the thought that can let us and behavior return wanted way, can be in the life henceforth, increase the capacity that acquires happiness. Good, when that hope issues a class encountering, we can understand him little more.
