Domestic education, it is the education that the biggest effect produces in personal growth from of old, it is the person becomes a person's most serious basis. School education, prepare for the grow into useful timber namely since ancient times. Say exactly, be the become a useful person on adult foundation is taught in the family. This is more apparent in Chinese education tradition. But we see instantly however a such strange phenomena: Today's family is compared before any times values education more, today's domestic education is right however of the child grow to did not have corresponding and positive effect, even, it is inactive, destroy.
Does the reason where?
Today's domestic education is in light of us how a zoology. Common perhaps ground says, how does today's family teach the child. The educational modes of life and relation to their environment with Chinese the globallest family is it is doting, 2 it is utility, the 3 rawish meals that are western education concept. Individual struggle for existence is on social level is not easy change with the west of social configuration, lifestyle, be old on culture level the tradition is destroyed to danger, to going up century middle period builds the conspiracy distrust of newly-built value system, turn and seek an outlet to western culture. Chinese family education is be affected in this crisscross of a lot of element and road of such a confused rootless were walked out of below pressure.
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It is the very common phenomenon in traditional family fondly, but today, appear with a kind of brand-new appearance however.
In traditional family doting, cent is planted. One kind is ancestors doting, this is common in average household. One kind is family of riches and honour is doting, this also is common in family of riches and honour. Of ancestors doting, because ancestors does not bear lettered responsibility to the child,be, also do not face the consequence that bears education, what just stem from normal human feelings is favorite. A bit more beyond the mark can understand. In traditional education, this kind of exorbitant is favorite, a lot of moment not only won't cause bad effect to the child, can become the beneficial complement that the family teachs instead. Chinese tradition teachs the natural natural instinct that the child disregards on certain level, parental division commander often is earnest before the child, educational content and means often are inflexible. Of ancestors doting, however as it happens can remedy this one flaw. Accordingly division commander of ancestors, parents, grandson generation, each have a part, form a perfect interactive system. However, move of doting today the person that carry out arrived on parental body. This kind does not stem from favor completely in that way like ancestors fondly, adulterated however of the society, of the environment, of culture, individual the influence of a variety of existent elements. Ancestors stems from favor fondly, because this is healthy, move toward the front easily to the child's influence. Doting blame of parents stems from favor, because this is insalubrious, extremely easy to the child's influence trend is negative.
Today's parents why so doting child?
It is existent pressure above all. The hardship that a lot of parents live him projected on the child's body. What oneself live is not easy, the child must come from also is not easy like that, because this is cherished doubly,cherish. Oneself live not easy, the hope gives the child a good growing environment, do not hope the child experiences the hardships that he ever had experienced. The society is dangerous, live not easy, the family should give the child naturally also more caressing.
On parental spirit empty. Existent pressure causes person materialize, lose the pursuit that abandoned drive. Make money, marry, parturient, make living target and sense. After having the child especially, regard the child as on him spirit place, perform melt into then everything is for the child. Regard the child as oneself live struggling motivation and solace, for the child, everything is worth while. Oneself struggle the more hardships, caress the more to the child to the utmost.
Think over to what oneself grow. Chinese tradition education is too severe and inflexible, respect the child not quite, insufficient to attention of natural natural instinct. A lot of parents are so grow come over. Mirror on educational child, go instead, give the child free, respect, release its nature. Be opposite then the education of check sex is very sensitive.
The west teachs the study of the concept. The modern course that comes a few years, make we no matter society or individual are in it seems that on exterior configuration be close to indefinitely with the west. No matter be lifestyle or culture concept, stand by to the west, it is place of a manage it seems that ought to trend trend. Individual of the be particular about in western education, respect child nature, individual character, the concept such as free, esteem, equality, for the Chinese parent that comes out to going from inside Chinese tradition education, have appeal extremely naturally. This is farther aggravate to the child doting. And the deadliest is, made have theory and actual base fondly, make just when change, the parent also had the self-confidence of doting child accordingly.
The education that emphasizes external condition one-sidedly what derive by psychological, sociology is academic. For instance material is deficient in influence child mental health, critical child can bring about child psychology shadow, let him child lay a finger on is human the bottom line of association, the problem of child world lets themselves explore, solve wait a moment etc. These do not say to go up is education, it is very educational crooked reason. Education is the person grows mediumly in the society, it is the result that a lot of element affects jointly, and the action that what emphasize most is a person. Do education so, not be to teaching the child, it is to taking the child to do psychology and sociological scientific test. However lamentable is, this kind of crooked manage already greatly be current, and have the power that grow in intensity. This and on a bit similar, provided the academic basis of doting and indulgent child to parents. Educational concept still belongs to correct principle, have positive one side, these crooked manage are without however active but character, what can make education and child drop into beyond redemption only is abyssal.
Still some parent believe in are contended for strong emulative jungly law, delicate and astute calculate, hoggish, cannot be in an unfavorable situation, should compare a person strong. Oneself are done so, also teach the child so. A problem, blindly be partial to, responsible another person. Such parent also is absent a few. This is the retrogression with dye-in-the-wood civilization of individual, society.
In this of a lot of element drive below, compare with doting photograph of parents, of traditional ancestors not worth to be carried simply fondly.
This kind doting also with family of traditional riches and honour differ fondly. Family of traditional riches and honour is doting the child, it is riches and honour enjoys peace and happiness, forget Jiaohua. The ancients says " be born at hardship, die at peace and happiness " . But today is and hardship and peace and happiness, jump over hardship to jump over peace and happiness even. Such condition, how do not call a person to be anxious?
And this kind doting and more than at the family. Parents is returned " manage place ought to " the ground asks with this other, school, society, requirement whole world comes doting oneself child. Have asymmetry heart a bit, remove issue. The ancients is " young I young, and of the person young " . Today is me " young I young " , the person also is gotten " young I young " .
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Utility belongs to one of educational function originally, make pedagogue masters certain knowledge and ability, be able to fend and develop. This give no cause for more criticism. But of education manipulative if exceed certain limit, what become education even is exclusive appeal to beg, it is very dangerous.
The manipulative tool that reflect even if teachs is changed. Cite here " Chinese education circulates to death " the harm that a paragraph of medium character will come to explain educational tool changes:
"Present China, it is very difficult go doing mix with promoting individual life quality originally artificially of the education of mental height. Because no matter be a government,still be a family, regard education tool, it is the purpose differs only. The government maintains social stability and development with education, family and individual are gotten with education live individually and develop. Teach angst to begin earlier, the tool is changed begin earlier, individual spirit space also is squashed badlier.
"To each each pedagogue, parent, the tool that avoids education as far as possible is changed, perhaps teach the basic feeling with the person, morality, vitality in the tool at least a balance holds between the space, just be child future is truly happy assure. Regard a kind of thing when us the tool teachs the child, this kind of thing looks in the child is a tool only. Regard all things when us the tool teachs the child, the world of that child is a tool entirely. The education that the tool changes begins earlier, the influence to the child cannot be gone against the more. The tool of little and inchoate education spends baby, the have no way that what affect directly is inner world grows. Because of the world in child eye, already by tool of format melt into. This is the world of a how mechanical iciness!
"Educational tool is changed, the tool that is him person actually is changed. Because of the person, be taught namely fictile. Be taught namely fictile..
To the government, manipulative education is all-around, also want considering the element complex much, it is the integral design to education. And to the individual, utility is changed want onefold much, basically reflect the manipulative pursuit that is knowledge and ability. What instantly family teachs is manipulative had exceeded due limit far, crowd the education of the basic emotion that took a person, morality and individual spirit space and development badly. And, most parent does not have educational capacity, accordingly, pursue material gain blindly, affection of as a result, morality, manner, habit, character, the knowledge that prospective society needs truly, ability, the mental culture with individual important life is accumulated, the law that children grows and teachs, cannot attend to. Educational disorder and extreme bring about the person's disorder and extreme necessarily. Old the effect that the education inside system is brought to the child and question are very much we are clear already, still be complete person however. The effect that onefold utility changes education to be brought to the child and problem are a lot of people are indistinct however, namely narrow, disorder of the person, empty, inactive, extreme.
Add material gain fondly, it is the germ that current child produces a variety of problems. Bring about its fondly ego, flimsy, utility makes its feel pressure and drab. Discover when a person that tells selfish enjoyment only the world before is a battlefield that hopes to be less than limit, and oneself must go again charge forward, consequence cans be imagined.
What the family teachs is manipulative grow this rate, have deep-seated social reason. The society lives not easy, competition is intense, feel to cannot be defeated to go up in the scratch line. The parent is lost to public education trust and depend on, the child's education and future are it seems that on his body. Of parent plan good, the child can have more competitive future, the parent cannot plan, the child's future is a darkness it seems that. And in the tide in an angst insanity, very few somebody can pay attention to one's own moral uplift without thought of others.
Doting theoretical foundation and self-confidence originate the rawish meal of western education concept and the education that emphasize external condition one-sidedly what psychological, sociology derives are academic, still have jungly law. The academic basics that utility teachs and mental power are to learn successfully.
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Western education concept is in the popularity that is in China is the thing that comes nearly ten years. This is a favour originally, fall in the action of a variety of elements however, make educational zoology even more confused with aggravation.
Is this why?
It is the absent that teachs a system above all.
Although socially these teach a concept already very popular, but teach a system and did not suffer how many effect. That is to say, these concept influence fictile are idea idea of the parent, was not affected and shake existing education system. Of concept of public school education and education means and social tide be out of line, also be the main reason that creates issue of school of domestic school distrust, home. The subject that practice teachs outside system also is the parent, not be the dinkum pedagogue that is a career with education truly.
The parent does not know education truly, see education, do education, be attracted easily by concept, view, and cannot be opposite in that way like a pedagogue educational theory system and existing foundation undertake thinking in the round, and the education that its jumping-off place also is him child only, do not have lettered completely to popularize a gender objectively. Teach the popularity of the concept so, be notional go ahead of the rest, of broken up, mechanical and dogmatic, of draw a forced analogy, blind exaggerated. True education is reformed, the truly new education idea, absorption that teachs a concept, understanding, practice can be done only by pedagogue. But be in China, such pedagogue is too little too little. Or is to wearing shackles to dance, or floods the onrush that teachs the market at utility in.
Face the change of this kind of thoughts, teach a system to cannot answer situation and change, businessmen should use demand of this one market naturally to come so that the name seeks profit. The market is with the interest oriented, in earn fame and gain while, be affected further again and model the people understanding to education. And these understanding, nature is peripheral, one-sided, wrong, because its are commercial interest rear. It is the arousal of a kind of consciousness originally, can become those who teach reform to help strength, teach systematic absent because of having however, cannot get due outlet, be used by commerce then, make the tool that earns fame and gain. More bad is, it modelled people to be known to educational mistake, also brought up people to education despise. A large number of Yo of classics running rampant is disparaging result. These Yo be like via looking have some of reason, actually cannot call education completely. (can consult " about parent Yo classics, a few words that must say " " talk again " parent Yo classics " " ) and the tremendous barrier that these are practice of true education reform.
Be worth what carry is, the Chinese is not to contact these new concepts for the first time, in earlier when had contacted, carried out well.
Period of late clear the Republic of China is China change on the history the most acuteness period. The pedagogue that awaits in those days is contacted and manage desorption closed to be with children this educational thought and concept, undertake carrying out, obtain a lot of positive result. What we should notice is, the education that awaits in those days is reformed and carry out, its main body is pedagogue completely, also be able to carry out accordingly, obtain positive result. There is a lot of in them is our accepted educationist.
China shows some environments, public education does not say, the education outside system, if the parent cannot the true bogus dispute of li Puritanism Yo, still do not have the soil of practice.
The parent includes a lot of pedagogue, be mixed easily by all sorts of concepts, concept commercial tide left and right sides, have a deep-seated reason, we lost our tradition.
Each nation has his tradition, this is ethical dignity and self-confident origin. Go up after century middle period, traditional discontinuity, be replaced by new viewpoint of value. Come nearly a few years, as social development, people bring into contact with teachs a concept newly, begin the viewpoint of value that reviews this anew then, abide by no longer, defy even, search an outlet to the west hard at the same time.
However, a kind of any thoughts have the soil that it produces. Educational concept of the west generates on western culture foundation, its successful practice also is to build what go up in western society foundation. Western society weighs an individual, say free, equal, esteem, it is the foundation of the tradition that having the history and society, people also is not each far to the understanding of these concepts the noun is so simple. Tell like the Chinese " benevolence " , tell " excuse me " , tell " justice " , tell " letter " , its are having deep culture and social base rear, it is clear to want to tell not be so easy, hesperian should learn understanding to absorb practice, more not easy. But our lose these precious traditions, this is the foundation that we are able to settle down and get on with this pursuit originally. The foundation was done not have nowadays, we are attracted by these ab extra and new names, view, cannot attend to studies the historical culture of its backside and social foundation, also accordingly cannot very good understanding these nouns, view, also more do not talk to go up carried out. So, freedom became indulgent indulge, tell equal, esteem to ignore principle of morality and justice however, individual of be particular about became selfishness proud, irresponsible, everything with be jumping-off place and a home to return to egoistically. These are very good thought culture originally is alimentary, but if do not have ourselves to be manacled traditionally,change, took shape, turn self into evil common.
The education that emphasizes external condition one-sidedly what psychological, sociology derives is academic, it is this one trend evolve and come. Still have a large number of Yo of classics flush. Its run amuck cannot stem, also be the tradition that we lost ourselves, face strange thing, lost judgement, went miscreant instead self-righteous.
70, 80 this generation from small the education inside the system that accepts become rigid, not to be pooh-poohed thinks, farther aggravate the superstition of theoretical to these argument and implicit. So we often feel, a lot of study pass the person of these new theory, when teaching the child, lost basic feeling of the person, morality it seems that. They are in likely at ordinary times very normal, but once involve the child, education, become machinery, cranky, cannot communicate. Teach the child that come out exceeding selfishness, inhospitality so, know to want to know another person far from, understand another person, cannot produce feeling with other. Such child is increasing. Want to correct special difficulty again. Because affection base of the child is given birth to forcedly,teach did not have, also did not experience other affective experience and consciousness at all.
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Above a variety of reasons, the disorder that causes domestic education and break down. Instantly China, the family is right of the child grow holding dominant action. This makes of this generation child grow to make a person anxious very. This a variety of in the reason, 3 most main reasons, it is the untrustworthy support of public education, 2 be culture tradition is missing, 3 it is the parent what not be clear about domestic education and school education is divisional, not clear family teachs the responsibility that should bear. Be social level, be culture level, it is the individual understanding to education.
What the government also realizes a problem is serious. Domestic education issue is heavy, affected what the school teachs badly to carry out, bring about frequency of domestic school contradiction to go out, trustful disintegrate, care of can of health of child body and mind. Begin planning family school then, those who attempt to reach a school to teach a concept is consistent. Look at present, this needs a lengthy process. Both sides is put in too much and too much problem, needing li Qing Dynasty is not easy, need not talk more reach consistent, partook severally. To prospective viewpoint of value build, the government picks up traditional culture again of purpose it seems that. This is a long way more.
Before if not be,wanting to let everything be returned a few years, no matter the route that should take next so is right still to the government the family is a challenge. Governmental nature is to want to hold a balance on existing foundation. To the family, the first need is clear, it is the responsibility that the family teachs.
The responsibility that the family teachs, simple for, teach the child the adult namely. Specific for, affection, morality, viability, manner, habit, character, the family should give the child these. Is the responsibility that the school teachs what be? Teach the child the become a useful person namely. Look after children understanding world, know oneself, handle the relation of oneself and world, master basic technical ability, broaden the outlook, grow knowledge, abound life, initiate the infinite likelihood of life.
The parent is promiscuous domestic school teachs responsibility, did not do the domestic education that oneself should assume good, a lot of righter however ought the part with school responsible education worries about too much, also cause interference to school education. Be eager to letting child become a useful person, ignored child adult education however. Problem of a lot of school work, responsibility is not in the school, however the child fails to have a good mood, habit, quality. A lot of problems that the child is in the school, also result from the parent lacks education, education on child affection, morality, life. The parent is doting to the child, cast the school with respect to problem of meeting general all these, want the school to include go assuming. The parent sees educational material gain, can undertake censuring disturbing to school education. Domestic school is communicated, the first pace, it is responsibility of education of school of home of Qing Dynasty wanting a unit of monthly interest rate, each bright its duty, ability partakes collaboration, grow for the child together help strength. Dispute of school of distrust of instantly home school, home, it is more very rise because of this.
How should be that parents done?
Above all, make clear the responsibility that him family teachs. Not doting. Put educational focus to child affection, morality, life, the education of manner, habit, character comes up. Want to believe, with on renown school photograph is compared, child affection, morality, viability, the education of manner, habit, character should weigh good much. Without these, the child is in any school, harvest good educational effect impossibly. Had these only, child ability exploits good environment, get growing best. And these, be the family can give the child best education.
And these are need beautiful kongfu. Look be like us to value child education very much, the time that actually we spend truly on child education is very little. Domestic education should do we are done without beautiful kongfu. Ought not to the family does, ourselves just also spends money to move the mouth to look for resource, what make great efforts truly is the school and orgnaization of outside school education. Although look,worrying about every day the child is studying education, actually ourselves is truly on child body spends time is few and few. Not blame another person merely, blame the school, blame educational orgnaization. Had done oneself first. Because oneself are done too not quite really.
Do not want implicit and new concept, more do not want conduct propaganda of market of believe what one hears. Hear old person talk more, older generation is an upright person traditionally working simple idea, 10 thousand do not feel outdated, in you cannot when good understanding carries out new concept, these simple ideas will be the bottom line that you teach, when you face the child not to know how to do, the practice of these old people is reliable absolutely. Hear fine talk more, make more think over. Do not teach the child to be asked for only only, do not pay, do oneself, prevent bad person, should teach the child to do a goodness, integrity first, have sympathize with heart, responsible have the good person that take on. These simple feeling, these is an upright person working main reason, a person's due to the society to other responsibility and pass on, we have, it is them only junior like our youth ideal is same, was cheated by affairs of human life dirt, be listened to go up by those very good noun argument puzzles keep out lives.
Not too utility, do not teach the child only stronger than others, want to teach the child to have deep love for the life, have deep love for the world. Narrow and as dry as a chip the life that can destroy a person. Have more knowledge to world life only, have more passion to world life only, ability has a healthy body and mind, ability has a future of more likelihood, ability has a happy life. Want school of objective look upon to teach, reasonable expression individual appeals to beg. Want to know a schoolteacher attentively, understand a teacher, esteem, cherish, the good teacher beside care. Want to believe, although also have in pedagogic team unqualified, but fulfil one's duty responsible, having the rate of the teacher of good feeling, morality, society of far still outclass is average of the level. Public education has a lot of problems, we want to know, this is not the school on germ especially the fault of teacher of a gleam of. We hope to have calculable public education, hope our child can get teach and be treated weller. And in public education, teacher of good a gleam of, it is educational bottom line, it is the hope that teachs reform more. No matter be for our child, still be for educational future, such teacher, it is to need us esteem, cherish and cherish.
Of issue of very much today education put forward, upgrade, expand, the parent is driven. The pedagogue inside system is wearing shackles to dance, the pedagogue outside system lacks existent soil, educational market has nothing to do good and evil, have an interest only. Only the parent is the freest group, also be the group of the strongest volume. Although group position nots allow hopeful, in ethos tide wrap nip to fall, some back paths are very far, toxic very deep. But if do not save oneself, only collective sinks into. Progress on parent consciousness and understanding, ability is mixed with understanding to the pedagogue inside system prop up, ability gives them with changing courage. Progress on parent consciousness and understanding, ability gives the pedagogue outside system with living soil, to them with practice help strength. Progress on parent consciousness and understanding, ability lets teach the more obverse side is positive effect since the market, and the consciousness that this do one's best measures pair of people and understanding, have powerful change and fictile effect.
The world rise and fall, ordinary man has duty. Education wants reform, want to progress, this is in namely in today below zoology of state religion Yo, the times gifts the parent's responsibility and mission.
